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This article: "If you get out there and try my techniques, I think you'll find that they work better than anything else, and that you'll have more success with women than you have now."

Dear David,
Just wanted to let you know of a little twist of fate I experienced after reading up on your techniques.

I made a decision to try them out on a female friend I have. She and I used to be dating, but four years into it things got sour and the relationship ended. I was absolutely crushed and felt emotionally numb.

It had seemed as if she just one day awoke and saw me as a friend instead of a boyfriend, but I came to the understanding that I had become a wussy and just stumbled into that self defeating clinginess you have mentioned in your articles. We remained friends, and I was still attracted to her.

Well, I purchased your ebook and decided to move on with my life and let her go forever. Ironically, after some intense practice, I ran into her at the mall and we started talking. It had been a while and I had moved on, finally, so I acted like I didn't want her, and I busted her balls in every way possible. She laughed so hard and got really excited.

Well, the next month she called me about 10 times to try to set up a time to meet. Finally, I visited her house for old times sake, applied cocky funny (which was downright second nature at this point), and she started crawling all over me! I wasn't even pursuing her.

Four years of me being a wussy and then all of a sudden your techniques pulled me out of it. Very powerful stuff!

I just emailed you to let everyone know that this stuff really works. It also helps you to actually get a grip of your life and don't let past loves drag you down.
Take care and thanks.
Mick H.

DAVID D.'s ANSWER:

Congratulations.

One thing that really stood out for me in your letter was:
"It had been a while and I had moved on, so I acted like I didn't want her, and I busted her balls in every way possible. She laughed so hard and got really excited. Well, the next month she called me about 10 times to try to set up a time to meet."

Women have a very specialized and highly advanced "Wuss Detection System". One of the clues that they use in Wuss-Detection is when a guy is overly clingy or shows TOO MUCH interest.

I know that this doesn't make a whole bunch of LOGICAL sense, but then again, almost NOTHING makes logical sense when it comes to ATTRACTION.

Keep up the good work, and I hope you're able to put your relationship back together... sounds like it was a great thing.

Just remember to NOT BE A WUSSY anymore!

***QUESTION***

Dave,
I purchased your book and received most of your newsletters. Your book is an excellent guide for success with women. After reading your book I began to see things more clearly regarding women and dating.

I am currently dating four women at the same time. They are all pretty hot and very into me. I use your Cocky and Funny approach with a touch of sarcasm. I have bedded these girls down within one or two dates. Their ages range from 19 to 26 and sex is a daily thing.

However, I grow tired of scheduling all these women. What should I do? I don't want to go without sex like I use to before reading your book.
Yours Truly,
G.

DAVID D.'s ANSWER:

Awwww. You poor man.

You're dating four hot women ages 19-26, and you're having sex daily. Yea, I can sure see how all that scheduling would get you down.... sounds like a total waste.

Hey, I have an idea:
Maybe you should rent a 5 bedroom house, and then rent out four of the rooms to your dates. You could mark up the rents so you could cover the entire cost... FREE RENT FOR YOU!

But wait... that's not even the good part. You could run down to Office Depot and get one of those big "white boards", create a huge monthly calendar, and put it up in the kitchen. This way, all of your dates could SCHEDULE THEMSELVES. It would be great. No more HARD SCHEDULING WORK for you! You could just let them work it all out amongst themselves.

Now THAT'S thinking. I should send you a bill.

OK, look man... give me a break!

You want to have a lifestyle that almost NO men have, but you don't like all the tough "scheduling work". Either higher an assistant, or get over it.

***QUESTION***

Hi David,
My problem is trying to figure out if I went too far with joking with this girl.

In her yearbook I wrote "What's up girl, I can't lie, you look good, almost as good as me (haha). Give me a call so we can chill, go to the movies, make out... whatever. It was tight being in classes w/ you, your energy and great smile can really light up any situation. Have a tight summer. peace"

It seems like in the past weeks she has started to like me. It's not like I'm a bad looking guy either so: "Was it the right thing for me to right this?"

