Which guy are you?
This article: "You've read the
you've been successful with C & F... so how did you end up scaring her away?"
I'm a premed student who has been subscribing to your newsletter for quite a while now.
I've been meaning to buy your book but I'm not in the habit of using a credit card so ill have to open an account especially for this.
Anyway, I've been going out with this girl for 9 months now.
She is smart, attractive, and funny. the way I landed her was by being cocky funny.
EXTREMELY cocky funny.
I was always one step ahead of her.
It was kind of like "Don't even TRY to challenge me, I'm already inside your head!".
Everything was cool, but to tell the truth (and no offense) I just kind of got tired of the constant effort..... so I cooled it off a bit not always seizing the opportunity to remind her just who it is she's dealing with.
And I think I got screwed.
Now I feel like I've turned into a wuss.... and I HATE IT!!!
NO.. I LOATHE IT !!!!!!!!!!
When I turn on the macho act she's a pussy cat again.
You see I want someone to whom I can genuinely be.... just nice to, with her appreciating it and NOT taking advantage.
I mean since this is a long-term relationship I want someone who will give me a smooth ride without all that continuous maintenance.
I don't wanna be cocky and tough all my life with her, sometimes a guy just wants to relax.
Is it possible?? F.Z, Lebanon
David D. >>> MY COMMENTS
Ooooooo, good question.
I've seen a trend in the way guys who are learning to be Cocky & Funny and to stay in control change.
As they're learning the techniques, they become more and more attractive to women. Then, they meet a really amazing woman - a woman that was previously "out of their league," and they decide to start a relationship.
As soon as they start getting closer, the guy begins to put aside the things that worked, and start being more and more submissive... which, of course, drives this new woman away.
Then I get an email saying "I want to be nice and sweet and a good guy but still have all the super hot women calling me 24/7".
Here's what I say:
"BEING YOURSELF" IS A PRIVILEGE THAT YOU HAVE TO EARN, NOT A RIGHT.
And the way that you earn it is to learn what it takes to make women feel ATTRACTION, learn what it takes to NOT drive women away, then make these things part of "YOURSELF."
Are you with me here?
The problem is that for a lot of guys "being yourself" means "being the type of guy that women don't feel any ATTRACTION for."
If you can't make a woman feel the emotion of ATTRACTION, then there's really nothing I can do to help you. If you're not willing to do the work and make the changes more or less permanent, then you're going to have a long uphill battle.
And in your case, you have to realize that this woman was attracted to you for a REASON, and if you stop that REASON, then you're going to stop the ATTRACTION.
The real "technique" of being cocky and funny is really an adjustment of your own personality from being a wuss, boring and predictable guy to being a hotshot, a brat, an unpredictable cool guy that attracts women instead of repelling them.
Think a moment about some of the women from your past and why you didn't date them... was it you, or was it another guy that held her attention, the other guy that she'd smile at from across a room, then she'd walk up to him, touch or kiss him... all the while you knew you never had a chance with her, with all those women from your past that you failed with.
And now, with just a little bit of effort, with some reading and some practice, YOU can become THAT guy.
Well, my friend, the time is now to make the change and the place is here.
...and watch it in action, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
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