This article: "If want to learn the secrets to making
yourself more attractive to women - no gifts, dinners or
flowers required - then this is the article you've been waiting for. It's not being about manipulating women but instead being about becoming attractive to women. Most men don't get this distinction, but once you do get it, an entirely different world of opportunity opens up."
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I just had to tell you how great your stuff is.
I got your first email (ten things most guys do) and before I finished reading the list went to the site and ordered the book. I figured what can I lose, I don't have success now and I spent more then THAT on my last date and you offer a 100% money back deal.
I read it as soon as I downloaded it then read it again the next day, of course went and bought comedy writing secrets the 3rd day and read that the same afternoon.
I have to tell you I was clueless before I read your book.
I would naturally get a few women attracted to me when I wasn't trying because I didn't have interest in them and would bust on them for my own amusement. Of course when ever I got a date I would turn into major WUSS boy and due all the things I shouldn't.
I now understand and it all makes perfect sense. The best part about your system is that it's not trying to manipulate women it's teaching you how to make yourself more attractive to them.
I still have a lot to learn but it's only been a week since I ordered the book so I'm well on my way. WUSS boy no more. On to the success, remember it's just the first week so it's still minor success right now.
I'm naturally introverted so coming up with spur of the moment funny is somewhat of a problem (I'm working on it everyday).
With that said I decided to get some practice with online personals. I had already posted a profile before so I went back made some modifications and started sending emails. I did ok with my own cocky/funny responses but it was taking a little to much time to write the emails...
I started taking some of your examples and modifying them to my own needs. So far I'm at about a 90% response rate, and I'm only sending emails to the best looking girls on there who have obviously gotten a lot of emails.
One of the responses I just got today (she looks like about a 9.5 from her pics) was:
"Hey...as far as I know I am fairly normal.... I think!!! I'm kinda in a hurry so I can't really write much right now...sorry but I will definitely get back to you Mr. Cuteness! (God this stuff is great, I'm gonna have some fun with this one!)"
Also one of the dates I went on only a day or two after reading your stuff went great. I had her laughing the entire time and even had her telling me about her sex toys. (Most women I know like to talk about sex just as much as guys so if you can bring it up in a cocky/funny way you can have some great conversation.)
Anyway, on to the end. I new I wasn't really interested in her so I cut it short and didn't take things to the next step, but it was great practice and I got an email the next day saying how much she enjoyed herself and that I am naturally charismatic and that if I didn't vibe her the same way she still wants to hang out.
Oh I don't want to forget, I used the you want me thing and had her blushing. Needless to say I'm about to start having a lot of fun.
Thanks for giving me that great big He-Bitch-
Slap and smacking the wuss out of me.
Forever Grateful (I know wussie closing),
D at the UofA
P.S. For those of you who haven't done it: READ THE BOOK!!!
David D. >>>My Comments:
You're welcome for the He-Bitch- Man-Slap.
We all need one at some point in life. Glad I could help.
I appreciate your comment about my materials not being about manipulating women... but instead being about becoming ATTRACTIVE to women.
Most men don't get this distinction, but once you DO get it, an entirely different world opens up... and all kinds of things become available that weren't before.
Another side note: I was just like you when I got started. The Cocky & Funny comments didn't come quickly and naturally to me.
I practiced a lot online, chatted with a lot of women, etc. to polish up my skills.
It didn't help that I had to also FIGURE OUT what Cocky & Funny even WAS to begin with... but I feel where you're coming from. Stay with it. You're on the right track.
When you can identify yourself as being a "wussy" - doing all the wrong things that you think are right to get women to like you - and the guys you're hanging around with strike out as much as you do, well, they sure aren't going to be able to help you are they?
And when you see the guys, the 'naturals', that get women all the time and you ask them how they do it - and they can't put it into words because they just don't understand it themselves, then there's only one guy that can help you, ME - with my book "Double Your Dating".
Your material is awesome! It has completely changed my dating and it's results!
I lost a really hot girlfriend late last year, and it wasn't until I started reading your newsletters that I finally understood what went wrong.
I wussed out, completely. "I just need some room to find myself. It's not you, it's me." Man you were literally quoting my gf!
But now I get it. In the last few months I have been able to get phone numbers every time I go out, if I want to. I get chicks to buy ME drinks now, and had one girl force her number on me!
Gotta love that. Even some of the girls with boyfriends I hang out with every now and then are saying I'm cocky, and pull the old "hit me on the shoulder" and give me the "I can't believe you just said that" look, with a big smile of course.
Man everything you have said makes perfect sense, and really works! I got my first date from an online dating service by replying to this chick with a very cocky and slightly funny statement that I mostly intended to drive her away. She wrote back saying I was way too cocky, but you know what? She went out with me! MUAHAHAHAAA.
