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Dating Tip For Guys: Women and Compliments


This article: Women are interested in what you think of them, only if it's positive and creates interest and attraction.

Here are three ideas about complimenting women that I'd like to address:

1) The idea that women love to be complimented.

2) The idea that women spend all of the time and energy getting ready and fixing themselves up because they want compliments.

3) The difference between complimenting a "special" girl and complimenting just any girl.

Double Your Dating eBookHere are a few things to keep in mind as you read my commentary on this letter and these different topics:

1) We humans (and I'm talking about women in particular here) don't always realize what we really want.

2) We humans don't like to admit what's really going on inside of us because it can be irrational and illogical.

3) It's very important to realize that there is a critical difference between a girl you've just met or have dated a few times and a special girl in your life.

So let's talk about the topics individually...

The idea that women love to be complimented...

Do women love to be complimented?

I think so.

In fact, I think that many really attractive women feed off of attention and compliments. The more attention and compliments they get, the better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego boost.

But... and it's a Butttt bigger than J-Lo's, this doesn't mean that a woman will feel attracted to you if you give her compliments.

Attractive women get compliments in various forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to getting compliments that it's what they expect. As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an attractive woman and say "Wow, you're really beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are you a model or an actress?" etc. the most likely response you're going to get is her giving you the cold shoulder.


Because she got what she needed from you, and you showed her that you're just like every other guy out there that will worship her for her physical beauty.

As a general rule, you always want to avoid being mentally slotted into the "average" and "like all the other guys" category at all cost.

Now, I have started conversations by giving a woman a compliment, but I never let it become part of the
actual conversation. If anything, I begin teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as possible if she's really hot-looking. And I never give the compliment in a way that says "I'm intimidated because you're obviously very powerful and desirable."

On to idea #2...

Women spend all of the time and energy getting ready, fixing themselves up and dressing sexy to get compliments.

About 4 or 5 years ago when I was first learning about how to be successful with women, a good friend of mine said something that totally shocked me.
He said: "Women don't dress up for men, they dress up for each other."
I was stunned.

I couldn't understand the logic behind this for the life of me. It still makes me shake my head when I think about it.

As it so happens, I have lived in Southern California for a few years (San Diego and Los Angeles). This is a place where beautiful women from all over the world come to seek fame and fortune.

I have been able to see things and learn things here that it would have taken much longer to learn if I had lived in other places, because I can see how attractive women interact with each other more often.

If you put a group of attractive women together in a club or bar, and watch them carefully, you'll see something interesting begin to happen...

The women will start doing "catty" things, like looking each other up and down with disgusted looks, making negative comments to their friends about how other women look, and trying to intimidate other women with their eyes.

Most men would never notice this subtle communication that's going on between women, but if you look for it, you'll find it. The fact is that women don't like to compete with each other on the football field, they compete to be the most attractive.

Men could really care less what a woman is wearing or how she's dressed for the most part. Sure, it's nice to see a woman dressed well, but it's just not that important. But for women it's a whole different matter entirely.

Women, and especially attractive women, don't like the idea that another woman is getting more attention than her. And women can tell very quickly if another woman is more attractive... this leads to "bitch looks", negative comments, and other amazing displays.

To summarize, women don't spend a lot of time fixing themselves up to get compliments, they do it to compete with and impress other women. Ask a few attractive, well-dressed women about this and they'll tell you.

Finally, point #3...

The difference between complimenting a girl you don't know very well and a "special" girl
My topic is women and dating.

Women and dating.

It's not "women you're in a relationship with" or "special girls" or anything of the sort. After you've gone out with a woman for a few months or so, and she proves to you beyond the shadow of a doubt that she's a great PERSON, then I think it's great to consider making her your "special girl."

And yes, the dynamics change at that point. You can be nicer... you can be more complimentary... you can do more thoughtful things... At this stage this kind of thing will have a different meaning (But don't ever turn into a wussy!).

But as I just mentioned, if you start talking to an attractive woman, and you immediately start with the "You are beautiful and I'm not worthy" routine, you shoot yourself in the foot.

There's a huge opportunity in these first-meeting situations, but most guys never even consider it because it's not what comes natural. The thing to do when you meet an attractive woman is to actually tease and bust on her a bit, rather than giving her compliments.

This effectively scrambles her whole program and causes her to lose her composure. It takes her off guard and shakes her out of her world... so you can actually have a conversation.

Remember the Mailbag recently with the guy who walks up to women and says "Your fly is open", then walks away? The woman always comes and finds him to say "You're a JERK!"... and then he laughs at her... and the woman winds up going out with him.

Verrrrrry interesting.

Do you think it would work the same way if he walked up to women and said "You're amazingly beautiful" and then walked away?

I think not.

So, in summary, you're right... women do in fact like compliments. But if you want to make a woman feel that magical feeling of attraction for you, then you might think twice about giving them too early on. Women like compliments that they have to work for a lot more than the ones that just come to them.

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Talk to you soon,
David D.




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