Don Diebel's "Get Girls"
This Article: Why you should always be yourself when dating single women.
I need to caution you about putting on an act when you're on your first few dates with single women. What I mean by this is pretending to be someone you are not. And doing things that are not your true nature.
For instance, while on dates you are very romantic, caring, a good listener, love to laugh, complimentary, love doing different things on a date, etc.
All these things you are pretending to be really turn her on and she falls for the person you are pretending to be, not the real you.
So after you feel comfortable that you have hooked her, you revert back to being your true self:
- Not romantic anymore.
- Ignore her when she's talking.
- Compliments are few and far between.
- You don't laugh as much when she says something funny because before you were only pretending to laugh.
-You prefer staying in instead of going out all the time because you are truly a couch potato.
When she is exposed to the true you, she is going to be inclined to lose interest in you. She was crazy about the guy you were pretending to be.
So, do you see my point now? It's much better and fairer to your date to be yourself. Don't put on a phony act pretending to be someone you are not. If you do, you're going to have to maintain this phony image long-term because when the real you emerges, you may lose her or your relationship with her will be difficult.
Why You Must be Very Selective in Choosing a Mate
Let me give you some valuable advice about problem relationships and marriage. If you ever get involved in a incompatible relationship where all you do is fuss and fight, break up several times, and the whole relationship is nothing but one big emotional roller coaster, and you think that if you get married things will get better and you will be able to work things out you're making a big mistake!
Trust me, I know from experience that things will only get worse! When
you start living together on a permanent basis all these problems will
only get worse. And don't ever think that you can change her ways once
you get married. You can't change a person.
You have to accept them as they are or just move on.
I don't mean to scare you about the institution of marriage.
It's a wonderful experience if you choose the right partner.
If you don't, your life can be a living hell. Please, please, please take marriage very seriously. Don't go into a marriage thinking that if it does not work out, I'll just get a divorce.
Divorce leaves emotional scars and if there are children involved, it really makes it difficult.
So, to wrap things up, I just want you to be selective in your choice for a lifetime mate. If you are incompatible and it's a very stormy relationship you may be making a big mistake by marrying her.
Don Diebel is one of the nation's leading experts on dating and relationships, has been a guest speaker on several TV and radio shows, featured in print interviews, dating consultant, and has helped thousands of men win at the game of love with his phenomenal best-sellers, "How to Pick Up Women in Discos," "The Complete Guide to Meeting Women," "100 Places to Take a Date," The Houston Entertainment and Dating Guide," "How to Pick Up Topless Dancers" and "1001 Best Pick-Up Lines."
Also, Don Diebel is President and owner of Gemini Publishing Co., which specializes in books, cassettes, and videos on how to succeed with women since 1978.
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