If I messed up and she is mad at me or something what should I do to fix the situation without sounding like a 6'3 tall wussy?
BD

DAVID D.'s ANSWER:

Let me drop my wisdom on you:

First of all, get used to attractive women sending you mixed signals. It's part of life. One of the reasons why a woman will be "all over you one day but cold the next" is because during the time she was "all over you", YOU ACTED LIKE A WUSS. A lot of guys don't get this. They get all upset because a girl was friendly one day, but totally acted different the next. What often happens is something like this:
1) You do the right things, and make her feel ATTRACTION.
2) She starts acting affectionate. Maybe you make out.
3) You start saying "Wow, I really like you" etc. and act all smitten with her to her face too early on instead of just leaning back, enjoying, and playing it cool.
4) She CHANGES HER MIND and sees you in a different light because you turned into a WUSS right before her very eyes.

You feel me?
Better way: Keep doing what you know works. Keep leaning back, being unpredictable, playing hard to get, etc. And don't start acting smitten too early on!

***QUESTION***

Hey,
I have been a subscriber of your newsletter for a while now. I have pretty much perfected your techniques and have had tremendous success with them.

One thing I recently realized is that after you have them hooked you can keep them on the line even more by using strange timing for telephone calls, etc. What I mean by this is that I have found it beneficial to return their calls at weird hours when you wouldn't expect them to be home or awake if they are so that you leave a message. Then when they call about half the time all I do is pick up the phone and say "can't talk sorry bye," hang up, and go to what I was doing.

The girls who are calling obviously want to see more of me, so being hard to reach makes the game all the livelier.

I was wondering if you have used this and if you think it is a good idea or if there is some unforeseen way this could backfire?
Thanks.
Oscar

DAVID D.'s ANSWER:

You horrible man!

You actually tell women that you're BUSY, and hang up so you can go back to doing something else You're killing me over here.

I can't believe it, I think you're one of about five men alive that have gotten to the point where you don't need to stop everything just for a little attention from a woman! Hell, I'm starting to feel attracted to you.

Easy, boy.

You are doing EXACTLY the right things. Keep it up.

Being unpredictable, hard to reach, and mysterious is MAGIC when it comes to creating ATTRACTION. Of course, no technique is perfect, and if you do these things long enough you will have something come up as a result. But overall, this is a WINNING combination. If and when you do have a problem or setback, don't worry about it. These things happen. You'll have so much success that it won't matter. As a side note, I want to mention a quick little something...

I think that there's a line between doing things that make women feel attracted to you so you can enjoy a more interesting romantic life and actually give women what they want...

And using the ideas you're learning purely to manipulate women into doing things.

Most women would really prefer if guys would do this stuff and be more interesting, but there's a danger of using this information, and making people into toys. I honestly believe that you can live whatever lifestyle you want... all the way from dating several women at a time to being married for years... and still do it with integrity and honesty. Do the right thing, and be a good guy.

***QUESTION***

Hello David,
Well, let me put it this way: I got your book, and it made a HUGE impact on my life. I'd like to assure anyone who doubts you that you are not full of crap, you really know your stuff.

Anyway, I have a little problem, and since I feel you've mastered the understanding of the minds of women, I need your help.

First of all, I've always had a razor-sharp wit, but I didn't have the confidence to show it to most women, and instead felt sorry for myself that women never got to see the real me. Now, once I was introduced to you and learned the whole cocky routine and seen it's effects, my confidence is sky high. I charm women like you wouldn't believe... while I was happy with this at first, it seems that I have gotten TOO good with women. I know I sound awfully full of myself, but here's the scoop.

When I use my dazzling charm combined with cockiness, new women that I meet CAVE IN to me and become my WHIPPED SLAVE after a short period of time. They lose their sassy and fun personalities, and become obsessed slaves that would do anything to please me.

While its sometimes flattering, overall I do not like this. Don't get me wrong, I want them to want me, but I DON'T want them to become my drooling little groupies who think about me when they get up and eat breakfast and are still thinking about me when they get under the covers at night, it seems like their obsessions sap their personality.

What I was wondering was whether or not you knew a way to behave around these girls or a trait that I may be amplifying that causes women to react this way. I want to TONE DOWN whatever it is that's getting them to drop their religion and worship me, any help appreciated.
(P.S: while I'm not ugly, I sure as hell am not the type of guy that girls whisper and giggle about upon first glance, so don’t attribute any of this to my looks.)

DAVID D.'s ANSWER:

Wow, another sad, sad story. Makes me weep. Women chasing you around like groupies and acting like slaves, you poor thing. Well, I do actually know what you're talking about.

