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Question:
Swinggcat,
First of all a massive thanks for these emails - some really great
advice and information I would say is worth the price of your book
alone. I will definitely be purchasing the book soon. It's great to
know you are someone who clearly has done a lot of hard work and
knows his stuff inside out. Makes a pleasant change to the crock of
shi*t out there.
Basically I was seeing this girl for a couple of months who I then
began to really like, unfortunately I turned into a wuss and sent
her cringe-worthy emails, saying how much I liked her, etc. She now
has no attraction towards me at all obviously. The bad thing is she
works in the same building as me so I can't avoid her. So I just
want to know what kind of things I could say to her to show I aint
no wuss, just really would like to know how to undo a lot of sorry
mess I created. I don't really care if I end up back with her or not
(her mate is a lot nicer) but can't have her and her mates thinking
I am weak. Would love to shock them!
Any comments appreciated,
M from UK
Swinggcat responds:
First off, I am glad you are getting a lot out of my newsletters. I
do put a ton of work into creating the very best materials available
for attracting and being successful with women. Many of my
competitors are probably pissed, knowing that I am always raising
the bar of what "excellent" material is.
As good as you feel my newsletters are you need to read my book.
Inside my book you'll discover many understandings and techniques I
don't talk about in newsletters. Put simply, my book will give you a
complete understanding of how to attract and succeed with women.
As for you killing the attraction lobotomy-style, eviscerating the
part of her brain that felt attraction toward you, suck it up! I'm
sure there is a collective "I've been there before too, bro" nod
coming from just about every guy reading this.
You say you don't want her back, yet you want to shock her and her
friends so they DON'T think you are weak. If you continue to think
this way, however, game over, battle lost for you. You'll rise to
the top of the Weak-O-Meter. You've got to change your thinking.
Any plan to shock her and her mates is an attempt to get their
approval and validation - a tragic try at getting them to see and
judge you as strong. Don't feel bad. Just about every guy on the
planet has at some point in his life, similar to you, thought: "If I
could only get her to see me as strong, witty, sexy...and so on,
she'd be attracted to me."
Here is the paradox though: The best crack you can take at getting
her to see you as strong, is to STOP trying to get her to see you as
strong. Seriously...STOP IT!! By caring how she sees and judges you
you're, unknowingly, making her your puppet master, allowing her to
control you by pulling your strings.
If you cease caring about how she judges you, however, there is a
good chance she will perceive you as attractive. But, if she picks
up on even a smidgen of you caring how she judges you, your chances
of her seeing you as attractive are slim to none.
Question:
Dear Swinggcat,
I'm in a messed up situation man. I broke up with my ex. Then did as
you advised (ignored her, went along with my life getting other
chicks) and later found myself making out with her at night in her
room :). But I don't know, I think I messed up again. She started
asking me what to do with a guy she "really likes" who she might
visit in 2 weeks. I tried being making fun of him, said "ha, he
could serve us food while we are on vacation" but that got her more
annoyed and we ended up having a fight. She said she is not
attracted to me unless maybe she is very lonely. We fought, I yelled
and left.
I don't know now...what do we men do when we sort of created
attraction but are being asked advice about other guys?
Thank you Swinggcat,
A from Detroit
Swinggcat responds:
Listen to me my man...move the F on!
You are putting way too much importance on this girl.
Making fun of her boyfriend only works within the context of
genuinely not giving an S what she thinks. But she knows you still
like her. Stop trying to get her approval, man. Move on...this girl
seems twisted and sick in the head. You are better than that.
Comment:
Awesome book dude...I`m a big fan....I had already read a friend's
copy...would like to say that your stuff is well thought out & was a
big investment of your time to put to paper. Well worth the money.
I've read almost every book out there...Yours is in the top 5% of
actual hard core field useful stuff....good work...I'll be inline
when you do a Part 2. This is actionable material...that a guy could
read & do same day.
Thanks
F from California
Swinggcat
Responds:
I'm glad you're getting a lot of use out of my book - that gives me
a real thrill. If you liked the book you'll be blown away by the
soon-to-be released audio course.
Question:
Hey Swinggcat,
I got your book which I think is great. I especially liked the part
where you said to a girl that since she wasn't bi-sexual, the
relationship wouldn't work out because she'd bring ugly girls home.
I laughed for 10 min about that one. I really like that you assign
homework in your book which gives a goal that I feel that I have to
meet, instead of just reading through a book and then saying 'ok,
now what?'
Awhile ago I met this girl and ever since I've been teasing her,
being funny and flirtatious. At one point she called me out and said
that I had flirted with her since the day I met her which just
proves how good girls are at picking up on that stuff (I was
honestly just being myself and not trying to 'hit on her'). But she
picked up on the flirting instantly.
There have been several times now where I could have hooked up with
her but I choose not to because I can wait and because I can
literally feel the sexual tension building, which I know is a good
thing. Last night after she left my place she sent me an instant
message which goes like this:
Her: why are you so shy?
ME: why do you want to know?
Her: you are more mysterious than i am...and it drives me insane
ME: good, my plan is working then
Her: haha, honestly, i'm curious
Her: i feel like u are afraid to talk to me
Her: BUT you intrigue the hell out of me...so i cant stop talking to
you
ME: i'm not afraid to talk to you
Her: im going to break your shell
Her: and i did not mean that sexually
ME: well yeah, cause that shell's already broken
Her: lol
Her: fine, no pulling teeth tonight
ME: well good cause I need my teeth to eat
Her: im mad that i actually laughed out loud to that
Her: but i will find out your secret
she then tells me that she can't figure out why i haven't made a
move on her yet, but that she's absolutely intrigued and can't get
enough of it. and that she hates talking online cause she wants a
serious answer. which from reading your material and other stuff
like it i know not to give her. so my question is, now that i've got
this sexual tension built up, do i keep going with it? or do i 'make
a move'?
i'm not so concerned about this situation in particular. i just want
to know in general is it better to keep building the tension until
she is so frustrated/intrigued that she'll make the first move? or
is it better to take the lead and make a move on my terms?
thanks
H from Philly
Swinggcat Responds:
First off: Great job for the work you did thus far. I'd, though, get
physical with her ASAP. I'm all for building tension, but if you let
too much time elapse, things will fizzle out.
Sometimes I don't give women direct answers; other times I do. It
really depends on the context. But, even if I tell a woman a lot
about me, I'm always careful to leave something incomplete, making
her come back for more.
Many times - not always - a woman accusing a man she's flirting with
of being shy or gay is a sign that she is interested but feels he
isn't giving her back any salient signs of interest.
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