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This article: You don't have to be an "Enigma machine code-breaker" to understand a woman's signals, you just need a successful guy's help. Read on...
To all my the women I'm attracting, I'm giving the gift of missing me. And letting them make the first date moves, which is working wonders!
I'm a recovering wuss. I used to go after any woman with "let's be friends first", and be the emotional, sincere guy that I thought every woman would want. After reading your articles and the DYD ebook you have, I found all my mistakes spelled out in black and white.
I took a few months off of chasing after women and worked on my inner game, with great results. I've started talking to new women again, along with old girlfriends.
I find that when my C/F (Cocky and Funny) gets going, or even just my newfound confidence, I often get a lot of compliments from the girls. And a few of the "How did you get her" questions from the guys.
But I need to know what to do when I am on a roll with a girl.
What's the best way to deal with a girl coming out and saying to me "oh, you're so cute/funny/etc..."? Should I ignore it and keep the cocky/funny teasing going? Should I address her in a cocky way? I'm assuming that graciously accepting the compliment is never the right answer but it's a thing that I seem to be tempted to do.
What would you say to a girl who compliments you directly? What should your
voice tone/body language/eye contact be like?
David D. >>>My comments:
You know, this really is a great question. Knowing your inner game is knowing which step to take after contact.
One of the most important things to understand as a man going after a woman is what to do when things are working with her so you don't screw it up and turn her interest from 70%, 80% maybe even 90% to 0% in a red hot flash!
If you use the materials that you're learning from me, you will start to
have a magical thing happen more and more often:
Women will start to do and say things that clearly indicate that they like you.
Sometimes it will be a touch, sometimes a compliment, and sometimes a smile.
And these things will happen more and more as you get better and better at the second and third moments of talking with women.
laugh to myself when I bust on a woman's chops really hard and she laughs
and says to me "You're so funny!" or even "You're a brat!" etc.
But I've come to understand that Cocky and Funny is an approach that
attracts women because it has all the ingredients that fulfill attraction in
- Cocky comedy that puts her in a good mood
- Confident talking that keeps her attention
- Approaches that know when to end creating a desire in her
I still shake my head and wonder why the hell it took me so long to figure this stuff out.
Now, when a woman does something that signals "I like you", it is extremely
important that you:
1) Know how to recognize it
2) Don't do what most guys do
3) Make the right noise and amplify it
So how can you tell if a woman is doing something that says "I like you"?
Well, it's very important to remember that women are far more "subtle" than men (most of the time, that is).
If a man is interested in a woman, you can see it all over his face.
It's usually very obvious. But women are different. Women do small things.
A little touch.
A sly smile.
Sometimes a comment like "You're so cute" (as in your example above).
And then it's gone. You misread something in her and her attraction level is suddenly lower than sea bottom.
Women always seem to act like they're not quite sure. They don't send consistent signals that most men can "read". They send "unease" and "tempt me/tease me/leave me alone" signals.
And when they do send signals that are easy to see, most guys respond in a way that makes those signals stop, which makes things even more confusing.
Again, women aren't as consistent as men. A woman can seem like she's interested one minute, then stand-offish the next.
Just because she's doing something that says "I like you", don't think that it means that "I like you no matter what you do to me"!
It's much better to interpret subtle "I like you" cues as "I like you for this moment, but if you start acting like a Wuss Bag or Dumb Ass, I'll be gone in a flash".
Unfortunately for most guys, they take the "I like you" signals to mean "You've won my approval, now you can do whatever you want". And what do they do? Everything wrong, of course.
They turn into dorks, say or do a few stupid things, and destroy all the great attraction they first created. Oh, how many times I've watched guys (myself included) screw up perfectly good situations because they just didn't get this concept.
To keep attraction happening never you change your attitude when you've got her attention.
Let me give
you an example:
Let's say that you're out with a woman, and you've been teasing her, and she smiles and says "I like you". A typical "male" response is for a guy to think to himself "OK, I'm in, she digs me" and to get that rush of confidence in the head and chest.
Next thing you know, he's acting different. He's talking about different things. He's giving compliments. He's being "nicer".
And what's the woman thinking while this is all going on? Of course, she's thinking "Uh oh, his cool, calm, interesting personality was just a cover for the secret inner-wussy that was hiding out, waiting for a little bit of approval from me... Ahh!"
Women know that they're in control of the situation. Or at least most of the time they are, and they think that they are even during the times when they're not.
They're constantly using different kinds of communication to test guys and "feel out" the situation.
Remember, most of the time when you're saying something that you think is nice, charming, and original, it's something that a woman has heard about countless times that week from other guys.
Us guys act very predictably most of the time. And very similarly.
And women know how to tell if you're just another loser who's pretending to be cool, who will turn into an average wuss at the first sign of attraction from a cute woman.