Here's the deal:
Most women are used to being in CONTROL of men. And when a guy like you shows up and uses his magical powers of COCKY AND FUNNY, they are taken off guard. You are pressing the ATTRACTION button inside of a woman, which has an interesting side effect when done with Cocky and Funny:
IT MAKES THE WOMAN ACT LIKE A WUSSY!

This is a tough one for most guys to buy, but it's the absolute truth... and you know what I'm talking about. When a woman realizes that she's not going to control you... and in fact, that she's feeling ATTRACTED to you and she doesn't know how to handle you, SHE'LL start getting nervous. And in my experience, there are only a very FEW exceptional women out there in the world. I think that you just need to keep up the search. You'll find yourself a firecracker if that's what you're looking for.

I personally believe that it's important to understand this stuff NOT just because you can meet a lot of women using it...

I think that IT'S TOUGH TO FIND AN EXCEPTIONAL WOMAN these days, and you're probably going to have to date quite a few to find one. Knowing these techniques will help you see through tough exterior female personas, and start making you realize what you actually want in a woman.

You're on the right track, stick with it.

***QUESTION***

Now Dave,
I'll keep this short but first want to echo the feelings of everyone else on this e-mail by thanking you, your advice is seriously changing my life.

Your stuff is great for people you've just met or that don't know you to well. However, I've just got back in contact with a girl I used to work with 8 months ago. We got on great and regularly went for coffee on our lunch breaks, so knew each other well.

The only problem was that at the time she was in a relationship, so I had to fight the attraction I felt towards her. I have now found out that this has recently finished and want to make a move on her in the near future before someone else snaps her up. I've been 'cocky and funny' with her since we met, so that approach may be less effective than usual. Can you please give me some tips in how to take this further than just friendship.
RM

DAVID D.'s ANSWER:

Well, first I have to ask you:
Does she feel ATTRACTION for you?
When you talk to her now, does she flirt with you?

Next time you talk to her, say:
"You know, I know you want me. It took you 8 months to finally get up the nerve to admit it, huh?"

See what she says. Bust on her and tease her about how you know she's been trying to figure out how to get with you all this time, and see how she responds. Then, when you're alone with her, lean back, bust on her, have fun, etc. When you're alone, use the Kiss Test. You'll figure it out soon enough.

Just make sure you don't ASK her. No, no, no. No Wussy behavior please!

***QUESTION***

Hi Dave. I am a younger one. 18 to be exact. I am interested in this book because I have never really been a ladies' man. I am somewhat above average height; 6'1", and I weigh 205 lbs. I am not a bad looking guy, but I just get really tense around women. (You've probably heard this before) After I say hi, I'm clueless. Can you help me Dave? Are these techniques as good as they sound? (Your newsletters seem quite convincing) Please help out one of your youngest romantically retarded friends. Thank you.

PS: If this does work as well as you say, then expect to hear a success story from me.
P. J. K.
San Francisco, CA

DAVID D.'s ANSWER:

I know what you're talking about. I used to be VERY tense when it came to women. I could be out in a public place, and a woman could even START THE CONVERSATION WITH ME... and I didn't know what to do. I always felt like I need to say something that would "impress" a woman... or act "cool" so she'd like me. I went through this for most of my adult life, actually.

I can't say that my techniques will absolutely work for you without question. You're the one that has to use them...

But I will say that if you get out there and try them, I think you'll find that they work better than anything else, and that you'll have more success than you have now. It took me YEARS to really figure out what women respond to, and I really believe that ANY guy can use the material to attract women.

Depending on just HOW shy or nervous you are, you might need to get that handled... but once you start working with the ideas, I think you'll be VERY pleased with the results.

Women don't want BORING. A woman would rather be with an interesting, fun guy than with a RICH, HANDSOME, PREDICTABLE, BORING one (and the women who want the rich boring guy are often boring themselves).
...of course, if you REALLY want to understand what makes women tick, you have to read my book. Go download it right now here.
 This book and the three bonus ebooks (Bridges, Lover and Provider, Sex Secrets) that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book.

My final question for you is:
If the only thing that's stopping you from dating the women you want is your attitude, fear and general wussiness, what is it worth for you to change?

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