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 Doc
Love - Success Coach For Men
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
"Yes, in almost all circumstances, when we first get a girl’s phone
number we do wait a week before we call her. But this situation you find
yourself in is unusual and requires an unusual step."
Doc Love's Books:
Hey Doc,
I met this cute girl, Cindy, at a party last week. We hit it off right
away. She was touching me a whole bunch and I got her home phone number.
She also asked me for my phone number so I gave it to her. I knew from
reading your articles, Doc, that it’s ok to give a girl your phone
number but ONLY if she’s already given you hers, and this girl actually
gave me hers before I even asked for it. It was totally obvious that she
had very high Interest in me and my Interest Level in her was real high
too.
So even though I was dying to call her the next day, I didn’t. I was all
set to wait a week to contact her, according to your “System”, but when
I came home the night after I met her, there was a message on my service
from her, asking me if I’d like to go out “for lunch or dinner or
something.” Yes, that’s right. She called me the next day and asked me
out! I’ve never had that happen before.
So now I’m not sure what to do. Should I stick to the plan and wait till
a week has gone by to call her, or should I return her call right away?
I feel like calling her right back but I’m committed to doing the right
thing according to your principles, Doc. Since I’ve been studying your
materials I’ve realized how many chances I’ve blown with women by being
too eager and I don’t want to blow it any more.
So, Doc, what should I do?
Dale – who needs an answer right away
Dear Dale,
Congratulations. You’ve got a live one there! This girl’s giving you
more buying signals than a shop-aholic with a new gold card. As my
cousin Sal “The Fish” Love would say, “When they dig you, they let you
know it.”
Yes, you my brother, Dale, have experienced those rare phenomena that
only takes place when the Moon is in the seventh house and Jupiter
aligns with Mars. That quite uncommon occurrence -- a woman calling a
guy and asking him out. Isn’t it a trip? Isn’t it refreshing? Yep, you
gotta love it.
And I commend you, Dale, on you dedication to doing whatever it takes to
change your love life for the better. You’re a great role model for all
students of “The System”.
So let’s get you straightened out here. Yes, in almost all
circumstances, when we first get a girl’s phone number, we do wait a
week before we call her. But this situation you find yourself in, Dale,
is unusual, and you can’t just be a robot who follows only one
programming command. Part of becoming a “Three Percenter” (one of the
three percent of men who have true mastery with women) involves learning
when and when not to improvise and bend the rules. In this case we’re
going to take a left turn.
What you should do is wait only one more day and then call Cindy back
and make a date with her. Why am I saying that it’s OK to do that? The
big thing here is that she’s coming at you. As they say in the trenches,
it’s “Incoming”. She’s taken a risk and allowed herself to be vulnerable
so it’s appropriate to meet her halfway.
We don’t want you to be like one of those “Rules Girls” who refuse to
return a man’s call because they want him to grovel before they’ll go
out with him. It’ good policy to always be courteous. But don’t worry.
You’re still going to be a Challenge, Dale, because when you call Cindy,
you’re not going to spend a half hour chatting with her, diminishing
your mystery quotient. Most guys would do that, but you’re going to be
different.
Instead, you’ll say “Hi, hello, how ya doin?” and then go for the
jugular and make a date with her, badda bing badda boom. When you do
that, you’re being direct and decisive, and women love that. So go
ahead, Dale, and dial those digits.
Remember, guys: you gotta know when to follow the rules, and when to
bend them. |
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