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Jealousy Is Power Over Women


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First off, let me say that your newsletters and E-Book are awesome. They satisfied nearly every inquiry I have had in regards to getting started with women. Needless to say my success rate has gone through the roof! I will be ordering the audio series soon. ...Which brings me to my question. This is a complex one, with story behind so please bear with me.

Here goes:
I am recently single and jumped back into the dating game. One of the first nights I went out as a single man, one of my female friends and I kissed on a bet. I did not know of the bet, but I thought nothing of it after I found out. Although the girl that had kissed me was attractive, i had no feeling for her, just as I thought there was no feeling on her side. We will refer the this girl as Girl A. We saw each other a couple more times, with added intimacy but left things on a very strictly emotionless basis. She had commented that she did not want me getting attached, and I reminded her that there was no cause for her to worry.

Some days later, hanging out in a bar with the same group of friends, I employed some of your most valuable tactics and met Girl B. Things were much different. I was very attracted to Girl B and I felt as though I had her attention as well. We talked at the bar, and as it turns out she is very good friends with some of my other female friends. We all ended up back at a friend's apartment, and Girl B and I sat on the couch, and talked for hours. We eventually decided to stay over and sort of fell over. We made a week attempt at sleeping and ended up kissing and holding each other all night. It was everything that I wanted to happen. Because I am a gentleman, I did nothing more than kiss. I felt chemistry and did not want to rush things. Besides, the anticipation is fun!

The very next weekend, there was a party at the same apartment. Both Girl A and Girl B were present. Needless to say I paid attention to Girl B. Contrary to my original thoughts, Girl A did not like this.

Towards the end of the night, girl A made a scene and called me out to discuss this. After clearing up the problem, I went back looking for Girl B, but did not find her. I was advised that she was on her way to the car. I caught her on her way to the car and asked her if I could talk to her. after an explanation of the situation, and assurance that girl A is out of the picture, she gave me her phone #s and that's how we left it. Since, Girl B has been reluctant to return calls and get together. A situation that had worked great from the start is now compromised by someone else...

How can I win back the affections of girl B. I felt a connection with her, and would love to get back on the right track. Our mutual friends have not been of assistance so far. I try calling, but I feel as though if I called as much as I'd like to I'd look like a wuss. I have had no problem with setting up mystery. I drive a hot car, play semi pro sports, and use these things carefully and only discuss when asked. Don't want to look too arrogant! What else should I try, or how should I act to achieve the desired result? I know getting another girl, or even flirting in front of her, while not impossible would kill any chances...

While "Cocky and Funny" got my foot in the door, I don't know if it is right for the situation.
Your Thoughts...

David D. >>>My comments:

Your email is profound. There are many lessons that can be learned from it, and I want to point out a few of them...

The first one is that jealousy can actually lead to love.

This situation where girl A didn't have any "feelings" for you until she saw you with girl B is the RULE, not the exception. If your significant other breaks up with you, one of the best things you can do to get them back is to:
1) Act like you're OK with their decision to leave.
2) Start dating other people and let them know about it.

This combination alone is usually enough to make them come back to you.

Jealousy is powerful.

It's far more powerful than most people suspect. Jealousy causes people to do crazy things and feel very powerful emotions... from love to hate.

Your mistake in this situation was this:
When girl A "made a scene and called you out to discuss the situation" you went with her.

If I was in that situation, I would have just looked at her and said "You might want to consider acting like an adult here. I'll talk to you another time." I'm guessing that to girl B you just came across as a whipped wussy who was cheating on his girlfriend, etc.

Girl B didn't know you long enough to understand the relationship and have enough invested to feel jealous in this situation. Ironically, the best thing you can probably do is get on with your life, and date other women.

And in the future, don't allow a woman to throw a tantrum and control you and a situation.

Trying to "get her back" is a losing game in most situations... because the act alone suggests that you're needy (especially when you don't even know a woman very well, and you're trying to "get her back" after one or two dates).

The best thing to do is get on with your life, then call her in a month or two to see if she wants to have coffee.

Don't talk about heavy things, and don't mention anything about what happened. Just be casual. You've learned a very valuable lesson, so remember it.

As a side note, I want to thank you for your email, and thank you for the compliments on my book. Most guys think that if they "drove a hot car and played semi-pro sports" that they wouldn't need this material... but as you know, if you don't understand how women and dating "work", then almost nothing can help you.

...and by the way, if you're reading this email from a reader right now and you are wondering how you can take your success with women and dating to the next level RIGHT NOW, then I'd recommend that you start out with my eBook "Double Your Dating".

In a few hours worth of reading, you can learn the basics that have taken me literally YEARS to figure out.

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Talk to you soon,
David D.


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