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Hey Guys,
I want to share with you something that might irrevocably change how
you interact with women from this point forward. This is probably the
most important newsletter I have written to date. Not knowing what I’m
about to share with you could lead to your erection going on life
support. Most men will end up on their deathbeds oblivious to the
knowledge I am going to tell you, preventing them from ever reaching
their full potential with women.
As you reflect on what I’m about to tell you, it will become obvious
to you why knowing these secrets is crucial to succeeding with women.
What might be less obvious is how these secrets will also improve many
other areas of your life.
Before I jump into the heart of the matter, I’m going to lay the
groundwork by telling you about a man who recently sought my advice.
His problem was that women usually lost interest in him, despite his
good looks, money, and intelligence. Many of these women started off
feeling tons of attraction towards him but then, out of nowhere, as if
hypnotized, became repulsed by him.
I dug deeper, asking him to break down exactly what happened with
these women. What I discovered, in a nutshell, was that every time one
of these women acted moody or got upset, he interpreted it as them
signaling him to fill some sort of “emotional” need in them. Then,
like a good little worker bee, he’d try to fill their need by becoming
their emotional punching bag. This, alas, ensued in women acting
listless and aloof, and feeling less than an iota of ATTRACTION
towards him.
What was going on? Why did catering to their every emotional whim make
them less attracted to him? This doesn’t make any sense – or does it?
This guy’s model of the world blinded him from seeing a big part of
the picture – namely that women test men all the time. This is their
nature. They can’t help it; it’s how they’re wired. Does this make
women deranged, malevolent creatures for testing us men?
You’re welcome to believe so. If you want, stop interacting with women
all together. You could always, courtesy of your kitchen microwave,
get jiggy with a radiated banana peel. Let’s not rule out internet
chat rooms, chock full of creeps posing as fourteen year old school
girls. If you think crusty old FBI agents make sexy cyber babes, go
ahead. Eat your heart out. To each to their own.
For me, however, I like the real thing. I’m guessing you do to.
Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this. Hating women or trying to
live without them, I think we can both agree, are not viable solutions
to dealing with the lurid truth: WOMEN TEST MEN.
A healthier attitude, instead, is to love and enjoy women for all
their great qualities, while being vigilant of and learning to deal
with their tests. Know the nature of the beast, and learn to deal with
it.
So this begs the question: What is a test?
A test, put simply, is anytime a woman adversely judges you. All tests
fall into one of the following three categories.
Category # 1: Intentional Testing
Some women will do or say something as an attempt to bait men into
reacting to them. The purpose of this is to find out if a man has a
strong reality and identity and to discover if he really is a PRIZE to
be won over (Hint: Women are ATTRACTED to men with a strong reality
and identity who are the PRIZE. The biggest part of being the PRIZE,
believe it or not, is believing that you are the PRIZE).
These Intentional Tests can range from women momentarily ignoring a
man, to teasing him about a flaw he has, to purposely making him
jealous, to throwing violent temper tantrums…and so on.
Does it always mean that when a woman displays these behaviors, she is
“Intentionally Testing” you? Not at all. There are times when these
behaviors are not “Intentional Tests.” Oftentimes though, especially
when first meeting a guy, these behaviors are attempts to bait him
into reacting to her. So use your own discretion. If, however, you get
that gut feeling that she’s baiting you, then my friend, you’re
probably right. In this case, don’t drink the figurative hemlock!
Don’t slurp down the proverbial Kool-aid! Don’t, for the love of God,
take the bait by reacting to her! Reacting demonstrates your lack of
conviction in yourself, your reality, and belief that you are the
PRIZE, killing any ATTRACTION that was there.
There is a specific kind of Intentional Testing where it is crucial
for you to take the bait and then give it back to her. This is
something many guys neglect. In an upcoming product, I go into great
depth explaining when and how to do this. Perhaps I’ll do a newsletter
on it in the near future.
Category # 2: Unintentional
Testing
Even if what a woman says and does are not “Intentional Tests,”
don’t think your reactions to them won’t be judged by her – they
will! Imagine, for example, a woman who has two conflicting
emotional needs within her: One, an insatiable desire to be
validated for her beauty; the other, a yearning for the emotional
rush of chasing a man who is the PRIZE. Imagine, furthermore, that
she tries to bait you into validating her by saying, “Am I ugly?” If
you validate her completely by telling her how beautiful she is and
how much you want her, before you have established yourself as the
PRIZE and gotten her chasing you, she’ll be apt to emotionally judge
you as the guy who validates her beauty, not the guy she wants to
sleep with.
I am not saying that you should not
validate her. Just make sure you do it within the context of being
the PRIZE, and having a strong reality and identity. And don’t give
her so much validation that she is satisfied. Give her, instead,
just enough to keep her wanting, reaching, and chasing you for more
of it. Maybe, for example, validate her but make her work for it.
Category # 3: Setting Yourself Up To
Be Judged By Women
Oddly enough, this is a form of testing. It is different from the other
two categories in that a woman is not judging your reaction to her.
This category, instead, relates to displaying adverse characteristics
about yourself to women, conveying that you are not the PRIZE: Think
needy, jealous, and insecure. When you act this way around women, you
are setting yourself up to be adversely judged by women and, thus, are
being tested.
A few guys I know think women are “Intentionally Testing” them, when,
unknowingly, they are setting themselves up to be adversely judged.
Is there a common theme to all of the Intentional Tests you get from
women? If there is, you might want to reevaluate these Intentional
Tests: Were they really Intentional Tests or were you just setting
yourself up to be adversely judged by women?
If you feel that you have been setting yourself up you may want to
evaluate your behaviors, actions, the emotions you’re feeling, and the
vibe you are giving off when interacting with women.
Oftentimes, however, the more a man conveys to a woman that he has a
strong identity and reality, and that he is the PRIZE, the more she will
“Intentionally Test” him, trying to ascertain if he genuinely possesses
these characteristics.
Therefore, setting yourself up to be Intentionally Tested by women is
usually a good thing; while setting yourself up to be adversely judged
by women is usually a bad thing!
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