Think about what I just said. This is hard for a lot of guys to swallow but it's the reality of the situation.
There's something that women call "Sexual Tension". It's also known as "Chemistry" or "Attraction" as well. But only women understand it this way.
When you tease a woman, make her laugh, play hard to get with her, act unpredictably, etc. in the right way, you will create this tension. This is what usually leads to a woman saying something like "You're cute" or "I like you".
It's the tension that makes her feel it and say it.
In these very special moments, you need to turn the tension up. Dial it up. Amplify it. Don't diffuse it all by saying "You're cute yourself" or "I like you, too". Or by smiling like a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first rainbow.
This kind of thing releases the tension, and it usually takes that wonderful electric attraction feeling that the woman is feeling and instantly kills it. Does this make logical sense?
Hell no. But it's what happens.
OK, so let's talk about the right way to handle this type of situation:
Remember when I said that it's the tension that makes a woman feel the feelings and make the comments? And that you need to amplify it when you're getting a positive response?
Nice. Once upon a time, there was a scene in a movie that illustrated this concept perfectly. In fact, it might be the all-time greatest example of this principle that has ever been recorded on film. If it's been a while since you've seen the movie, now's the time for a refresher.
Remember the end of "The Empire Strikes Back" when they were about to put
Han Solo into the deep freeze?
Remember when Leia said "I love you"...?
Remember what Han said?
Right, he said... "I know".
All of the sexual tension that built up in "Star Wars" and "Empire Strikes Back" culminated in Leia confessing her love. And Han says "I know". Awesome!
Imagine being the princess Leia. What could be going through her mind at this point? An answer like this isn't easy to understand. It has all kinds of implications. It's confusing.
It says "I know you love me, because it's been obvious for a long time". But it doesn't let her know how he feels exactly. It requires her consideration and time to think about it, it gives her pause. It dials up the tension. It's an amazing response.
By the way, I read that when they were filming that scene Han was supposed to answer "I love you too", but the director didn't like it. They tried all kinds of things, and in the end Harrison Ford made up that line on the spot in one of the takes and they kept it.
By the way, one of the big reasons why the newer movies in the Star Wars series suck is because there is no character like Han, think about it. It's all boring, predictable stuff. There's no sexy, arrogant, funny, wildcard personality messing things up.
Like I pointed out after I saw "Attack Of The Clones", Anakin had to kill an entire village of Sand People just to convince Princess A. that he wasn't a complete and total Wuss. Would have been so much easier and more entertaining if he would have just had a personality. Whatever.
Now where was I?
Let's start this conversation again at: amplifying her sexual tension.
out with a woman, and you tease her because she's wearing four inch heels by
saying "What's the deal, are you four feet tall without those one?", and she
opens her mouth with the classic "Oh no you didn't" look (smiling of course,
with that surprised smile), and you dial it up to the next level with "Oh,
I'm sorry, Four foot three?" and she hits you on the arm;
and then she stops, puts her hand on your arm, and says "You know, you're funny".
What do you do?
You say "Yes, I know" - in a serious tone.
Or "Don't try to use compliments to make me like you. It won't work. Go buy me a drink or something, I prefer gifts and money."
Or look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly, turn your head,
and put your eyebrows together as if to say "Just what do you think you're
doing touching me?!".
Turn it up, my friend!
You turn up the tension.
Keep it going.
If you keep amplifying the tension and attraction at each of these wonderful moments, good things will happen. Good stuff.
OK, I have a question. Want more killer ideas like this one?
What if I told you that there was a place you could go and download an eBook that contained literally dozens and dozens of great ideas like this one?
Well, there is. Of course, it's my eBook "Double Your Dating". Inside, you'll learn about all of my personal favorite techniques for dealing with all kinds of situations with women.
This might sound a little strange, but I actually read my own book to brush up on concepts, and remind myself of how to handle different situations. It took me a few years to learn, test, refine, and organize all of the awesome techniques that are included, and you'll understand why I speak so highly of it when you go and get a copy.
It's here... you can download it and be reading it in a few minutes here.
Look, man. No one is going to do this for you.
ou need to do it for YOURSELF.
So get to it. Just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy. This book and the three bonus ebooks that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book on this page
IIf using humor to attract women is what works for you, but you're stopped cold when things get interesting and she gives you "the pause", let's put that skill into overdrive! You'll need to be ready to start your cocky comedy lines naturally which means that you need be able to make your words work for you; to be able to really see what a woman is wearing, how she is acting, what she is doing and the environment you're sharing with her and place these things into a comedic situation that makes her open to talking with you, not upsetting her and coming off as a total loser/jerk.
Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that could show me hundreds of great ideas like that, so I could know exactly what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date, all the way up until we get physical and beyond..."
It's right here
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Talk to you soon,
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