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advice articlesThis article: "Changing
how you behave around women requires you to first believe that you need to
make changes to increase your success with women!"
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***QUESTION***
David,
I've been a huge fan for the past 2 years and just received your
Advanced Series CD set a week or so ago. HOLY COW!!! It's the best money
I've EVER spent. I've gotten more phone numbers, been on more dates and HAD
MORE SEX in the past 7-8 days than I have in the past 6 months. We're
talking 180-degree shifts in my interactions with women... I'm at 100%
success right now.
To all the
guys out there, attitude is EVERYTHING. KNOW that you can have any girl you
want, let that reflect onto girls and they WILL smell your confidence. And,
to women, that's very sexy!!!
Now, onto my question...
How do Cocky-Funny, self-validating, confident men deal with
attention-getting comments from women? For example, the other day I'm on the
telephone with one of the girls I met recently and she was complaining about
her new haircut. She says, "A., I look SOOOOO ugly with this new haircut"
(she STILL was an absolute knock out actually!!).
Now, I
thought to myself, What Would David Do in this situation? Would he tell her,
"Oh no sweetie, you look gorgeous". I thought that seemed pretty wussy, so I
says to her, "Listen here, I didn't call you so I could listen to you
complain...".
Are
cocky-funny remarks the right way to deal with this type of female
complaining? Is it just a test to see if we'll give in to their little
games? KEEP IT UP DAVID!!!
Ciao!
A, Indiana
David D. COMMENTS:
You are on the RIGHT TRACK here. Next time a woman complains about herself
or tries to get attention, just make it FAR worse than she ever thought it
could be. If she says "My new haircut makes me look soooo ugly" just reply
"You know, I wasn't going to say anything, but... <pause>...".
Remember, COCKY & FUNNY. It's the combination. If you really want to be
bold, just say "So what am I going to get paid for babysitting tonight?". Or
even better, say "Did this stuff work on your dad? Why didn't he spank you
more?". I'm cracking myself up over here.
Nothing better than hitting the nail right on the head, if you catch my
meaning. Again, you're on the right track. Don't be a Wussy. But make sure
you're funny while you're not being a Wussy. "Listen here, I didn't call you
so I could hear you complain..." might do the trick, but it's probably a
little over the "jerk" line...
...unless, of course, it's done with the right tone of voice that
communicates sarcasm.
Let's talk
about eye contact, and what to do after you've made it. Here's the deal,
there are a few things that are DEAD GIVEAWAYS to a woman that you're a
big-time Wussy, and not worth her time.
A few of them are:
1) Can't maintain eye contact
2) Has slumped, submissive posture
3) Fidgets nervously
4) Gives away his power
5) Looks for attention and approval from others
Of course, there are quite a few more examples of LITTLE THINGS that women
look for... to make QUICK DECISIONS about what kind of man you are... and
INSTANTLY know whether or not you are worthy of a second thought.
Now, as
you've heard me say a million times, these "decisions" all happen on an an
UNCONSCIOUS LEVEL. Women don't look at a man, then say to a friend "Well, he
maintained eye contact when I first looked at him, then he held his head up
high in a dominant posture... so I'm going to give him a chance".
Duh, no way.
It's an INSTANT FEELING that women get. They use these little body language
cues to instantly size you up, then respond instantly. Now about a
particular facet of eye contact... specifically, when you're standing one
foot away from her and it happens.
If anything, it takes MORE composure and inner strength to look a woman in
the eyes if she's standing a foot away. In this case it's even MORE
important to not look away. And what to say?
Try saying "I just couldn't help noticing you... <pause>... STARING at
me..."
That's funny.
Or say "Do you always maintain such strong eye contact? Or only with guys
like me that you can't help it with?"
Try anything. You're in the right place... I mean, you don't even have to
expend the energy to walk over and start a conversation!
Even "hi" is better than walking away.
Once you get over your remaining fear of the unknown, and you realize that
you're in control of your life and your results, you'll begin to realize
that situations like these are GREAT opportunities.
...which reminds me of something.
I honestly believe that FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN is one of the biggest obstacles
that guys face with women. It may sound silly, but most guys who are afraid
to approach women really don't know exactly WHAT they're afraid of. All they
know is that they have an INSTANT fear come up whenever they think of
walking up to a woman they don't know and talking to her. Of course, a "fear
of the unknown" sounds like an easy thing to fix.
I mean, just realize that you don't even know what you're afraid of, and it
should go away, right? Sounds good, but it's WRONG. The fact is that this is
a COMPLEX problem. I've met guys who have gone to therapy for YEARS to get
over fears... and it didn't work. Now, I'm not a therapist or
psychologist... but I do know one thing... I used to have this very same
fear. I know EXACTLY what it feels like.
But the really weird part is that the thing that helped me get over it
wasn't anything that I expected. What helped me get past it, and helped me
to start approaching women and getting emails and numbers from women I
didn't know was simply UNDERSTANDING what was going on... and then KNOWING
exactly what to do in each situation.
The PROBLEM that I had in the past was that I just didn't "GET IT" with
women. I didn't understand what made them feel ATTRACTION for one guy while
feeling NOTHING or even like RUNNING AWAY from another guy. Now that I do
"get it", I have to say that it's pretty damn interesting. But it's not at
all what I would have expected. In fact, it took me a couple of YEARS of
trying to figure it out to actually BEGIN to really understand how and why
women feel that instant and magical ATTRACTION response for some guys...
while most guys go their whole lives without women even noticing them.
But once I DID get it, everything changed.
A lot of guys write in to say that "It just clicked all of a sudden" or "I
had a huge Ah-Ha! when I went through the program". You'll also notice that
most of the guys who make these comments have read my newsletters and
articles for quite awhile as well.
What I'm
trying to say is that my
Advanced Series will totally change the way you see things, and it
will totally change your results with women.
It's taken me literally YEARS to figure all of this stuff out, and I can
honestly say that it's nothing like the other books and programs that are
available.
My
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...and read it, learn it, and use it.
David D.
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