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WHAT THEY SAY:
“Where are the male love doctors on talk radio and TV?” “Where are the
role models and mentors?” “Where are the guys helping the guys?” The Dating Dictionary is a culmination of my lifetime study, made up of 30 years of informal interviews and observations of females' wants and needs in romantic relationships. My invention, which is called “The System," is a politically incorrect and sarcastic look at the mating dance in America. It deals with love, dating, and the reasons why a woman stays with one man over another. “The System” is based on how things actually are, not someone's hypothesis. It shows a man what he is doing right, what he is doing wrong, and helps him correct his errors. From meeting Miss Right and keeping her, to staying out of divorce court, “The System” is formulated from a layman’s viewpoint, someone who has been in the trenches. “The System” is also an organization of principles that women respond to positively. If you have the patience and will to improve your life, and can set your ego aside, this book is your earthly salvation when it comes to romantic relationships. Doc Love is not trying to make a phony or an actor out of you. What I am doing is coaching you to get rid of the rough edges that perhaps you are -- or are not -- aware of. I have taught seminars for eight years, and have made over 300 speeches. I can’t tell you how many times men have come up to me and said, “Doc, I had feelings about this stuff, but never believed it." “The System” says “Now you can now believe it.” But if you think you can read this book once and put in no hard work, read no more. “The System” is simple to “get” and tough to implement. Let me give you an analogy. You go to 10 karate studios and nine instructors say, “You can be like Jackie Chan if you attend a class a week for three months.” The tenth instructor says, “Come to three classes a week and practice on your own for two hours a day for seven years -- then you’ll have earned your black belt.” I believe that men have never been taught, or guided, in the fine art of approaching and handling relationships. The problems in relationships today cannot be overestimated, and men come out on the short end of the stick most of the time. I realize this is not the current (popular) viewpoint, which, besides helping men, is a principal reason for the existence of this book. “The System” is not a guide to bedroom gymnastics or a misogynist’s rant against "those inscrutable b s.” It is, instead, a guide to the proper behavior for men, so that both partners in a relationship -- especially the woman -- will remain in love. In these pages you’ll find any game that bad women play and every mistake that misguided men make. If you men (and women) are thick-skinned and can laugh at yourselves, I know you’ll enjoy this material. Why? Because you’re all in here, at least a little bit. I am not into revenge like the Feministas. I want the war between men and women to end, and I know that humor is the best vehicle for change. That’s why I want you to laugh at yourself. I also want women to empathize with what men go through, from asking Miss Right for her phone number to facing rejection in divorce court. It’s time for men to take control of their love lives and avoid unnecessary pain. “The System” is the only vehicle that works and accomplishes that task. I have interviewed over 10,000 women in the past 35 years and have always been amazed by how quickly a woman will open up to me -- especially when I don't have a tape recorder. Both women and men talk and act differently if they’re being recorded, so I carried -- and filled out (immediately after each interview) -- thousands of 3 by 5 cards to invent “The System.” Therapists only interview people mired in painful relationships. Doc Love interviewed men and women in the broad spectrum of relationships, from the healthy (happy) to the painful and miserable. My interviewing skills improved with time, and I noticed I could get a completely different (usually opposite) answer to a question within five minutes of the initial response most of the time. Listen carefully: Question: “Caprice, who is the boss -- you or Tom?” Answer: “It’s 50 50.” Question: “Does he ever get his way?” Answer: “Sometimes.” Question: “How often?” Answer: “Not very.” Question: “When was the last time Tom stood his ground and you gave in?” Answer: “Oh, it happens all the time.” Question: “When?” Answer: “Give me a minute, and I know I can come up with the last time I gave in....” Question: “Caprice, would you like Tom more if he stood up to you once in a while?” Answer: (Sheepishly) “Well, yea, sorta.” The main problem with men is not that they dominate, but that they are dominated. All the talk shows, all the articles in the women’s magazines, and all the self help books try, ironically, to empower women when they already have the upper hand. When it comes to the “war between the sexes,” men have BB guns while women have F 