MY
QUESTION!! So, here's the thing. Dancing this much is a blessing and a
curse. A lot of women want to dance with me, but they ONLY want to dance
(I've gotten quite good). Plus, I'm into the dancing so I'll dance with
several different women a night, and most likely each women multiple
times. How do I use C&F in these situations when:
A) Unless it's a slow song, you don't really have the opportunity to
talk DURING the dance
B) If I get an e-mail/number, I'm still gonna be at the club the rest of
the night. Do I ask her to dance again? or do I ignore her? What if she
asks ME to dance again?
C) If I ignore her, I'm gonna see her as I walk around looking for dance
partners throughout the night, do I say anything as we pass by? Do I
even smile at her?
D) Can I use C&F on multiple women throughout the night and get more
than one e-mail or is that a bad idea? If dancing were a means to an end
for me, it might be easier, but I'm really into this. My job is just a
means for me to be able to go dancing (that's how into it I am). I know
that I've got a potential gold mine at my feet since I dance. I've heard
that "if you can dance you can get any woman you want." Well, I
couldn't, but I'm only now starting to see how I can thanks to C&F. But
it's only a beginning. Please help!!
G.
>>>My Comments:
You've gone over your one question limit, but I'm going to give you a
great idea anyway.
First off, making jokes about a woman trying to pick you up, not being
that easy, being offended that she used such a cheap line, etc. is GREAT
stuff.
Here's the idea:
If I were you, I'd learn how to be Cocky and Funny WITHOUT SAYING A
WORD. If you're a great dancer, then I'm SURE you can come up with 100
ways.
Maybe you could notice mistakes that a girl is making, then imitate them
over and over while keeping a look on your face of "Look at how cool I
am".
Maybe you could incorporate some bizarre dance steps into a dance, then
insinuate that she's dancing that way.
One thing I like to do is MIRROR a woman, then EXAGGERATE some part of
what she's doing.
If she has good posture, I might sit up EXTRA straight and say, "You're
slumping".
Cocky and Funny isn't just a verbal thing. Ohhh... now I'm letting the
cat out of the bag.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Your insight into women and how to attract them is dead-on. Being cocky
and funny works. Upon adopting your approach, my dating life improved
dramatically: I went from dating one woman last year to dating 10 women
in three months at the beginning of this year.
While dating is fun, like most guys, I eventually find one that I like
and want to pursue it further, i.e. become more serious. The problem
I've discovered is that a lot of women in the age group I date (27-33)
are resistant to this due to the residual pain they carry with them (the
proverbial "baggage") from previous failed relationships or marriages.
Rather than take a risk by pursuing a relationship, they prevent it from
progressing any further to avoid any emotional pain that might result if
it fails.
Is this a common problem men my age (late '20s, early '30s) experience
(and should continue to expect to experience in the dating world), or am
I just being a wuss and need to get over it by dating younger women with
less baggage? Is there a way to employ the C&F routine to MAKE these
women overcome their indecision and want to be with you?
LOL,
B
>>>My Comments:
Well, as much as I avoid "Relationship" questions, I just have to
comment on this one.
First of all, I believe that MOST guys would prefer to be in a
relationship with a great women (over being single).
The problem is that amazing women are as rare as amazing men...
If you REALLY want to make a women become attached to you, then you
might want to try a paradoxical move...
Stop looking for a relationship.
If you communicate that you want a relationship, the natural response is
going to be for a woman to play Hard To Get.
If YOU do the playing of the Hard To Get, and you HOLD OFF on showing
the "relationship" level of interest, you'll find that the woman will
pursue the relationship with YOU.
Think about it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I like your newsletter and I really enjoyed your books. I have one
problem though.
My
sister, who is a socialite and seems to have a ton of really attractive
friends, has this one friend. She's one of my sister's best friends and
is my age. The woman is incredible...definitely a 9 or 10. She's got
this really sweet personality, but also goofy at the same time. I know
she's dated pretty boy models and NHL hockey players before, but I know
she's not too superficial inside, since she broke things off with them
after she was unhappy. So even though I'm probably a 6 or 7, I think I
may have a shot, as I've heard she's recently single. Anyway, my problem
is that I have absolutely nothing I can bust on her about. I don't know
her well enough to rag on those Ex boyfriends or anything. Most of our
conversations revolve around our mutual admiration for my cat.... So any
past encounters we've had have been in 'wuss' mode. What would be your
approach to this situation?
Thanks,
C.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Say what?
You have "absolutely nothing" you can bust on her about?
You really need to get a couple of books on comedy, my man. What color
hair does she have? If it's blonde, learn some blonde jokes... if it's
brunette, learn some brunette jokes.
Is she tall? Bust on her height. Is she short? Bust on her vertically
challenged-ness.
And by the way, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH A CAT?
Don't even get me started on the jokes you can make about her being more
interested in the pussy than in you. I could write a book of lesbian
jokes based on your one-paragraph email alone... and I've never even met
this girl myself.
Are you starting to get the picture?
***QUESTION***
Dave,
I bought your book and I have been able to successfully use your method.
