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"Do you know what the opposite of trust is? It’s treason. There’s
no working this out with her. It’s already all been worked out, and
she’s out!"
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Hey Doc,
I just wanted to say thank you for what “The System” has done for me.
I've only had the program for a couple of months and I'm still learning,
but I'm already noticing some definite changes, not only in the way
women are reacting to me, but more importantly in the way I'm acting
towards women.
I say this as a recovering "nice guy," at least with the girls I really
liked. After learning about your principles, I discovered that I behaved
differently with girls that I didn't feel as strongly for and that
that’s why they were so much more into me. Common sense, yes, but it's
amazing what you can overlook in your own behavior.
Anyway, I have a quick question. I'm a college student; and while your
dating strategies are readily applicable to girls I meet in most
circumstances, I can't quite get my head around how to apply it to girls
I meet in class. How do I go about approaching a girl in that situation?
The standard rules of meeting, talking, getting the digits, and leaving
first don't really apply, nor does waiting a week to call. If I get her
number in class, even if it's the last day of class that week, I will
probably see her again a couple of days later. And I don't think it
would be effective to avoid/ignore her in class, then call her up and
act like I hadn't seen her. Could you please throw me a bone Doc?
Thanks again.
Rocky – who needs specialized coaching for guys in college
Hi, Rocky
As you know, I always instruct you guys to ask for the home phone number
of any girl you’ve just met and are interested in. No hesitation. No
apologies. This is done as a test of the woman’s Interest Level in you.
It’s done to demonstrate to her that you are a confident guy who means
business. It’s done to impress her with your directness. And…it’s also
done because, in most cases, you will never see her again if you don’t
get her number before you part company with her.
But, the classroom environment does present a specialized situation
where we can creatively modify the ‘closing’ process. A particular woman
whom you meet in your history class, for instance, might possibly drop
the class or drop out of school entirely before you get her number if
you fail to act quickly. But odds are that that won’t happen.
Let’s assume, for educational purposes, that 99% of the attendees of a
particular class will make it through the entire semester. That means
that for all intents and purposes, you have what a Marine Drill
Instructor has in his group of recruits: a captive audience. And when
you have a captive audience, you should use the situation to your
advantage, or as they say on the hip-hop dance floor, “You got to work
it, Baby!”
So, Rocky, let’s say that there are a couple of different babes in your
philosophy class that you have the hots for. Don’t hit on them. Don’t
come on to them. Don’t even talk to them. Instead, do all you can to be
highly visible in the class. Ask really intelligent and interesting
questions and, if you have a knack for it, make clever, humorous
comments that make the whole class crack up. Soon, every girl in the
class will be impressed by you and also curious about you. To you Psych
majors, you gotta stand out.
As the power of your persona gains momentum and magnetism, everyone will
want to know you better. Then, using your popularity, take every
opportunity you have, before and after class, to make sure that the two
girls that you like see how much the other girls in the class love to
talk and laugh with you. All the while, continue to ignore the two that
you’re hot for. This will really make you Mr. Interesting in their eyes.
If you follow this plan of action to the best of your abilities, one or
both of the girls that you’re interested in should approach you and
initiate interaction with you within a few weeks or less.
Once one of them demonstrates some authentic interest in you and gives
you some obvious Buying Signals, then close her for her home phone
number. Also make sure to end the conversation first and move on. Either
go and talk with some other girl or take a seat or leave the room if
class is over. Yes, Rocky, you still leave first, whatever form of
‘leaving’ you can create in that environment.
You will then, as always, wait a week, Rocky, before you call your love
interest and ask her out. As my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love would say,
“All the idiots call within 48 hours.”
Now here’s a powerful concept to shatter all your fear and confusion
about seeing her again before you call her. It is simply this: when you
run into her again, before you’ve called her, don’t put ANY pressure on
yourself to excuse your lack of communication. Relax. Chill out. Be
cool. Don’t get all antsy and embarrassed. Realize that any discomfort
you feel is self-inflicted. It’s totally ok if she sees you again before
you call her. Let her see you four or five times before you call. No big
deal.
Don’t be afraid that she’s going to think that you’ve rejected her. Why
not? Because if she does think that, then it’s only going to raise her
Interest Level and make her extra co-operative when you do call her and
ask her out. And once again, when you finally do call, make no excuses
or explanations. Just make a date and then get off the phone. Badda bing
badda boom.
And here’s another thought to help you appreciate why waiting a week to
call is the right thing to do, even though you may run into her more
than once in the interim. You can be certain that no other fellow has
ever played it so cool with her and this will work to your advantage.
She’ll be thinking, “Gee, every other guy from my classes that I’ve
given my number to has called me the next day. What’s this Rocky guy’s
story? Hmm, I’m intrigued. I think I’ll have to raise my Interest Level
in him.”
As for the other gal that you’re working on, if the weeks keep going by
and she just doesn’t make a move to connect with you, then go on ahead
and take the initiative. The idea, Rocky, is that in this specialized
situation, you bide your time and give her an abundance of opportunities
to close you, but you most ultimately do the closing if she doesn’t.
Remember, guys: always ask for the home phone number and always wait a
week to call.
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