16s. Women don’t need Sam missiles; men do. If you are a (clinically) sane woman, you can use this material to gauge the success of your relationships. As for you men, you have work to do -- the party is over! But you will see the light. Study the terms on the Truth Triangle preceding the table of Contents. If you have a problem in a relationship, something is missing from the triangle. It is either you or her, or both of you together who are not holding up your ends of the relationship. Get familiar with the basics. It is this Triangle that you will refer to when times get rough. I guarantee they will! At the apex of the triangle, the Reality Factor states that men have a tendency not to face reality when it comes to dealing with Miss Right. The Bottom Line Factor says that only her actions truly reflect her feelings and attitude toward you. And the female’s Interest Level, not the man’s, is the most important factor of all because she has to like you first, or nothing starts in the first place. There are three (major) Male Traits the female responds to positively. You must have them, if the female is to fall, and stay in love with you. They are Confidence: made up of Self Confidence and Self Esteem; Control: made up of Discipline, Patience and Self Control; and Challenge -- which no one talks about -- and which makes her chase you. Challenge is one third of what a man has to offer, and the experts have no idea what it is, much less how important it is to a romantic relationship. The three major Female Trait qualities that men should be aware of and look for in a long term mate are: Integrity, made up of Loyalty, Trust, and Honesty; Giving; and Flexibility. The maintenance program, which is what you are going to carry out in order to keep her, consists of Respect, Affection, and Romance. I find it ironic that women understand men (yes, they do!), yet buy all the self help books. The vast majority of men don’t understand women, yet men buy no self help books! In our defense, all the self-help books are written from a woman’s perspective. When you start teaching your buddies and adding to “The System,” you’ll know you have it down. So -- here are your first two war stories. Use them as a tool to learn. Tom calls Caprice to go out on Wednesday night. Caprice says, “I don’t go out on week nights.” In the bad old days Tom would have gotten flustered and said, “How about Saturday?” But not the “new” Tom -- the guy with “The System.” He checks his trusty Truth Triangle and says to himself, “She has low Interest Level, because I know now that when a girl likes you she accepts or counters with another (date) day.” Or she may refuse if she has high Interest Level and is inflexible (“What’s the big deal about weekdays?”). The “new” Tom knows not to go out with someone who has low Interest Level or a bad attitude. He says politely to Caprice, “It’s my only open night,” changes the subject, talks for a minute (positively), and says, “Good night.” He walks into his bathroom, flushes the number, and sings out, “Adios, baby!” Isn't that easy? Isn’t it better than spending $100 on three dates before realizing she was trouble?! Tom knows he is getting closer to the “real one.” With “The System” on his side, he knows not to waste his time and money on someone who doesn’t realize that he is the answer to all her romantic dreams. Tom is at a club and sits down at the bar next to a woman. He knows enough to let her look over and talk first. Why? Because he is gauging her Interest Level. If she is interested, she will find an excuse to talk. If she does, he will ask for her phone number before her drink is finished and get out of there. Why? Because women love mystery. Most guys would try to buy her drinks all night, then watch her leave first after draining his wallet -- but not the “new” Tom. His goal is to get phone numbers, not buy drinks for strangers. Guess what guys? This info just paid for itself! WHAT WE FOUND: Using real experiences and real examples The System, as invented by Doc Love, will not only help you to always be prepared when you are entering new relationships, it will better prepare you for maintaining relationships and increasing your self-confidence and becoming the valuable catch that you always knew you could be. Learn how to measure The Test when it is applied to you by any woman you meet and how to gauge their reactions to your answers. For more information about The System by Doc Love be sure to read his weekly articles at aLoveLinksPlus.com. We have published Doc Love's weekly articles for more than 3 years and have always found his advice to be very easily understood and acted upon, as well as helpful and considerate to men in making relationship choices. SPECIAL FEATURES: The system includes The Dating Dictionary Book and two audio tapes, The Interview Tape and The Speech Tape. Shipped to you in a plain brown envelope, no one ever need know about your new found power and self-confidence. |
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