This article: "When you don't waste any time saying 'Hi' while trying for a long conversation, instead just focus on getting her email and number and you'll be able to set up a second meeting, your first date, where you can focus on taking things to the next level."
I'm glad you put together the weekly newsletter because it's so helpful and full of tips I can use!
But anyways, I have a couple questions if you could please help me:
Number 1, I have your book and follow your stuff and I love it, to say the least.
I've noticed though, that a lot of your stuff dealing with first encounters and pickups seems to be best fit for the club/bar scene which is great and everything, but I'm wondering how you go about doing pickups in places like a supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance?
What suggestions do you have for meeting women in more neutral places and how would you approach a women who is just shopping for groceries, or having a cup of coffee alone? I mean, after a conversation has progressed, I can see how the tips you suggest will work but I wondering about handling the first encounter, if you could help please.
Second, I see that one of your biggest suggestions is seeking out other successful guys in your area and hanging with them and learning from them.
My problem is even though I live in a huge college campus area with plenty of women around and lots of stuff to do, I can't find any other guys in my area who I can go out with and meet some girls with.
Most of my family and friends are far away back home and I haven't really made any close guy friends that I can hit the clubs/bars with here (the ones I do have are just nerds who want to stay home and just drink only).
I mean, I can go out by myself but I like having a wingman with me, it's much more fun that way!
I really agree with you though about the importance of this and I was wondering if you any suggestions on how to find other guys who you can go out and chase tail with? See? Why can't you live closer to me, damn it!
Thanks for everything Dave and I hope you have more success in the
future because you've helped bring that to a lot of people.
David D.'s Answer:
First of all, I want to point out that the ideas in my ebook and on my CD series are not designed for meeting women in clubs and bars only. Most of my own success with women, and most of the success of my readers happens in more "normal" places like coffee shops, bookstores, schools, parties, and even with online dating.
I think that maybe some people just mentally apply what they read to situations that they're familiar with, so it might seem that I'm talking about clubs and bars when I'm really talking about more than that.
With that said, let's talk about some of the how to's.
I chose your particular email because of the way it was worded. Part of the question is:
"...I'm wondering how you go about doing pickups in regular places, like a supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance? What suggestions do you have for meeting women here and how would you personally approach a women in these circumstances? I mean, after a conversation has progressed, I can see how the cocky and funny will work but I wondering about the first encounter if you could help please."
It sounds to me like you're assuming here that you should have a fairly in-depth conversation when you first meet a woman. I think that most guys have a fear of approaching women because they don't really know what to say, or where to take the conversation. I know that was a big one for me when I first wanted to learn this stuff.
what I learned:
You don't have to have a deep or lengthy conversation at all when you first meet a woman! All you need is your natural smiling face, confident manner and ask her for her phone number or email address.
In my book, I teach you how to get a woman's email and phone number in about 3 minutes. I know that it kind of sounds sensational, like I'm probably just using that as a marketing trick, but I'm actually very serious about it.
Now, there's a lot more to success with women than just getting numbers. But for the sake of this discussion, let's just say that your only goal in meeting a woman is getting her phone number and email.
Yep, that's it.
And you can do that in a few minutes, if you know what to do and how to do it. I've have many friends of mine that go out with me and watch me get 5 or more numbers in an evening from women, and only talk to them for a few minutes each to do it. And I'll tell you what, it changes my friend's perspectives forever.
Long conversations are not required for getting a phone number, email address, or future date.
I can hear everyone reading this
"But no woman is going to just give you her number."
"What makes you think a woman is just going to hand over her private information to a stranger?"
Well, I'm here to tell you that I and many guys I know have done it so many times that it's no longer a question able possibility in my mind.
And here's why it's important to do it this way:
The longer you talk to a woman when you first meet her, the more likely you are to say something stupid, say something that disqualifies you in her mind, or get into a conversation that goes down the wrong road. It's just bound to happen 99% of the time.
