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Hey Dave,
I was just curious: I'm an average man who tells jokes like crazy to girls, I make tons of people laugh and friends with everyone. I can talk to a girl in a second but some are harder then others.

How do you get real secrets out of them, and know what some deep things are about them. So I am asking when I go up and make fun of them teasing and being cocky, what are some more things I should say to get the conversation rolling and want them to talk to me even more.

If I get a conversation it's easy to tell a little joke here and there. So what are some easy ways to just to get an very high interesting topic to talk to them about?
Thanks, James

David D. Comments:

First of all, why do you want to know "deep" things about a girl you've just met? And why do you want to get "real secrets" about her?

When you first meet a girl you don't need to have her personal life history, that comes much later, if ever. "Hi, you seem nice, want to get together again later? Here, write down your email address for me..." and you're gone. Making for a ton of small talk is going to force your hand into giving up any type of control over the first date, if you get that far.

Remember what I say, the longer you talk to a great looking girl the first time you met her, the more you're going to try to "impress her" and instead of building her interest in you, by using your cocky and funny, you're going to end up catering to her to hold her attention with all the other competition around.

In case you're still not sure what I mean, here are the easy to follow steps:

1) Hi.
2) Name.
3) Phone number or email address.
4) Talk to you later.
5) And go away.

You can follow up later, and if you want to know "secrets" and "deep things", you can work on that later too.

By the way, secrets and deep things are best not discussed early on, unless you're trying to get into a relationship in 5 minutes or you want her to "share with her new great friend" at which point you'll always be her friend and you'll never get to date her.


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David D Comments:

Wow, great job.

It's not often that an attractive woman will actually TELL you explicitly that she's testing you. You have a gal there that is unusually open.

I included your email because it's a great example of how women test men. Most guys FAIL MISERABLY when tested, and they lose the girl in the process. It's sad, but true.

When a woman tests a man, it's like a blind psychological experiment. She's doing the testing, but she knows that she can't TELL you what's going on, because then you'll know it's a test and not respond authentically.

How else could she find out the TRUE nature of your character? How else could she find out if you're actually a strong-willed man with inner power, or just another actor playing pretend in order to conceal the INNER WUSS?

Think about it.

As for the gift idea...

Women typically love SURPRISES and THOUGHTFUL expressions of your feelings. As you know, I don't like to comment on the relationship stages, but if you want to make her see you as different from other guys, plan a few thoughtful surprises for her. Think about experiences that she's always wanted to have, or things she really likes, then combine together to create a time she won't forget.

It doesn't take money to do this, and it's actually better if you DON'T spend a lot.

Remember, what I'm talking about here is to be used when you know a woman and have been dating her for at least a little while. This is the kind of thing that has the word "relationship" all over it, and you don't want to do things like this too soon, or you run the risk of coming across the wrong way.

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Relationships aren't like investing. If you want a lot, get used to giving more. But it's worth it in the end, because love and attention and humor and fun aren't like money. If you give them out, you don't have less. You have MORE. Get it?

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