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This article: Cocky and
funny conversation lessons that help women open up to you.
David D.
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OK, so get this:
I'm reading through some of the thousands emails I get every week, and I
come across one of the best emails that I've read in a long time.
Are you ready
for the interesting part? It's from a married guy!
Yep, you read that right. He's married. He reads the
articles and newsletters and uses the things he learns to improve his
marriage. Go figure.
This guy was able to explain in a few paragraphs a concept and technique
that I personally use, but have been unable to actually explain and
verbalize well.
I wish I would have written what you're about to read, but I didn't.
(But I'm still a cool guy because I wrote what came before and after it).
Check this out:
***The Conversation Technique***
Dear Dave,
I'm still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you're tips
on my wife. Thanks a million.
Listen, I
keep reading over and over in your newsletters about guys that want to know
how to start, and then keep, a conversation going with women.
I work for a
major oil company and have been through many of their training courses on
dealing with people. One particularly interesting course was on "Information
Seeking".
For this we
first practiced picking up on "Key words or phrases" the subject said. For
instance, I'll try and give an example using 'cocky and funny' even though
you wouldn't use this professionally on the job.
Let's say you
see this great looking woman on the street and you say to her, "That's an
unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a shower
curtain?" She says, "You're mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store."
Key Words:
Old Navy.
"Oh, so
you're in the Navy, huh?"
"No silly.
You know, the big store over at the mall."
Key word:
Mall.
"Oh, so you
like going to the mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your
girlfriends buy them also?"
"My
girlfriends are fashionable dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have
you know!"
Key phrases:
"girlfriends are neat dressers" and "dress is popular".
"Well, if
your girlfriends are fashionable dressers in a popular dress like you're
wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain clothing business." I know,
this is a broad example but the lessons are this.
1) You start a conversation with whoever you want, then pick out key words
or phrases from what the person to you;
2) You repeat them in what you reply and then listen for new key words in
their next response;
3) Add a little something new into the conversation by repeating their words
you're using as key words or phrases. This tells them you're listening, even
though you're turning things around to be cocky/funny in the situation.
Once after we learned how to keep someone talking for 5 minutes, and then 15
minutes, the company actually hired total strangers from a job soliciting
company to come and be our subjects.
While being
videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for 30
minutes.
One important
note: If a person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn't
have mentioned it if they didn't want to talk about it. These are great to
use the keyword technique on.
My subject
mentioned she was going through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total
jerk. I keyed in on this and it's amazing what a total stranger will tell
you once you build a little rapport.
When watching
back the video you pick up on mistakes or you see something different you
could have said. You also pick up on key words and phases you missed. It
just takes a little practice.
This is just
one example of how you can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully
it can be of help to you're readers.
JM
David D's Reply:
Awesome examples!
This is an excellent description of how to keep a conversation going, keep
it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about anything you want and have
it be fun. Read the above again.
Now let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this, and tell you how I use this
technique personally.
When I'm having a conversation with a woman, I'm not just listening for any
key word, I'm listening for a particular kind of key word or phrase.
I'm always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted, turned
around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?) in one of a few
particular ways:
namely in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting
suspicious.
For instance, in your example above you suggested the following:
"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a
shower curtain?" She says, " You're mean! No, I bought this from the Old
Navy store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No
silly. You know, the big store over at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so
you like going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do
your girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are fashionable dressers
and my dress is very popular I'll have you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends
are fashionable dressers" and "dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends
are fashionable dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm
going into the shower curtain clothing business."
Good. Nice teasing conversation.
Now, let's dial it up a little bit:
She says "No,
I bought this from the Old Navy store."
Instead of just keying into "navy" and saying "Oh, so you're in the navy,
huh?", why not take it to the next step and actually make fun of her.
"Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the navy a long time ago... in the
old navy?"
Now you're teasing and busting on her as well, and it's funny.
She says "No silly. You know, the big store over at the mall."
You might try "What kind of mall are you shopping at? And do your
girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?"
Again, you're hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird
places.
She says "My girlfriends are fashionable dressers and my dress is very
popular I'll have you know!"
You could go with "Oh, you have girlfriends?
You have more than one? Do they all know that you think of them as a
girlfriend? Or is one of them the special one? By the way, if you have cute
girlfriends, then I think you and I are going to get along very well."
Are you with
me here?
What I'm doing is not only looking for key words to latch onto, but I'm also
looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various
kinds of "racy" topics.
When done in a cocky/funny way, it's magic to attracting women.
Once upon a time, a guy I know very well went into a nightclub.
He was talking to a girl at that club for awhile, when she said "Well, I'm
getting tired. I think it's time for me to go home."
The guy answered "Go home?! I just met you. I'm not going home with you!"
She said "No, I mean I'm the one going home. I'm tired."
He shot back "Maybe you didn't hear me. I'm not going home with you, so
don't even ask anymore."
She said "No, that's not what I'm saying..."
He replied "And besides, I'm sure my place is nicer than yours, so if
anything, you're coming home with me."
This went on and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it, she went
home with him.
I saw it happen with my own two eyes.
Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this technique, is a
story that a good friend of mine told me about one of his friends.
His friend was talking to a girl at a club, and she was talking about what
kinds of things she enjoyed doing with her spare time.
She said "I like to go clubbing..."
He came back with "Oh, like baby seals?"
Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it's damn funny. I
love it.
This technique is great for keeping a conversation fresh, fun,
unpredictable, and funny (if you know how to do it just right).
Use it when you get the opportunity!
Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was more I could read that
could show me hundreds of great ideas like that, so I could know exactly
what to do from when I first meet a woman to getting through the first date,
all the way up until we get physical and beyond."
Guess what? It's right
here
I have spent years of my life watching guys who are naturally successful
with women, and then refining what I've learned, testing out the techniques,
and putting them together and increasing my personal success with women as
naturally as putting on pants in the morning.
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PS.
If using humor to attract women is what works for you, but you're stopped
cold when things get interesting and she gives you "the pause", let's put
your humor skill into overdrive! You'll need to be ready to start your cocky
comedy lines naturally which means that you need be able to make your words
work for you; to be able to really see what a woman is wearing, how she is
acting, what she is doing and the environment you're sharing with her and
place these things into a comedic situation that makes her open to talking
with you, not upsetting her and coming off as a total loser/jerk.
Now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was something that
could show me hundreds of great ideas so I could know exactly
what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date, all the way up
until we get physical and beyond..."
Well buddy, it's right
here.
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