If you don't waste any time, and just focus on getting her email and number, you'll be able to set up a second meeting, your first date, where you can focus on taking things to the next level. And trust me, it's a lot easier to recover from a mistake or bad conversation when you're sitting across from her alone over a cup of tea then when you're looking at her over the mango section in the supermarket. Think about it.
So let's complete the answer to the question here:
The question is "What do you do to get her to give up the info so quickly?".
1) Know exactly how you want the
conversation to go,
2) Know how to ask,
3) Know when to ask
4) Be prepared with pen and paper on you.
I recommend that you take a few minutes every day to imagine having conversations with a new woman you'll meet. It might go something like this:
"Hi there, you're cuter than the average woman that I see in the
produce section, are you friendly?"
Her: "Ha ha, well, sometimes."
"So, are you shopping for a special occasion, or is this just a regular grocery visit?"
Her: "No, just here for some fruit."
"Nice. Are you from the area?"
"Are you from here originally?"
Her: "Born and raised."
"Well, it was nice meeting you and enjoy your mango."
"Hey, do you have email?"
Her: "Yea, I do."
Treat the "Yea" as an agreement to give it to you, then take a pen out of your pocket (I prefer a pen that is unique in shape) and hand it to her to write down her email. As she's writing, say "and write your phone number there too... and your name, which I didn't get...")
The key is that you have to act like her giving you her email and phone number, even writing down her name, is the most natural thing in the world to do.
OK, see how easy that was? Is that realistic?
I think so. I've gotten hundreds of women's emails and phone numbers with dialogues like that.
I think a key is to be prepared with how you will handle yourself so you know exactly what to do when the time comes. Your conversation all has to flow and seem natural.
OK, to address the second part of your question:
How to meet other guys who know what they're doing to learn from them.
I think it's a good idea to go out once in awhile to the hotspots and watch what's going on.
Specifically, I think it's a great idea to look for beautiful women that are with guys, and watch how the guy is behaving.
Also, it's interesting to watch guys picking women up to see what they're
doing. You'll learn a few really important things first-hand when you do
1) You'll see the body language of guys that are able to attract and keep women;
2) You'll see the gestures and hear the voice tone of guys that are approaching women, and see how the women respond to them;
3) And most likely you'll see some guys are really good with women, and you can make friends with them. It's easy just say "Hey, you are the man with the babes. Let me buy you a beer. I need you to tell me a few things." A beer is a cheap price to pay for his wisdom.
Of course, you probably realize, as I did, that getting a number or a date is a small piece of the puzzle.
In my eBook "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an entire chapter, chapter 4 specifically, to this topic of how to be funny and attractive to women.
I even teach you exact lines and comebacks to common situations. I also teach you all about how to be "Cocky and Funny" and why this attracts women like a love magnet.
I have spent years of my life watching guys who
are naturally successful with women, and then refining what I've
learned, testing out the techniques, and putting them together and
increasing my personal success with women as naturally as putting on
pants in the morning.
And if you'd like to get a great introduction to my concepts, you need to go and download my online eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it right now and be reading it within a few minutes.
More than five years of watching, testing and creating successful
situations with women are contained in the ebook.
This book and the three bonus ebooks that come will become your FOUNDATION for success with women.
Everything you read my articles and in my newsletter will make more sense once you have read the book, get it here
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon, David D.
If using humor to attract women is what works for you, but you're stopped cold when things get interesting and she gives you "the pause", let's put your humor skill into overdrive!
You'll need to be ready to start your cocky comedy lines naturally which means that you need be able to make your words work for you; to be able to really see what a woman is wearing, how she is acting, what she is doing and the environment you're sharing with her and place these things into a comedic situation that makes her open to talking with you, not upsetting her and coming off as a total loser/jerk.
Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that, so I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date, all the way up until we get physical and beyond..."
Guess what? You'll learn this too!
...and watch it in action, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
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