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 Don
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Let's talk
about love.
It's one of the most
wonderful experiences on earth. It has its positives and its negatives
and it's not all roses sometimes.
I want to give you some advice about love and how to handle love.
Let's get one misconception about love out of the way first of all.
Don't fall into the trap thinking that love will solve all your problems
and make your life perfect. And don't get into the rut of thinking that
your life is incomplete without love and you must be involved in a
relationship to be happy. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Some guys make the mistake of thinking that being single is terrible and
being in a relationship is the only way to feel complete and happy. This
is just not true. You can be just as happy single as you can being
coupled. It's entirely up to you!
Some more love advice is to not look at love through rose-colored
glasses thinking a good relationship is only characterized by walks
along the beach, gazing into each other's eyes, wild and intense sex all
the time, holding hands all the time, romantic dinners, kissing all the
time, etc.
What I'm trying to say is to not get too worked up and overly romantic
about love. If you do, you could be in for a rude awakening about love
when it does finally come your way. You see, all this heavy romance in
the soap operas and movies. Well my friend, in real life it's just not
that way most of the time.
After the initial infatuation wears off, then the reality of love sets
in. Things aren't as intense and once you get to know each other, your
faults and bad habits come out. And of course, you now have to work at
maintaining your relationship. You have to keep the fires burning so to
speak. During the infatuation stage things happened so naturally and you
were in another world. Now, you have to put in a lot of effort to keep
that love strong.
In closing, love is what makes the world go around. Cherish it when it
comes around and while it lasts. If it doesn't last, then bury it in
your past and move on. I'm a firm believer in this statement: "It is
better to have loved and lost at love than to have never loved at all."
Memorize this statement and make it your own personal creed.
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ARTICLE FROM THE "TIP OF THE WEEK" ARCHIVE
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How to Tell if a Single Woman You Are
Pursuing is Interested in You
This week I want to discuss - How to Tell if
a Single Woman You Are Pursuing is Interested in You:
The Cardinal Rule of Life - "Never stay where you are not appreciated."
This applies to all phases of life - jobs, sports, and social activities
- but it especially applies to dealing with single women.
If a girl is not interested in you, then that is that. Nothing you can
do is going to change it. Don't waste time with people who aren't into
you. Even if she looks like the girl of your dreams, it will lead
nowhere so move on. By hanging around this girl, you portray an image to
her and everyone else that you are a person who is found unattractive by
women. And worse, you are used to it. After all, if you had other women
who were attracted to you why would you be hanging around her?
When are you not being appreciated? When you are the only one putting
energy into the relationship. You are the glue holding the whole thing
together. She is neither showing nor giving any effort or energy towards
being with you. She's not making herself available to get together. She
lacks enthusiasm. In sum, when trying to get something to develop is a
struggle.
If you experience these symptoms and recognize the lack of "magic"
present when two people are mutually interested, don't try any remedies
- just leave. Don't make a speech, or a scene, or an issue.
Simply bow out gracefully and pursue girls who are interested in you.
You will be doing yourself and everyone else a big favor.
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Don Diebel is one of the nation's leading experts on dating and relationships,
has been a guest speaker on several TV and radio shows, featured in print interviews, dating consultant,
and has helped thousands of men win at the game of love with his phenomenal best-sellers, "How to Pick Up Women in Discos," "The
Complete Guide to Meeting Women," "100 Places to Take a Date," The Houston Entertainment and Dating
Guide," "How to Pick Up Topless Dancers" and "1001 Best Pick-Up Lines."
Also, Don Diebel is President and owner of Gemini Publishing Co., which specializes in books, cassettes, and videos on how to succeed with
women since 1978.
Copyright 2003-2007 by Gemini Publishing Co. All Rights Reserved http://www.getgirls.com
Don Diebel, publisher
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