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Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
"Do you know what the opposite of trust is? It’s treason. There’s
no working this out with her. It’s already all been worked out, and
she’s out!"
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Hey Doc,
I'm 26 years old, and my “fiancée” is 22. Before me, she was in a
three-year relationship with this guy, and he was also the one that took
her virginity away. We’ve been together for 10 months, and it’s been
great but moving awfully fast. Like I said, she’s my “fiancée.”
The problem happened about a month ago, and I don't know what to do. She
cheated on me with him, but I just found out the whole truth yesterday.
When I asked her why she did it, she told me that she loves me AND she
loves him, and at that time, she didn’t know what she wanted and was
unhappy. She broke down yesterday and told me the whole truth because I
think she just found out that he was manipulating her and basically just
wanted to hurt her.
We talked for hours and hours last night about this, and all she could
say was that she was sorry. I asked her: “How could I ever trust that
you won’t do this to me again?” She replied that my telling her that
hurts her so much, and she’s now learned from all this.
Doc, I feel like I'm being pulled in two different directions right now.
One way is to say "Good-Bye;" the other is to try to work this out with
her and have her earn her trust back with me. But I don't know if I
could honestly trust her again. What I do know is that I love her
dearly, but I don't want to get hurt like this again. What are your
opinions on this topic?
Alonzo – who wants to know if he can trust her again
Hi Alonzo,
You’re asking me if you can ever trust her again? As my cousin, Fast
Eddie Love would say, “Would you take a check at a crap game?” Think
about it, dude. While she was engaged to you, your girl was doin’ the
guy who first initiated her into physical intimacy. Yikes! The hard,
cold truth is that she’s disqualified herself as wife material or even
part time girlfriend material for that matter. Any trust that you might
have built with this gal has gone the way of the buffalo.
When you say that the relationship has been “great, but moving awfully
fast,” it sounds as if you were edgy about the prospect of tying the
knot with this hussy to begin with. Perhaps, out of her insecurity she
pressured you into the engagement? Regardless, even if she hadn’t
betrayed you, it’s obvious that she’s not mature enough to handle being
in a long-term committed relationship.
Additionally, there’s a problem with young chicks in general that the
‘women as victims/political correctness advocates’ never mention. Young
women who are about 18-22 years of age need to “feel their oats” just
like young guys do. Settling down to “till death do us part” with a 22
year woman is a high-risk proposition. It’s too easy to wind up with a
monthly alimony and child-support bill.
I know that you’re wounded and you’re in pain, my brother, and it’s
hurts even more to face reality, but you need to understand why this
movie is over. Do you know what the opposite of trust is? It’s treason.
As my Uncle, Jethro Love would say, “She sold you out, boy. And you’re
thinkin’ about takin’ her back? How you gonna look in the mirror every
morning? What’ll you do when she goes out shopping and then comes home
two hours late? What’ll happen to your comfort level then, boy?”
Another thing that ticks me off about this broad is that when you asked
her a totally legitimate question: “How could I ever trust that you
won’t do this to me again?” she then told you that you were hurting her
by asking her that. Well, she was just letting you know that it’s really
YOU who’s the bad guy here! Man oh man. She’s got cojones the size of
avocados.
Rather than listening to her, Alonzo, you should be listening to your
gut, and your gut is telling you that you can’t bet on this pony. If her
“first love” hadn’t dumped her, your two-faced traitor of a girlfriend
would still be workin’ both of you, and you’d still be clueless. There’s
no “working this out with her” Alonzo. It’s already all been worked out
– and she’s out!
Remember, guys, if she strays, she pays.
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