How to Attract Single Women Running Personal Ads
Here's a letter I used to respond to personal ads to
successfully meet and attract women like crazy:
This letter is in response to your recent "personal" ad. Your ad really
captured my attention and you sound like someone I would like to really
like to get to know better. In order for you to get to know me better,
here's a little bit about myself:
I am a single financially secure businessman, 1947 model, low mileage,
and high performance. Bumped a few times, but never wrecked. Proven
ability to hug the road and not wander off course. Exterior in mint
condition, warm, affectionate, sensitive interior, never soiled. Factory
equipped package includes stereo, humor, depth, imagination and
intelligence. Radio picks up all kinds of rock and classical. Spacious
seats with plenty of room for passenger...runs on high-octane fun and
romance, lifetime supply included.
Available for inspection by female drivers only, prefer affectionate
woman, no dependents, eye-catching exterior, self-confident,
intelligent, warm, sincere with sense of humor and full set of tools.
I come from a close solid family, would like to have little Toyotas some
day. Equipped with nice endowment. Only driven once a week by little old
lady to/from church. To arrange test drive, please write or call me at
802-484-2425 (anytime). HAPPY MOTORING!
P.S. Feel free to modify this letter to use for yourself. Try it...it
works like crazy!
When writing my first book, which was on how
to pick up women in nightclubs, I interviewed over 100 single women in
nightclubs and asked them this question: "What kind of man turns you on
in a nightclub?" Here are some of their responses, which tells you what
they like in a man and what you should be doing to attract them:
Robin - "A neat dresser, nice-looking, a man that treats me with
Kerry - "A very well-dressed man and has very good manners."
Erika - "Good-looking, a good dancer, dressed nice, and has good
Valerie - "A man that lets you know you are wanted. He tries his best to
make you happy. He acts like a gentleman. Good dancer." Paula - "A shy,
not too direct guy, but he knows what he's doing."
Susan - "A well-mannered, well-dressed man. A man that doesn't ask too
Gail - "One with a gentlemen's approach, perhaps to ask for a dance and
then later offering to buy me a drink. Certainly not a man who has
already had one to many."
Debbie - "Good-looking guy with a good personality."
Erin - "A sophisticated man with a lot of class and money."
Sandra - "A congenial man (no stud). He knows he's good-looking and
doesn't have to fish for compliments. No fatty, I like a nice body."
Karen - "I like tall men and I like a couple of buttons unbuttoned on
his shirt. Shape of man important - not fat, but not too skinny. I like
a man with neat-looking hair, not too long or too short."
Kim - "A guy that likes to dance, a good conversationalist, and a neat
Nicole - "A guy that acts natural. He doesn't come on with a bunch of
lines. He just acts like himself and doesn't try to put up a big front."
Barbara - "A good-looking man that's a sharp dresser. A plain-looking
guy is OK too, if he has a pleasing personality."
Nancy - "Easy to get along with, physically attractive, and a good
Natalie - "A guy that's real friendly with a warm personality.
Personality more important than looks."
Gayle - "Someone with a pretty good personality. Someone that seems
sincere and honest."
Peggy - "Nice-looking, can dance good, and intelligent."
Teresa - "A nice, friendly man. Talkative and shows interest in me and
gives me a lot of attention. Looks aren't important."
Why You Should Run a Personal Ad Instead of Answering One
Have you ever thought about using the personals to meet and attract
single women? I, Don Diebel used the personals for many years
successfully to meet hot & sexy beautiful women from all over the United
For those of you that are confused as to whether you should just run a
personal ad or just answer the ads of the women you are attracted to,
let me give you some valuable advice:
It's best to run your own ad instead of replying to women's ads and
1. It really builds up your confidence and makes you feel special when
single women are seeking you out. It's a great feeling checking your
email or postal mail and discover all these women wanting to get to know
2. There are a lot of single women out there that read the personals of
men. And these same women would never think of running their own ad due
to feeling embarrassed, but they think nothing of reading your ad and
responding to your ad if they are interested.
3. Women tend to get tons of responses to their ad by men. All these men
are vying for her attention. There's just too much competition. It's
better to run your own ad.
4. It's such an easy way to meet single women. They are seeking you out.
It's nice to have women make the first move for a change. Us guys get
tired of having to do all the work to meet women.
5. When you place a photo in your ad and a woman responds, this
indicates that she finds you attractive physically. This is a good
ego-booster to know someone finds you to be desirable physically.
Top 10 Reasons Why Single Women Did Not Respond to You Answering Her
If you play the "personals" I'm sure this has happen to you. You answer
an ad of a single woman that sounds like the woman you have been
searching for all your life for love and romance. You write her a real
nice letter and enclose an attractive photo of yourself and you just
can't wait to here back from her. And you wait...and you wait...and you
wait. You're wondering, what in the hell is going on? Why haven't I
heard back from her? Well, here are the top ten reasons you have not
heard back from her:
1. The woman prefers to call the guys that responded to her ad rather
than write. She got a lot of responses and you are on the bottom of the
pile and she has not gotten around to calling you. Be patient, she just
might call you.
2. She may be on a long vacation or perhaps traveling on the job. Hang
3. She may be ill or perhaps had to have some surgery.
4. A former boyfriend has come back into her life.
5. She is a chronic procrastinator. She
may put you off for a long time or not even respond at all.
6. She's very busy with work, family, community activities, etc. and
does not have much time to respond to ads.
7. She received just too many responses to her ad to handle and she only
responds to the ones that hold the most promise and capture's her
interest. Maybe you just go left out.
