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This article: "When a woman starts with her problems and you actually try to help her, well guess what? This is a really bad idea if you want a woman to feel attraction for you."

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Dear David,
I have been reading your emails for about 6 months now, and I gotta tell you, you're words and advice have helped me with my life more than anything else *ever*.
I have gone from getting a date with maybe one average looking girl every 4 months, to getting 7 or 8 dates from very beautiful women in less than 2 weeks. My confidence is skyrocketing, and women I would have automatically accepted before (based on their above average looks) are now often unacceptable in one way or another (usually due to neurotic behavior).

I have been changing my patterns and even people at work are noticing the difference. I am way more confident when confronted by my boss. I have gone so far as to make cocky/funny jokes at his expense hehe (surprisingly, it had the same effect on him as the women, he's started following me around, YIKES). I am attempting to find humor in every situation. Even being stalked by my massive... scary... hulking, boss (God help me).

I am still not at the place I want to be, but like anything new, practice makes perfect (I imagine buying your book may help too). I can actually notice daily improvements as I apply these principles to my life.

Thank you so much David. Who knows, I may even get a raise ;)

Quick question: I have had so many girls talk to me about their problems like right away. I agree with what you say about becoming a dumping ground and how it has 'wussy' written all over it. Do you have a few examples of how I could stop this behavior without scaring them off or making them think I am some kind of a**hole?
Jason S., OH

David D. Replies:

OK, first of all, congratulations on getting 7-8 dates from beautiful women in 2 weeks. You're the man.

To answer your question about what to say to women who start talking about their problems right away.

Here's the deal:
When a woman starts talking about her problems, what she's REALLY saying is "I'm feeling bad right now. I think that if I talk about my problems I'll feel good... so that's what I'm going to do".

I hope you're with me here.

Most guys go along with this, and try to be "nice" about the whole affair.

If you're like I used to be, you actually TRY TO HELP. Well guess what?

This is a REALLY bad idea if you want a woman to feel ATTRACTION for you.

The BEST thing to do in these situations is to make her FEEL BETTER. And being a "nice" Wuss Bag Girly-Man Therapist isn't the way to do it.

Try this the next time:
When a woman starts with the problems, just interrupt her and say "Hey, whoa... wait a minute here... do I look like one of your GIRLFRIENDS?"

She'll say "No".

You say "Great, then don't talk to me like I'm one of them, OK?"

Continue with:
"If you want therapy, I'm going to have to charge you at LEAST two hundred an hour, I'm expensive. I'm in WAY too good of a mood to listen to this stuff for free."

Now, you MUST remember something here.

You're NOT trying to come across like a heartless bastard when you say this stuff.

What you ARE trying to say is "You have girlfriends, and their role is comforting you and talking about things. I'm not your girlfriend. I'm the person who you feel GOOD when you're around... the one that cheers you up... the one that keeps you interested."

This is a VERY important distinction. You must understand and believe this when you do it, or else you'll just come across like a selfish prick.

I've done this exact thing NUMEROUS times in my day, and almost EVERY time the woman stops, laughs, and says:

"Oh, sorry. You're right... so what are you doing?" etc.

You can COMPLETELY change the mood and tone of a situation if you stand up, act like a man, and refuse the invitation to be her free Wussy Therapist Buddy.

But you really need to remember that a generous helping of Cocky & Funny will make this work best.

If you listen to her problems and act like a girlfriend, then that's what you're going to turn into.

And thanks for the compliments. I get a lot of feedback that this stuff helps in a lot of different areas of life, and I know that my own life has improved in many different ways as a result.

Oh, and you're right about the fact that investing in my ebook will REALLY help your success.

I guarantee that you'll be slapping yourself and saying "What the hell have I been waiting for?"

If you've been dating average women, you'll start meeting SUPER hot women.

If you've been running into a challenge, this will solve it for you.


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Talk to you soon,
David D.




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