I haven't found the right girl yet, but your techniques have helped me weed out more wrong ones in the last few months than in the last few years before! And I can't describe how cool it feels to have a stack of numbers that I will never call, but know I could if I wanted too.
I'm about to get your e-book, so I'll keep you updated on how well that works.
One question though, what's your deal with tea?
Thanks, CL - Dallas, TX
David D. >>>My Comments:
lol.... what's my deal with tea?
It's classy, cheap, and quick. And you can escape if she winds up being crazy.
Try it, you'll like it.
Iced tea is acceptable as well, by the way...
Now, you said a lot of great stuff in your email.
You're not the only guy who's heard those painful words "I need to find myself" and "It's not you, it's me".
Well, now that you understand ATTRACTION better, you'll definitely be preventing that in the future.
I enjoyed your story about the online personal date... and how she said that you were too cocky, then WENT OUT WITH YOU.
Now you're getting it...
And I like the way you think... you haven't found the right girl YET, but by beginning to understand ATTRACTION you've been able to weed out the ones who aren't right for you FASTER.
When you read my book, make sure and pay close attention to the bonus report that comes with it called "The 8 Personality Types Of Men Who Are Naturally Attractive To Women".
That guide will help you understand how to keep the girl you want... when you do find her.
Thanks for the email.
A nod to the 33rd degree Mason of Women!
I wasn't sure I'd be convinced, but you have done it. Kudos, my man!
I'm 30 and I always felt that I was GOOD with women, and many of my mates have come to me for advice, but I really wanted to be (and KNEW) that I was capable of so much more.
I bought the book, read it front to back, TWICE in one weekend, and went out ASAP to practice. Long story short, it works.
I've always been C+F, but when confronted by a stunner (a 9 or a 10) I often felt as though the Force had left me. Not so any more. I got emails left and right, had a few dates, but usually by date 3 I had shelved the C+F.
Needless to say, there was no date 4. And then I met this AMAZING hottie, a beautiful 20 year old with a body that EVERY guy dreams of touching (believe it!). * *We were walking down the street coming back home from the beach (only 3 blocks) and 4 different times along the way, guys were literally turning their heads to look at her, and one guy actually looked at her, then looked at me, back at her again and said "DAMN!" and gave me a nod.
I felt like the man! Then, on the next block, two dudes were whistling and yelling down from their balcony at her "Yo baby, you're hot!" and so I broke out the C+F and yelled back "Thanks dude, but I'm taken!"
She busted a gut! It was too funny!
Your techniques really are worth more than gold. It made such an impression on her that out of the blue she began laughing a few days later and when I asked her what was so funny, she said "I was just thinking about what you said to those guys on the balcony. That was SO FUNNY!"
Constant C+F= constant sex and admiration from her. It's the most basic math. We've only been together for 2 months, but she's already told me how she has never felt so much for someone in so short a period of time, and that it really surprises her how quickly she became hooked on me.
You are the man! I'm now considering selling some of my stuff to buy your DVDs...
Peace from Down Under, JB in Australia.
David D. >>>My Comments:
I LOVE to get letters like yours. Love it.
You mentioned one of the ULTIMATE ways to handle it when other guys "compete" with you for the girl you're with...
The thing that really screws things up for most guys when this happens is letting it take them off balance... and screw up their composure.
Every man is your competitor for a woman, and even more so when she's hot, just as you pointed out.
Knowing how to "hold onto her" at these most stressful times, and not back up and let your inner wussy out, is the key to keeping her attracted to you.
By laughing it off, or even making fun of the guys who are trying to make their move, you wind up coming off even MORE powerful.
Congratulations on finding a great girl. I'm proud of ya, man!
This is O from Chicago sending you a quick reminder to check out "The Maltese Falcon" with Humphrey Bogart.
This movie is just loaded with quick comebacks for women's tests. Awesome. Thanks so much for coming out to Chicago. Your seminar was just incredible!
All of your guest speakers had a tremendous wealth of knowledge that I'm sure will be benefiting from for years to come. Oh yeah, you kicked ass too!
Ok here is a success story for ya: My roommate and I went to a bar to visit a friend that worked there. When we found out she didn't work there any longer we decided to stick around for a couple of drinks (it was our first time there). Well, we just hated this place. The music sucked and the people there were just kids from a nearby college...The total frat mentality going on here.
Not my scene. So there's this cute Latin girl at the bar with her friend who was so-so. Anyway, I asked her if she actually came here often because this place sucks! She was just like "Oh my god, this place does not suck! My friend works here!".
Then I said "Yeah, well my friend USED TO work here and I don't blame her for quitting". We chatted for a bit and I made fun of her big ass and called her a J-Lo wanna-be (thanks Dave, for that one).
