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*** Dating Advice ***
I want to talk about an obvious point that's taken me a few
years to really notice.
The idea is simple: We humans don't want what everyone else has... we
want what everyone else has AND MORE. In the context of women and
dating, it goes like this:
WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO GUYS THEY PERCEIVE AS AVERAGE.
Remember, ATTRACTION doesn't make logical sense... Women don't say "Oh,
he's a kind, honest, loyal type of guy from a good family... AND THAT
REALLY TURNS ME ON."
Nope.
Women say things like:
"He's sexy"... "There's chemistry between us"... "I really feel
something for him"... etc.
And also remember: If a woman feels a strong ATTRACTION for you, then
the rest of the equation isn't as important. If she feels it, she'll go
out of her way to find good reasons to be with you...
even if you're not her "physical type".
On the other hand, no amount of gifts, favors, dinners, kindness, or a
good family will make her feel ATTRACTION... at best these things can
only make her feel a more "loyal" kind of love.
So if women don't like "average" guys and the most important thing is to
make her feel ATTRACTION towards you, then how do you do it?
I thought you'd never ask...
First, let's talk about the word "average" and what it REALLY means.
As far as women are concerned, and especially the ATTRACTIVE ones, men
are EVERYWHERE. They're like cars. Every once in awhile one stands out
and makes you say "Oh, that one is nice."
A lot of guys take this concept too far and say "Well, I'm not rich, and
I'm not famous... so no really hot woman is going to find me
attractive."
My experience and research has shown me that women are far more
ATTRACTED to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor,
etc. than looks or money. Sure, those things might INITIALLY get a
woman's attention, and there are those women that will only settle for a
rich or unusually handsome guy... but this is the extreme minority.
In fact, it's very easy to be seen as "above average" if you know what
women are looking for, and you know how to deliver.
Remember the danger: If you are perceived as "average" early on,
then a switch goes off in her mind, and the game will be over before
it's even begun.
So let's do a little exercise, let's figure out two things:
1) What most guys do that women see as "average", and...
2) What you can do to instantly be seen as "ABOVE average" and, most
importantly, ATTRACTIVE.
First, let's talk about what most guys do in most situations (more
specifically, what most guys do WRONG). Here are some of the things that
I've seen...
If the setting is a bar or a club, most guys will either say "Can I buy
you a drink?", "Wanna dance?", or "Hey baby, how YOU doin'?"... or they
do crass things like stare at women with wanting eyes or grab them as
they walk by.
If the setting is a public place, like maybe a woman working at a
clothing store, a waitress, or some other similar high-traffic
situation, most guys will ask a lame question like "Do you have a
boyfriend?" or "Can I take you out sometime?"
Ugh.
These kinds of approaches can only result in you being seen as another
lame, average guy.
Here are a few ideas to try instead...
If you're in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of
women THEIR OPINION on something. I personally like this one:
"Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need a female perspective...
What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of
paying their own way and buying their own things? Like the Destiny's
Child song "Independent Woman?"
Women will usually ENTHUSIASTICALLY join into a conversation like this
one. (I personally like this topic because it starts off by talking
about women taking care of themselves in a positive light, which sets
the stage for not having to pay for a lot of things right up front!)
If you're out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or
some other high-traffic place, you might try something like this:
After chatting about whatever business you're doing there, say "Hey, are
you single?"
I love
this question! It's such a shocker, and it says all the right things.
Most guys say "Do you have a boyfriend?" which is the usual question.
"Are you single?" is much more forward, and most women have to do a
double take to think for a moment.
If she pauses, I say "I'll take that as a YES...", which is pretty funny
and usually gets a laugh.
In either of these cases, it's now time to get the digits and get out.
You already know that I'm not a fan of standing around and trying to
keep a conversation going for any longer than you have to.
So after two or three minutes of small talk and general conversation,
just go into the "3 Minute Phone Number" close that you've learned in an
earlier newsletter or in my book...
Say "It was nice talking to you, I'm going to get back to my friends...
(or shopping, or whatever)" and as you turn away, turn back and say "Do
you have email...?" etc.
These two scenarios are obviously very simple, and also very easy.
I've had guys say to me "Well, there's nothing really that different
about those approaches."
Ah, but there is.
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The most important difference is that you're doing something
COMPLETELY different than the other 47 guys who have approached her that
day...
and you also know EXACTLY what you're going to do and say and the
conversation progresses.
Of course, another thing you can do that will INSTANTLY separate you from
the rest of the crowd is to use the idea of being "Cocky and Funny", which I
teach in my eBook "Double Your Dating".
This
very unique approach has helped many of my thousands of readers to
dramatically increase their success with women...
and to be no longer seen
as AVERAGE by women.
If you haven't learned how to use the almost MAGICAL formula of being Cocky
& Funny, or any of the literally hundreds of other techniques I teach, then
you really need to get yourself a copy of my online eBook.
You can download my online eBook here right now:
www.doubleyourdating.com
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy. This book and the
three bonuses that come with it are the FOUNDATION for success with women.
Everything you read in my articles will make more sense once you have
read the book.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
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