8. Before she got your letter, she met someone else she's interested in
that she met through her ad.
9. They are in no hurry to answer replies and just have not gotten
around to answering your letter. It's not a high priority in their life
to answer replies.
10. They are just not interested in you. Don't worry about it, rejection
is a part of life. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, as the
Top 10 Reasons Single Women Rejected Your Voice Personal Reply
When you respond to a single woman's voice personal ad and you get no
response, do you ever wonder what went wrong? You feel like you made a
good recording on her voice mailbox and you never hear back from her.
You feel a little frustrated and rejected. To help you figure out what
went wrong, here are the Top 10 reasons she did not try to get in touch
with you after hearing your message in her voice mail box assigned by
the personals publication:
1. Your message contained sexual overtones. This is a sure-fire way to
scare women off.
2. The tone of your voice was too soft when replying. The system could
not pick up your voice and cut you off. This caused your message to not
be recorded, thus, she can not respond to you if there is no message.
3. Your voice turned her off. I'm sure you can relate to this. I'm sure
you've heard women's voices that get on your nerves.
4. Your message was way too long. You really dragged it out to the point
where it became monotonous and boring.
5. There was a long pause while making your message and the system
thought you were through and cut you off.
6. You used too much slang in your message such as "You know," "You know
what I mean," etc.
7. You stuttered and mumbled too much when making your message. This is
a big turn-off!
8. Your message was too short and only contained one or two sentences
such as "Hi my name is Don. Let's get together sometime and have some
fun. Call me at 484-2424."
9. If you used your cellular phone to make your message, it may have
faded out on you and the system did not pick up your message.
10. In your message, all you did was brag about yourself and your
material possessions. In other words you came across as stuck on
yourself. This is a big no no!
Don't Make These Mistakes When Answering
Personal Ads of Single Women:
You have answered a personal ad of the single woman of your dreams.
From the description of her ad she seems like a perfect match for you
for romance and a possible serious relationship. You write her a letter
and anxiously wait to hear back from her. And you wait...and wait...and
wait and you never hear from her.
So, you wonder what went wrong? Is she rejecting me? Did I say something
in my letter that turned her off? Why won't she write back? Most likely
you made some common mistakes that turn single women off or caused them
to lose interest in you. Listed here are some things that may have gone
wrong so you can take corrective measures on the next personal ad you
1. Your letter was too sexually suggestive. When writing to a woman for
the first time, never write anything of a sexual nature. It's a big turn
2. All you did was brag about yourself, your accomplishments, and your
possessions in your letter.
3. You forgot to give her your phone number in case she may want to call
you instead of writing you back. Some single women prefer to do it this
way. If you just write back with your address, she may get letters from
guys who include their phone number and she will pass you up in favor of
calling them. There's another factor to consider. If you won't give out
your phone number, she may think that you are married or living with
4. The letter you sent her looked like it was zeroxed. This is a real
big no no.
5. You forgot to send her a stamped reply envelope with your letter. A
stamped reply envelope helps to ensure an answer back and it shows the
woman that you are very thoughtful. This makes a very good impression on
6. You forgot to mention what is was in her ad that attracted you to
write her. Single women love compliments and they want to know why to
chose to write her.
7. Your handwriting was very difficult to read. If you have bad
handwriting, have your letter typed. If she can't read your writing,
your letter is going straight to the trash can.
8. Your return address is a post office box and you don't give a phone
number in your letter. Without a street address and a phone number, she
may become suspicious that you are trying to hide something.
9. You screwed up in your letter by calling her "Babe" or "Darling" or
"Baby" or "Honey," etc. These words are just too strong to use on a
woman you don't even know.
10. Your letter was full of typos. Be sure and proof read your letter or
have someone else do it. If you have a lot of spelling errors this is
going to make you look like a real "dumb ass."
11. You mentioned that you like to give or receive massages. This
statement has a sexual overtone to it and some women will think that all
you have on your mind is sex. Don't mention anything about massages in
your first letter to a woman.
12. Your letter was written on notebook paper or even worse, the paper
is torn. Always use professional looking stationary with matching
envelopes when writing to a woman.
13. Your letter lacked warmth and was very impersonal.
Well, I hope these tips help you figure out how you screwed up on
writing your first letter when answering personal ads of single women.
If you will follow these guidelines, it will greatly improve your
chances of that "dream girl" writing back to you.
Are All the Men Who Use Online Personals
Desperate, Unattractive, Psychotic, or Nerds?
I've personally known two other guys who've
done this and they're okay guys. And I don't think I'm all that bad
myself. For example, how many "nerds" or "losers" do you know who
practice karate, skydive, ride horses, and own their own businesses?
As for "desperate," well there have been times when I've been desperate
for company, but I've had a number of lovers in my lifetime. I've even
turned down women who wanted to be with me. I'm a little shy but I've
usually done okay.
There are many reasons for a guy to use personal ads:
It may be that he can't meet single girls any other way.
But it may also be that he's really gorgeous and wants a chance to meet
a woman who'll get to know him before finding out what he looks like.
It may be that he's shy.
It may be that he has a busy career and has no other good way of meeting
It may be that he's got kids and doesn't have much chance to get out.
It may be that he has a hard time finding intelligent single women in
his everyday life.
Or it may be that he's just trying something like this for the hell of
it, just to see what happens.
Basically, there are many good reasons to use personal ads. There's
nothing at all weird about a man using something like this. It's just
one more way of meeting people, and a pretty good one if you do things
This article is reprinted by permission and is Copyright 1995 and 1996
by Dean Esmay.