Here is where it got really good: When my roommate and I decided it was time to get the hell out of there I asked her for her email. When she said she didn't have one, I asked if she ever used electricity and BAM! I get a huge laugh! So I told her to give me her number and as she wrote it down I drilled her by asking if this is a number that she will actually answer.
She writes 'MAYBE' under the number. As soon as I saw that I was like "Uhm, you know what? You can have this back, I don't need it. It was nice meeting you, bye." My roommate and I leave. The story doesn't end there!
Two weeks later, I get a call at work and it's her! The piece of paper that she wrote her phone number down was the back of my business card!
NICE! We've gone out a few times since then and things are going great! I don't even have to call her, she's calling me!
Thank you, Dave!! You
deserve every bit of success that comes your way!!
David D. >>>My Comments:
This is a great story.
You've described a mysterious process that happens once you begin to approach Jedi level with this material.
There's something about walking away from a woman, not calling her, etc. that triggers some sort of mechanism that causes women to call at the most unlikely times.
My experience is that there's some kind of 2-4 week timer in a woman's head that goes off if she doesn't hear from you...
Again, I have no explanation for this particular bizarre pattern, but it has happened to me so many times that I can't believe it.
Women who have guys calling them day and night will be walking through their house one evening and all of a sudden think "Where is that one guy? I have to call him... why isn't he calling me?".
Of course, as this begins to happen, you can take this as a strong signal that you're beginning to REALLY get it.
And you've got to remember, one girl doesn't make you a great attractive guy... not at the beginning of dating anyways... don't get me wrong, you find someone special hold onto her. BUT while you're out there attracting women one thing that makes you even MORE attractive in a woman's psyche is making her compete with other women for you!
So don't hang all your hopes on the one woman that got your number a few days ago. Get out there, communicate and populate with the women!
Thanks for the email, and thanks for coming to my program in Chicago... and helping make it great.
Dear Dave d,
My name is N, thank you for your kind email. I have had, for the past six years problems talking to women.
Often I approach one that takes my fancy in a bar and she just laughs in my face, perhaps it is my mullet and novelty beard but I don't want to change my image as I'm happy with the way I look.
I also seem to find myself feeling sexually pent up and this makes me more desperate and hence starts a chain of cataclysmic problems in which I just frighten off any women by suggesting she "come back to my place".
I don't know how to leave this vicious circle of dating desperation I have found myself in.
I was just wondering if you had any
advice for such a lost cause.
n (the potential loser)
David D. >>>My Comments:
Mullet and "novelty beard"?
The "potential loser"?
Yep, that's a real question, from a real person.
Sometimes I get emails from guys who say things like "Are all those stories and emails you print real? Or do you make them up?".
Well, I'm here to tell ya... I don't make any of these stories and questions up... ever. Not even one.
I mean, could I MAKE UP stuff like this? lol...
Now for an answer: you don't have to change your appearance... much... but you have to put your goals ahead of you, and work your ways towards them.
If you think that your appearance is stopping you from being successful with women then you have a serious choice to make. If you smelled of body odor, you'd shower, right?
If your clothes were ratty and badly out of style (or you just think that corduroy pants are OK) you'd have to dress differently to make yourself attractive to women, right?
YOU have to decide what the right changes are that you need to make to be attractive to women. OR you'll have to settle for the three's and four's that are also settling for a three or four (that being you) to get any dates.
I CAN help you with a winning personality, a sense of [personal style that is attractive to women BUT at the end of the day, it's YOU that has to be willing to make the changes, right?
I would just like to say that your techniques seem to be flawless. Maybe there's an exception or two out there, but I haven't seen it. I used to be the wuss of all wusses, but then I found your materials. Great stuff.
I learned it all, but it took me a while to actually employ your strategies because I was such a huge wuss before and lacked the confidence and security to really attempt it.
Recently (within the past two months) I have taken that step to actually practice what you preach, and I've found it to be incredible.
All I needed was an attitude change. It was a lot like one of the emails you included in a past mailbag, about keeping that attitude of "next" with women.
I just decided that I absolutely did not care at all how they reacted to anything I had to say. This simple change gave me the power to say whatever I wanted with women, and the whole cocky & funny routine just naturally followed suit. It's great.
Now I've got
women who just can't seem to get enough of me. All
you guys out there need to realize that David is
right. He's said time and time again that it
really doesn't matter what you say, but how you
say it, along with all your body language, and
when you realize that, you no longer worry about
what you say to women and everything becomes more
comfortable. And when you're comfortable,
cocky & funny is easy. So go out there and bag some
ladies! That is, if I don't first.
David D. >>>My Comments:
It doesn't matter what you say... it's HOW you say it...
