This article: Understanding a woman's responses to a man's actions is the date-maker or deal-breaker of emotion versus logic.
Tags: what women want in a man, things women never say to a man, do you need to be handsome to meet women, is she into me, women and emotions, what women like in a man,
Dear Reader, I thought it would be interesting to give you a different point of view about approaching and attracting women this time. And I thought it might be helpful to take you behind the scenes, and show you what it's like for a woman when she's looking for a man.
OK, to start with, I have something
important to tell you:
Women are crazy.
I know, you expect me to say this. You can write me later and tell me how this new revelation has changed your life. But please calm down, collect yourself, and let me explain.
Why do I say that women are crazy? Well, because they are, first of all, speaking from a man's point of view.
It's because women do something that seems crazy (especially if you're a man). Women like to say one thing, but when the time comes around to actually act, they do something totally different. I could go into an essay on why this is, but for the purposes of this discussion, the most important reason has to do with emotions.
Women tend to say what they think when they're asked a question. But they tend to act on their emotions when an actual situation presents itself. A man follows a logical progression through their decisions, women tend to understand the issues on a different level and act according to their emotional interpretation of the event.
Here's an example:
You meet a woman, and get her phone number. You call her up. She agrees to meet you the next day for a cup of coffee. The next day comes around, and she doesn't show up. You call her. Something came up, and she just couldn't make it. Did she flake on you? Was she attracted to you when you got her number?
Were you left wondering what went wrong?
Well, what happened is when you were talking to her on the phone, coffee the next day sounded fine. But when the next day showed up, something else that was more interesting came up, and she didn't feel like meeting you anymore. Or maybe she just decided that she didn't feel like meeting you when she woke up the next day.
And you were confused by the turn of events.
putting her actions into an emotional filter it probably had
something to do with her not feeling the same way anymore. Now, if
you're a man, you hear something like this and say "She lied. She
said she would be there, and she didn't show up. She's a liar."
Or you say "Women who do this lack integrity."
Or even "Women are flaky!"
Of course, all of these are true!
Just kidding. Well, I'm not kidding 100%, but I'm kidding.
The point that I'm trying to make here is that when a woman says one thing, then does another, she sees that as being perfectly OK, because she's "just following her feelings". Her emotional interpretations of the events (and meeting you again) have changed.
But from a man's point of view, if a woman says one thing, then does another, she's either a liar, being flaky, or doesn't have integrity.
Here's the point:
Women aren't going to change "how they feel" about this topic anytime soon.
So us guys are basically left with two main
options in a situation like this one:
1) Keep banging our heads against the wall and expecting women to change, and start showing up when they say they will.
2) Learn how to make women feel like they want to actually show up for the meeting, so when they wake up the next day, they show up. Learn how to maintain the initial attraction level through from the first meeting and getting her phone number to making the call and getting that first date.
Now let's talk about the real topic of this article: What women respond to in a man.
Of course, in my usual style, I'm going to put an interesting twist on this concept. I'm going to argue that women will say that they "look for" one thing, but they actually respond to something completely different. All guys know that women seem to be "naturally" attracted to things like fame, wealth, Brad-Pitt-handsomeness, height, etc.
But I've now realized something that is actually pretty profound when you really get it. I now believe that women don't know what they are actually responding to. In other words, these things like money and fame trigger emotions inside of women.
And if you're not rich or famous or naturally handsome, you can get the same kinds of responses from women if you learn how to trigger the same emotions.
So, in the end, what women are really "looking for" is a man who triggers their attraction.
Of course, a woman will never say this to you. If you ask a woman what she's looking for, she'll say "I'm looking for a nice, honest guy who is successful and cute". But if she actually meets this guy, and he just happens to be a wussy who acts needy and clingy, then she's not going to be into him.
In this case, she won't respond to the guy that she's "looking for" by being attracted to him. And it won't work out.
On the other hand, if this same woman meets a guy who isn't what she "thinks" that she's "looking for", but he triggers her attraction emotion, then it's all over. It doesn't matter if he's rich or handsome, because he's done something that trumps these things.
It has taken me a long time to actually get to the point where I believe this at a deep level. And the reason I believe it is because I've never been the type of guy that women "approach". I have friends that are tall and handsome... and when we go out, women start conversations with them.
Before I learned what I know now, women never felt that powerful, gut level attraction for me that they do for my taller, handsome friends.
But now, now that I know how to use my body language and other communication to trigger the emotions in a woman, it's completely different. I get responses from women that I actually considered impossible before.
And it's not because I grew 5 inches or became more handsome. It's because I know something that most guys just don't know.
As you've read in my articles, there are certain techniques, like being cocky and funny, teasing women, never acting like a wussy, etc. that will help you be successful as well. Use them. Use what you learn.
There's a big difference between what women are "looking for" and what they respond to. Don't let anyone tell you any different.
And, if you're reading this right now, and you're saying to yourself "OK, it's time that I stopped wasting time screwing around, and I got my butt in gear and learned how to meet women", then you need to do yourself a huge favor.
I think I've said enough. It all starts with a simple download of my ebook.
You can download it to your computer and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now - just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy. This book and the three bonus ebooks that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women. Everything you read in these articles will make more sense once you have read the book.
...and watch it in action, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
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