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***Question From A Newsletter Reader***

Dear Dave,

Just want to tell you your material is very good and effective. I find that women love a guy that teases them and busts their balls. I find that they like it when a man approaches them and he is completely calm and cool, and even better in control of the situation.
Now I admit this, sometimes the way I approach a girl or what I seem to talk about doesn't "hit'em" how I wanted it too, like I seem to get boring, pretty damn quickly and that is when my mind just starts to draw a blank and I don't know, it sucks. But sometimes I say the right things and I just know this for a fact because the girl will either have a smile on her face or I'll see her licking her lips and from what you said in the DYD book that's a good thing.
For example: today I was sitting at a round table with just me and a girl, we were facing each other, and I'd say she was about an 8. She dresses real pretty and I said something like "Do you dress nice everyday? Or are you just trying to impress me?" She smiled and licked her lips so I knew that I was right on track but then I drew a blank. I didn't know how to continue that conversation!
What are some normal topics to bring up in a conversation with a girl? What are some interesting ones that they just seem to be very into? What else would help me to keep the convo going and so I don't draw a blank and feel like a dork?
I appreciate all the help your book has done, reading about confidence and all that did help and now I would just like to touch up and become more than just an amateur. You do not have to post this on the newsletter but hope to hear from you soon.
D from AK

David D. >>>My Comments:

This is a great question.

One of the most important things you can do is MENTALLY PREPARE for these kinds of situations.

Now, I don't want to sound like a weird motivational self-help guy, but mental preparation WORKS.

Take some time when you're alone, close your eyes, and actually plan out how you'd like interactions with women to go. If you've never done this before, you'll learn A LOT from it.

You'll think of things that you never would have imagined when you're taking things step by step in your mind.

One of the OTHER best things you can do is GET A JOURNAL so you can keep notes to yourself.

Try this:
Sit down and write out 20 great things you could have said in that situation, then go through and mentally imagine saying each one five times.


If you really sense that the conversation is about to end, you need to know how to ask for her email/number and go.

You can do this at any stage in the conversation, as soon as you'd like.

Here are a few good topics to try when talking to women:
1. Why women are crazy, and men are perfect.
2. That she should stop thinking of you only as a sex object.
3. What she needs to change to have a chance with you.

Of course, you need to be able to present these topics in a COCKY & FUNNY way so she LAUGHS while you're talking about them...

But you'll find that topics like these can create some good fun with women.


Hi David,
You are absolutely right! Being nice and wussy doesn't work AT ALL!!

Now, this technique of getting e-mail in three minutes. I must admit that it works very often. But it fails rather often too. Guess my success rate is only about 50% or something. That is, 40% gives a dummy address and 10% does NEVER respond. Maybe I'm doing something wrong here. But somehow I get the impression that most women are smarter than that. The most common response to that situation is something like: "What? You talk to me for a few minutes and you expect me to give my e-mail?"

My question could either be: "What am i doing wrong?" or "Is 50% the outcome that you would expect from this technique?". I let you decide which question you want to answer in the interest of your readers.

Anyway, you don't hear me complain. Because I've learned an awful lot from your book. And my success rates have at least doubled, if not tripled, after reading your stuff. And 50% is far better than where I come from.

Now, for my success story, this is an approach that gives me about 80% success. I talk to a woman for ten minutes (not three) and then I say something like "Hey, you seem to be rather smart... or is that just an impression?". When she says "no" I respond with: "Yeah right, that's what they all say! I bet you don't dare me to double check that!". Then I don't give her much time to respond. I immediately come back with: "Oh... you do? Okay... if you're up to the test, give me your e-mail. I'll send you some tricky questions and I expect SMART answers." I never mention "meeting" because that always seems to trigger some "pushing" alert.

Obviously, when she refuses to give her e-mail, I say: "See! That's exactly what I mean! Boy! Am I disappointed!". I very often get her e-mail after that. And those seem to be ALWAYS correct addresses.
Keep up the terrific job David! You are really HELPING!

David D. >>>My Comments:

I love letters like this one. You get good email addresses from HALF the women you talk to for three minutes?

I'd say that you're doing pretty well, cowboy.

Probably half of the women in this world are either married, in a relationship, lesbians (YES!), or in a bad mood. Your technique for getting it up to 80% is great.

Challenging, funny, and interesting. It creates curiosity and comes across as low risk for the women. Very nice.

Just keep working on it, and you'll improve over time.
Good job!


Dear David,

I have to say, I am bloody disappointed with your advice at the moment.
I've used your tips, and written you on 2 occasions concerning different subjects. Your last mailbag actually spoke about an issue I'd had with a woman who I KNOW is interested in me, who gave me her number, told me she was busy and never called back.

I love music, so, I'm always in the CD shop at the local mall. There just happens to be a number of attractive women who work there. To make a long story short, one the girls starts being really nice to me after I start ripping on her, always waving saying hi, going out of her way to serve me on occasions. Hell, once I heard a co worker run out the back and say "he's here" and she came running out to ask if I need looking after. Never really acted interested though, didn't speak about much other than "how was your weekend" talk.

So I start running into her at a club. Again she goes out of her way to say hi. So finally she waved from across the room one day and I signal her to come over as I was getting a drink, she runs over and gives me a hug and a kiss hello!! (I don't really know this girl from a bar of soap). I was really tired, had only slept 4 hrs the night before, was pretty drunk, it was late too and I was about to leave.

Basically I could have taken her home right then and there (trust me!!) but instead I just said for her to give me her number that I'd take her out sometime. Didn't offer her a drink, just said I had to go back to my friends, then we left.

I had been supposed to visit her the next day, it was usually the day I went shopping, but I was busy. I call her the day after, she acted fully uninterested said she was going away for 10 days and that she'd call after she'd packed that day. Such as yet, no call, I don't care, she'll pay when I see her again, in a few weeks (sometimes it's a weeks in between visits). I'd say we're playing a game now.

Also, just recently had a girl who I'd known thru a friend start messaging me, asking to come over to spend time with me, she said 'chat', but she didn't want to chat. I'd busted on her a bit before that started happening.

The issue here with your advice is this:
How the hell do I get these girls to stop throwing "IT" at me?? It's no fun when I just get it served up. It's not like I get a chance to tell them that I'm not easy, they don't say in that many words that they want to sleep with me. You just know.

I like to play with them a bit and see if they're gonna be worth the trouble and I want to know a bit about a girl before I sleep with them.

Damn Dave, what's going on?? I'm just too good for my own good it seems, how can I slow things down and get them to play a bit longer??

David D. >>>My Comments:

You're asking the wrong guy the wrong question... Ha Ha!

I've helped you get to the point where women are "throwing themselves at you", and you want to know how to SLOW THEM DOWN?

Maybe go check out some "mars and venus" books or something.

Or watch some Dr. Phil on Oprah. I don't know... this just isn't my area of specialty.

You're killing me over here.
Every day, take some time to read the sections in Double Your Dating on humor and being Cocky & Funny, and then get online and practice, get out in the real world and practice.

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...and watch it in action, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.




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