There, I said it again. Thanks for the email. I appreciate it.
you know im not dissin you, im sure you provide a good service, but i am a regular guy and i like to do for others, especially women i like, and im not gonna hide who i am , im a nice guy who does not play games, ill admit i get played, sometimes, but thats the price i have to pay for being such a great guy. good luck and i hope that not too many meaningless relationships come from your advice, leading to a higher divorce rate.
David D. >>>My Comments:
IMPORTANT: I've included the above letter because I want to use it to demonstrate the attitude of a guy who is naturally UNSUCCESSFUL with women.
This particular guy actually thinks that his approach of "getting played a few times" because "that's the price I have to pay for being such a nice guy", is not only the best thing for him, but also the best thing for everyone else.
Notice the "I hope not too many meaningless relationships come from your advice" comment.
The subtle implication is that what I teach is bad for relationships... and that "doing for others" and "being a nice guy" are the ultimate sacrifice and demonstration of your superiority.
Well, I have some sobering news, Mr. Smarty... Your self image of a "great guy" who "does for others... especially women you like" and who "sometimes gets paid" but "that's the price you have to pay for being such a great guy" is, in my opinion, WAY OFF BASE.
Let's talk, can we?
When a guy "does especially nice things for women he likes", he is attempting to MANIPULATE HER.
Guess why you "get played"?
Right, because women can sense this manipulative behavior, and they take advantage of the perks without giving anything in return.
The only way to "get played" is to walk into a relationship with a woman thinking that doing unhealthy, unbalanced things like taking her out, buying her things, and giving her gifts is the "such a nice guy" thing to do.
Well, it isn't.
It's the SUCH A WUSSY thing to do.
It's the "I don't think a woman would just like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to BUY her attention, approval, and affection with gifts and favors" thing to do.
And finally, your not-so-subtle suggestion that the things I teach guys contributes to "meaningless relationships" and "a higher divorce rate" did not go unnoticed.
And guess what?
The reality is that YOU are the one who is doing things that are leading to more "meaningless relationships" and "a higher divorce rate".
Stop the insanity, man.
Women don't want Wussies! They don't want men who have to BUY their attention and approval. They don't want men who act like WOMEN. They want men who act like MEN.
Do yourself a huge favor. Think this one over carefully. I can tell that you're not TRYING to manipulate women and do things that lead to a more "meaningless relationship" and contribute to "a higher divorce rate"... but you ARE.
Don't you hate it when people twist your words around and use them against you? Well, it's my job, so I have a good excuse.
I had the ultimate C&F "zen moment" at the end of my date last nite. When I first scheduled a date with this girl, I'd been making some comments about sandwiching her in between my 6 o'clock and 10 o'clock (quite literally, I am booked solid... hot dates for weeks in advance, thanks to you and C&F!), so she had better impress me in her allotted time slot since the competition was so fierce.
Anyway, had a fun night of cocktails, busting on her the whole time, keeping her on the fine line between laughing her ass off and "omigod-did-he-really-SAY-that?!?".
We were saying goodnight in the parking lot after, and the girl literally attacked me. After making out w/ her for a few minutes I pulled back and said, totally deadpan, "Not bad... you were almost as good as my 6 o'clock."
At which point the girl practically screamed in (sexual) frustration, "You are SO DAMN COCKY!... and I LOVE IT!!!!!"
Straight from the proverbial horse's mouth. :-)
I'll let you guess what happened next.
Your material has put me in the "driver's seat" in relationships for the first time in, like, ever. I've now been on dates with 4 different girls over the last 5 nights. Girls are fighting over me and my friends think I'm a god... all thanks to you and those three magic words, cocky and funny.
I'm on the verge of nominating
you as godfather for my dozens of imminent love
E. in Seattle
David D. >>>My Comments:
Dozens of imminent love children?
You might want to consider preventative surgery. Sounds like you're on a rampage.
Isn't it amazing how we've all had women we are interested in talk about other guys, but most of us wouldn't DREAM of mentioning other women...
But, oh the effect it has... even when used in jest and fun.
Oh, and if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "DUDE! I really need to be having four dates in five nights", then guess what?
And I'll tell you something:
If you're walking around right now and you have no idea HOW to get four dates in five nights, then that's only the tip of the iceberg.
I KNOW what it's like to not know how to meet women... it sucks.
It's like a constant drag on your mind and emotions. Everywhere you go, and everywhere you look are more reminders of the fact that you don't know how to attract women.
It really does suck.
Well, I spent many years of my life in that same situation, and I finally got to the point where I just couldn't stand it anymore.
It took me YEARS of trial and error, learning, testing, trying things that didn't work, and getting to know guys who were "naturals" with women... but in the end I figured it out.
If you'd like more details, you can go get them (plus watch some great video clips too) here.
...and watch it in action, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
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