Last night I picked up this girl at a lounge by accusing her of being a
liar. I struck up a conversation and started doing the small talk thing
(no wuss topics). I then ask her about her age, she leaned over and
whispered in my ear that she was 20 years old. I heard her loud and
clear. But when she turned her attention elsewhere I ask one of her
friends that she was with (who was also very hot) If the girl I was
speaking to was really 26 years old, (all at the same time giving of the
impression that I wasn't really convinced) Surprised she turned to her
friend saying "You told him you're 26?". I then of course accused lying
so that she could have a better chance of hooking up with me. I then
proceed to tell her how often girls do this to me and how she would have
a much better chance with me by simply being herself.
The boys
at this point were cracking up. This was all done in good fun and in a
FUNNY COCKY way, the girls knew I was joking but at the same time they
were not 100% sure, this really played on their curiosity.
My
Question: Should I make eye contact with a girl before talking to her or
should I just make her feel like she doesn't exist first and then
proceed to hitting on her? Also is it bad to stand at the bar and check
out the women? Does this make you seem needy? In other words what's the
best way of working the room before I start to talk.
thanks. CA
>>>My Comments:
Another masterpiece of Cocky and Funny. This is great... I can feel more
and more guys are getting it.
And about eye contact. Eye contact is VERY powerful.
I recommend that if you make eye contact with a woman, keep it until SHE
looks away. By the way, this is a great exercise. Just go out and make
eye contact with as many women as you can... and keep it until they look
away.
If you're already talking to a woman, you're going to have to work with
the situation. In some situations, you're going to want to be aloof, and
in some you're going to want to be intense.
Just remember not to look away because you're nervous or afraid. Women
can detect weakness very quickly, and they turn off like a light switch
when they do.
If you want to "check out women", just make sure you don't look like a
loser that has no life and is planning to use the images you're taking
in for future solo fantasy role play.
Don't look desperate.
Women are turned off by guys who have that "I'm not worthy" look... and
they're turned ON by guys who have that "You are interesting to me, but
not so much so that I'd give blood just to talk to you" look.
***QUESTION***
Dave,
First, I have purchased your "double your dating" from your website.
Your book and extra's have enriched my life. I had a beautiful woman sit
down next to me on the train on my ride into work. I could feel she was
interested but I was scared. I didn't want to make an obvious come on
with so many people around. So I did nothing and missed an opportunity
to meet an ultra beautiful woman. How can I prevent this from happening
in the future? How can I discreetly approach a woman in this situation?
I'm not interested in becoming comic entertainment for the morning rush
crowd.
G
>>>My Comments:
Say what?
You didn't want to make an "obvious come on with other people around"?
What? Did you want to become her friend and shopping buddy, then two
years later spring an "I love you" on her in the middle of the girdle
aisle at Macy's?
Or did you miss the part where I said in Double Your Dating not to hide
the fact that you're interested?
You really need to get over this idea that making it obvious that you're
not just interested in "friendship" isn't considered bad by women...
and that if you try to hide it, you're only shooting yourself in the
foot.
And by the way, if you're "not in the mood" to make a woman laugh in
front of the morning crowd, then what are you going to do... charm her
with your boring, un-funny creativity?
Think about what you're asking me.
You need to get over what other people think, and get into making things
happen regardless of who's watching or listening. This alone is a trait
that creates ATTRACTION.
Of course, if you REALLY REALLY REALLY want to be "discreet" about it,
you could hand her a note that says, "I was going to say some funny
stuff, but I didn't want anyone to think that I was picking up on you.
If you couldn't tell, I'm kind of a Wuss, but don't let that stop you
from calling me later."
In short, the way to prevent this in the future, is to BE READY for the
situation. Plan out what you're going to do NEXT TIME, and be totally
ready when it happens. If you mentally prepare for the 10 most common
situations that you find yourself in, you'll DRAMATICALLY increase your
success.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I really enjoyed reading your e-book. It taught me so much more than all
your newsletters and articles have. To every one reading this right now
buy the book it's the best $20 I have ever spent I would even have paid
up to $200 for it I'm serious. I went to the beach the next day after
reading your book and used your techniques, but I am kind of shy but I
figured out how to have women approach you... give up. Volley ball. It's
so awesome the chicks will just approach you and ask to play, and you
have an excuse not to wear a shirt show off your body and not make it
look like your showing off. Me being only 5'2 with a muscular build. I
will always say "I'm prejudice of the fact that your taller than
me...but I can accept you for who you are" awesome line for all you
short guys.
I do have
a question though: I can't seem to figure out a cocky funny line if a
girl tells you that you have a big/nice muscles.
Also I can't come out with any thing to say while playing volley ball.
Most of what I say comes off as arrogant. For example if she would miss
I would say "what the hell was that", yes I know smooth lines. I would
appreciate your help on this one I think other guys would to.
Your friend
CL - maine
>>>MY Comments:
Oh, verrrrry nice. Great thinking.
And
if a woman says, "You have nice muscles", just look back at her with a
serious face and say:
"You know, I'm really tired of you women treating me like some kind of
piece of meat. I have feelings too, and I don't just like being thought
of as a sex object."
I have a friend that uses this with amazing success.
Oh, and if there's anyone else out there who had purchased my book and
found that it was worth $160.00 more than they paid, feel free to
contact me and I can arrange to accept the additional payment.
If you haven't yet gotten your copy of my online book "Double Your
Dating" (yeah, the one that everyone in this article is talking about),
then what the heck are you waiting for? Go to:
http://www.doubleyourdating.com/
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy. This book and the
three bonus ebooks that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women.
Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have
read the book.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
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