David D.'s Dating Advice at aLoveLinksPlus
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*** How To
Find A Girl To Date ***
I'm going to talk about something very important. I'm going to talk
about how to GET a GREAT girlfriend...
and what to do once you've GOTTEN her so you don't screw it up and LOSE her.
The REASON most guys learn to be more successful with women and dating is to
find a GREAT one... not just so they can date a million women. Sure, some
guys just want to date a lot of women, and aren't "relationship" material.
But I believe that probably 90%
of guys who study this area of life do so because they want to have OPTIONS
when it comes to women and dating... and they want to be able to meet and
date more intelligent, attractive, and interesting women... but ULTIMATELY I
think that most guys would like to meet a really nice, attractive woman to
share a great relationship with.
If you've read my eBook "Double Your Dating" and you've been reading and applying what
you're learning from these newsletters, then you're meeting more women.
And what happens when you learn how to meet women in any situation... and
you start dating more women? Your standards go UP.
Instead of just "settling" for any woman that will go out with you, you
start wanting THE BEST. This is only natural.
Here's where things get
interesting...
When a guy who hasn't been particularly good with women and dating gets his
first date with an UNUSUALLY wonderful woman, it will often shake him up...
and he'll "forget" everything he's learned... and start acting like his
former "Wuss Self".
When the stakes go up in life, we humans get nervous.
And this nervousness often hurts us by "blanking" our minds, and makes us
SCREW UP... instead of HELPING us by calming us and causing us to remember
what we SHOULD be doing.
Hey, I didn't design humans... I just work with what's already there. Don't
blame me. So how does this translate when it comes to guys dating unusually
attractive women for the first time? Well, after having this happen in my
own life many times, and getting emails from countless guys who have gone
through the same thing, I think the process goes a little something like
this:
1) Become frustrated because he's not having success with women and dating.
Decides to do something about it.
2) Starts learning techniques and ideas to improve success. Begins to
improve, and realizes that it IS possible to have more success with women.
Feels excited as results improve.
3) Wakes up one day and realizes that the types of women that were
previously "untouchable" are, in fact, within reach. Decides to do something
about it.
4) Gets a date with a woman that was previously "out of his league".
Instantly becomes aware that this is a VERY important situation. Becomes
nervous.
5) Goes out on the date, and acts like a Wuss Bag. Because he knows the
MAJOR mistakes to avoid, and the important things to do, still does "OK"...
to the point where the woman has a good time, enjoys herself, etc.
6) Goes home and says to self "Self, you'd better not screw this one up.
Call her and ask her out again. This girl is RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL. It's OK
to call her a lot and act like a Wuss, because she's different. I know that
David D. would He-Bitch-Man-Slap me for this, but if he knew how amazing
THIS PARTICULAR girl was, he would understand." Part of this step is
thinking about the girl all the time, and secretly wondering if she's OUT
WITH ANOTHER GUY.
7) Proceeds to call and get Date #2 (for the very next night, of course).
8) On Date #2 (or Date #3) says to the girl "You're special. I have FEELINGS
for you." (Or something equally emotional, needy, clingy, or Wuss-like.)
9) Calls the amazing girl every day... to the point where she stops
returning his calls and starts actively avoiding his calls. Girl finally
says something like "I think I need some time ALONE right now in life" or
"It's not YOU, it's ME" or "You're such a great guy, and I really like you a
lot... but I'm just not ready for a RELATIONSHIP right now", etc.
10) Writes in to David D. and says "HELP, you've got to help me out with
this one. Please please please. This girl is amazing and I want her to be my
girlfriend, but I acted like a Wuss, and now she only likes me as a friend.
What can I do to get her back?"
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And if you've been tuned in to my free advice newsletter for awhile, you know EXACTLY
what I'm talking about. Hell, if you've been tuned in long enough, YOU have
probably sent me an email like the one I just mentioned.
So there are two pieces to this puzzle:
1) How to get a girlfriend.
2) How to not screw it up when you get one.
HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND
Here are some ideas for how to GET a great girlfriend:
1) Realize that attractive, intelligent, amazing women are IN DEMAND. They
are RARE (I believe that a man who has his life together and understands
women and attraction is FAR RARER, but that's a different conversation).
2) Because these women are rare and in demand, they usually have a lot of
EXPERIENCE with men. And guess what? MEN ARE VERY PREDICTABLE. Men usually
ask women out in one of a few PREDICTABLE ways... and they usually act one
of a few PREDICTABLE ways on dates... and they usually respond in one of a
few PREDICTABLE ways after the date... etc.
3) When it comes to the unusually attractive, desirable women, they have
usually had a LOT of men who have "fallen" for them "too quickly". In other
words, when they meet a guy who falls for them quickly, they RECOGNIZE it
instantly, and RESPOND to it by RUNNING away.
4) If you want to get one of these desirable women to consider a
RELATIONSHIP with you, you need to NOT act like one of the other 100 boring
guys she's gone out with.
5) It is VITALLY important that you learn everything you can about women and
dating before you go looking for a long-term relationship with a fantastic
woman. Of course, I recommend my eBook and other advanced materials for
this. You won't find a better education anywhere on this topic, and what
you'll learn from me will definitely help you get your "game" together in
this area. If you can't afford to get my materials right now, just keep
reading these newsletters religiously. They're jam packed with great
information, and they'll help you tremendously. The point is that you have
to KEEP WORKING on it. Don't just learn a few things and think "OK, I've got
it".
6) You must give an unusually attractive woman SPACE. You can't call her
every day, tell her that you're in love with her two days after you've met
her, chase her around, always ask what she's doing, etc. You must give this
special woman THE GIFT OF MISSING YOU.
7) When you're in her presence, you must not treat her like you desperately
want and need her approval. There's a way to do ANYTHING and have it mean
ANYTHING. Whatever you do, don't try to "impress" her, act apologetic for
anything about yourself, or otherwise give away your personal POWER. EVER.
8) If you have a life, stay with it. If you don't have a life, get one.
Don't sit around wondering what she's doing, calling her, telling her how
you "feel", etc. If she wanted another "girlfriend", she'd get one. So don't
act like one. Desirable women want men who are INDEPENDENT, and who give
them SPACE. In fact, if anything, you need to give a woman like this TOO
MUCH space. You want HER to be the one who is calling YOU to figure out what
you're up to.
9) If you sense that this woman is "testing" you by being difficult, trying
to change plans with you on short notice all the time, etc. then RELAX. Lean
back. Never let her "get away" with anything just because she's beautiful,
or let her have any "special privileges" because you like her. NEVER.
10) If you want a long-term relationship, let it DEVELOP over time. I
personally don't think it's a good idea to even CONSIDER having a
relationship with a woman until you have known her for a MINIMUM of 90 days.
MINIMUM! If you take this mindset, it will FORCE you to chill out and let
things develop over time, instead of trying to "force" them. You'll be VERY
different from the other guys she's dated, and you'll find that SHE starts
letting the "I have special feelings for you" talk slip out.
I'm suggesting a way of thinking, behaving, and communicating that is VERY
different from the way most men think, behave, and communicate.
It is "counter intuitive"... it doesn't really seem to make sense at first.
And it is NOT what your FEELINGS will tell you to do if you're not
experienced with women.
But if you want to avoid being one of the guys who writes me a "David, you
have to help me please please please..." letter, then I recommend you
strongly consider this stuff... and use what you're learning from me.
HOW TO NOT SCREW IT UP WITH THE GIRL YOU HAVE
Now I'm REALLY getting into territory that I don't usually talk about, but
I'll take a few minutes and comment on a few things...
I personally think one of the biggest mistakes men make with women comes
down to GIVING AWAY PERSONAL POWER. This usually means acting apologetic,
allowing a woman to "get away" with things that subtly put her "in control"
of you, and behaving like a WUSSY.
Women don't feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for men who give
away their power. Women aren't attracted to WUSSIES.
And what do most men do once they get into a long-term relationship?
Of course...
They start acting like Wussies.
Go figure, huh?
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