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This week I want to share with you
some tips on how to win back a lost love or girlfriend:
Although you may not want to hear this, a love that has been lost is
usually not worth the effort to regain. One reason for this is that the
individual himself, after finally regaining the love, finds his own love
has to a degree waned or atrophied in the meantime. This peculiar
situation is no doubt due to the fact that one is inclined to think, at
the time, that he cares more for the one whose love he has lost than he
actually does. Once given a chance to pause and catch up, to cast
sentiment aside and reason the matter out in a common sense way, he
begins to realize the unfairness and perhaps the deceptions the lady in
the case may have practiced; he begins to see her as she is, her faults
and short-comings loom large before his eyes.
It must be remembered that even though a man may care ever so much for a
woman, this does not give her the right to trample upon and to take
advantage of the affection he has for her. In nine cases out of ten,
were a man to wait a few weeks or a few months or even a year before
trying to regain a woman's love, he would, during that time, find
someone more worthy, more caring, more beautiful and more suited to him
in every way.
Where a man does cast sentiment aside and
in the light of clear reasoning finds that he actually wants and cares
for a woman, he should still not permit himself to brood and become
melancholy over the broken romance; instead he should mix with friends
and go about as though he meant to forget the affair altogether. He
should appear as happy and light-hearted as possible, and in many cases
these actions on the man's part will bring the woman to her senses,
however, he should not rush to her the very moment she indicates he is
the least bit welcome, but should continue to show considerable
indifference. Until a very definite understanding has been reached he
should let himself appear in the position of man who is torn by
conflicting desires and emotions, of wanting the woman's love and of
also wanting to see the wide, wide world, other friends, other single
women and other loves.
There are cases where a man loses the love a good, true woman through
faults which are purely his own. Such cases usually demand from him a
complete explanation or a sincere apology, depending upon the
circumstances. If the explanation or apology offered is not at first
accepted, try, try again. If you can convince a real woman that you love
her with a love that is true, she is likely to forgive you for almost
anything you may do; most good single women realize that humanity is
weak and that some men are weaker, so they learn to forgive and forget.
In some of the most obstinate cases, where a lost love is worth the
effort to regain, a man may leave the scene of the love affair for an
indefinite period of time and his absence alone may cause the love of
the woman to return. However, while away the man should not be too
prompt in communicating and by no means should he apprise the lady of
his doings; she should be kept in complete suspense or made to feel that
considerable mystery surrounds him in his new location. This lack of
information; of keeping her in suspense serves to hold her interest, and
interest alone often leads to love.
While away the man should secretly strive
to improve himself mentally, socially and physically. Through these
improvements it is possible for one to improve themselves to the extent
that they become a different person, a better man in every way. After
you have obtained the desired results in the upbuilding of yourself, you
may return to the old love as a new man, full of fire, ambition and
determination, literally sweeping her off her feet. Although the
foregoing may sound slightly ridiculous to you, it has been done time
and time again. It must be said that we are too often judged only by
what we are, by what we have actually accomplished, and not by what we
are striving to accomplish. Many people, especially women, are inclined
to admire only the finished product and not the rough diamond while it
is in the course of being polished.
Therefore, whatever one may do to improve his appearance, to advance
himself socially and to broaden his mentality, he should do secretly and
without appearing to do so. You cannot surprise people and dazzle them
with your accomplishments if they have long known that you have been
studying, striving and preparing with those very things as an objective.
When one has cultivated himself to the highest degree of splendor, he
should leave the impression that any good qualities he may have are
merely a part of his nature and as such are of little importance's; he
should let it be known that far higher things are his ultimate goal, and
since most single women are prone to judge a man by comparison, they
will in doing this discover that he is superior to others of their
acquaintance. Once a single woman has known the friendship of a man of
taste and culture, she finds it quite impossible to reconcile herself to
those who are inferior.
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