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Question From An Ebook Reader ***
Hi Dave,
I'm glad you put together the newsletter because it's so helpful and
awesome! But anyways, I have a couple questions if you could please help
me.
Number 1, I have your book and follow your stuff and I LOVE IT...to say
the least. I've noticed though, that a lot of your stuff dealing with
first encounters and pickups seems to be best fit for the club/bar scene
which is great and everything, but I'm wondering how you go about doing
pickups in regular places, like a supermarket, store, or coffee shop for
instance? What suggestions do you have for meeting women here and how
would you personally approach a women in these circumstances? I mean,
after a conversation has progressed, I can see how the cocky and funny
will work but I wondering about the first encounter if you could help
please.
Second, I see that one of your biggest suggestions is seeking out other
successful guys in your area and hanging with them and learning from
them. My problem is even though I live in a huge college campus area
with PLENTY of women around and lots of stuff to do, I can't find any
other guys in my area who I can go out with and kick some a** with. Most
of my family and friends are back home and I haven't really made any
close guy friends that I can hit the clubs/bars with here (the ones I do
have are just nerds who want to stay home and just drink only). I mean I
can go out by myself but I like having a wing with me-it's funner that
way! I really agree with you though about the importance of this and I
was wondering if you any suggestions on how to find other guys who you
can go out and chase tail with? See...why can't you live closer to me
damn it!!
Thanks for everything Dave and I hope you have more success in the
future because you've helped bring that to a lot of people.
Sincerely, F.
David
D.'s Response >>>
First of
all, I want to point out that the ideas in my programs and books are not
designed for meeting women in clubs and bars only. Most of my personal
success with women, and most of the success of my readers happens in
more "normal" places like coffee shops, bookstores, schools, parties,
and even online.
I think that maybe some people just mentally apply what they read to
situations that they're familiar with, so it might seem that I'm talking
about "clubs and bars" when I'm really talking about more than that.
With that said, let's talk about some of the "how to's".
I chose this particular email from a reader because of the way it was
worded. Part of the question is:
"...I'm wondering how you go about doing pickups in regular places, like
a supermarket, store, or coffee shop for instance? What suggestions do
you have for meeting women here and how would you personally approach a
women in these circumstances? I mean, after a conversation has
progressed, I can see how the cocky and funny will work but I wondering
about the first encounter if you could help please..."
It sounds to me like you're assuming here that you should have a fairly
in-depth conversation when you first meet a woman. I think that most
guys have a fear of approaching women because they don't really know
what to say, or where to take the conversation. I know that was a big
one for me when I first wanted to learn this stuff.
But here's what I learned: YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A "CONVERSATION" AT
ALL WHEN YOU FIRST MEET A WOMAN. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS GET HER DIGITS!
In my book, I teach you how to get a woman's email and phone number in
about 3 minutes. I know that it kind of sounds sensational... like I'm
probably just using that as a marketing trick... but I'm actually very
serious about it.
Now, there's a lot more to success with women than just getting numbers.
But for the sake of this argument, let's just say that ALL YOU REALLY
NEED TO BE CONCERNED WITH WHEN YOU'RE FIRST MEETING A WOMAN IS GETTING
HER EMAIL AND PHONE NUMBER.
Yep, that's it.
And you
can do that in a few minutes, if you know what to do and how to do it.
I've had MANY friends of mine go out with me and watch me get 5+ numbers
in an evening from women, and only talk to them for a few minutes each
to do it. And I'll tell you what... it changes their perspectives
forever.
Long conversations are not a pre-requisite for getting a phone number,
email address, or future date.
I can hear the arguments now:
"But no woman is going to just give you her number..."
"What makes you think a woman is just going to hand over her private
information to a stranger?"
Well, I'm here to tell you that I and many guys I know have done it so
many times that it's no longer a question in my mind.
And here's why it's important to do it this way:
The longer you talk to a woman when you first meet her, the more likely
you are to say something stupid, say something that disqualifies you in
her mind, or get into a conversation that goes down the wrong road. It's
as simple as that.
If you don't waste any time, and just focus on getting her email and
number, you'll be able to set up a second meeting... where you can focus
on taking things to the next level. And trust me, it's a lot easier to
recover from a mistake or bad conversation when you're sitting across
from her alone over a cup of tea then when you're looking at her over
the mango section in the supermarket. Think about it.
So let's land the plane...
The question is "What do you do to get her to give up the info so
quickly?".
Easy.
1) Know exactly how you want the conversation to go.
2) Know HOW to ask.
3) Know WHEN to ask.
4) Have pen and paper on you.
Improve your skills with women starting now!
I recommend that you take a few minutes every day to imagine having
conversations with new women. It might go something like this:
"Hi there, you're cuter than the average woman that I see in the produce
section... are you friendly?"
Her: "Ha ha... well, sometimes."
"So, are you shopping for a special occasion, or is this just a routine
produce visit?"
Her: "No, just here for some fruit."
"Nice. Are you from the area?"
Her: "Yea."
"Are you from here originally?"
Her: "Born and raised."
"Well, it was nice meeting you... and enjoy your mango..."
Her: "Thanks."
"Hey... do you have email?"
Her: "Yea, I do."
(Treat the "Yea" as an agreement to give it to you, then take a pen out of
your pocket (I prefer the Space Pen) and hand it to her to write down her
email. As she's writing, say "and write your number there too... and your
name, which I didn't get...")
The key is that you have to act LIKE THIS IS THE MOST NATURAL THING IN THE
WORLD.
...OK, see how easy that was? Is that realistic?
I think so. I've gotten HUNDREDS of emails and phone numbers with dialogues
like that.
I think a key is to MENTALLY REHEARSE how you will handle yourself so you
know exactly what to do when the time comes. It all has to flow and seem
natural.
OK, to address the second part of your question:
how to meet other guys who know what they're doing...
I think it's a good idea to go out once in awhile to the local hotspots and
WATCH what's going on. Specifically, I think it's a great idea to look for
beautiful women that are with guys, and watch how the GUY is behaving. Also,
it's interesting to watch guys picking women up to see what they're doing.
You'll learn a few really important things first-hand when you do this:
1) You'll see the body language of guys that are able to attract and keep
women.
2) You'll see the gestures and hear the voice tone of guys that are
approaching women, and see how the women respond.
3) Invariably, you'll see some guys are really good with women, and you can
make friends with them. It's easy... just say "Hey, you are the mac with the
babes. Let me buy you a beer. I need you to tell me a few things." A beer is
a cheap price to pay for wisdom.
Of course, you probably realize, as I did, that getting a number or a date
is A SMALL PIECE of the puzzle.
In
my eBook "Double Your Dating" I dedicate an entire chapter (chapter 4) to
this topic of how to be funny and attractive to women. I even teach you
exact lines and comebacks to common situations. I also teach you all about
how to be "Cocky & Funny" and why this attracts women like a magnet.
I have spent YEARS of my life watching guys who are "naturally" successful
with women, and then refining what I've learned, testing out the techniques,
and putting them together...
And if you'd like to get a great introduction to my concepts, you need to go
and download my online eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it right
now and be reading it within a few minutes. It's
here
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy. This book and the
three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women.
Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have
read the book.
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