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From 'Double Your Dating' by David D.
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Wouldn't it be really cool to be able to
meet women and actually make them feel ATTRACTION for you, instantly? I
recommend that you download a copy of my online eBook "Double Your
Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women
And Dating" and get started to that goal right now.
I'll keep this short and sweet... (you probably get this all the time
and are sick of hearing it although I did not yet read a response so
I'll quit prematurely apologizing.) I'm like a 6-7 in the looks
department and I want to date 8-9's. I'm slightly above average looking
and want to date girls above my range. Is this possible? I can't settle
for less so how can I pull this off with out getting rejected 9 out of
David D.: This is a very interesting combination of questions.
First of all, what would be so bad about only having 1 out of 10 women
who are "8-9" range go out with you?
Just think of it, you could make 10 women feel good by approaching them
and boosting their self esteem, and one of them would wind up going out
You'd probably spend about 60 minutes of time, and about 147 calories of
energy (try a Zone bar or something if begin to feel tired).
Investment: One hour plus 147 calories
Return: A date with an unusually attractive woman.
I'd play that game with you all day long. I think you see where I'm
going with this.
The problem most guys have is that they imagine the 9 times that
they don't wind up with a date as being "cold, hard, shut down" style
And unless you have no class or tact at all, this just isn't going to
My friend Orion shared his perspective when it comes to meeting women
with me once. (I've personally seen this guy get 25 women's phone
numbers in three days... with my own two eyes)
His objective is "to make women smile". He likes to see if he can
make a woman smile when he starts talking to her. Then, if she's the
kind of woman that he'd like to date, he gets her information.
Think of it! He wants to find out if SHE'S THE KIND OF WOMAN HE LIKES by
seeing if he can make her smile before he decides if she's the kind of
woman he'd like to date.
Interesting new way of looking at things.
To answer your first question, OF COURSE YOU CAN DATE WOMEN THAT
ARE MORE PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE THAN YOU!
Look around... you'll see all kinds of stunning women with average guys.
It's actually the rule, rather than the exception.
And try making women smile when you meet them... and find out if they're
beautiful on the INSIDE as well as the outside before you choose to see
WOW! yeah, that's the best word I can describe your techniques with.
I've been in situations
where I can't help but smile, or even burst out laughing when I see the
magic work... keeping a straight face can be hard just because I never
thought it would work so well.
Anyway, to my point: I've
been using the 'cocky/funny/ you can't get what you want' on this girl.
Well, it was working well, but one instance she was discouraged, and I
wasn't sure what to do.
I felt bad, like I broke her
or something... I was hoping you could help me with a line that would
give her, or any other girl alike, a good feeling after they turn around
and feel bad.
I wanted to make sure and
not turn into 'PUSSYMAN' to make her feel better. Rather, something to
encourage her to pursue me, and give her the 'it'll be worth your while
Your advice seems to have
covered everything but this, or I just missed something. Help make it
clear. I appreciate the time you put into saving our lives. I think I
was on the verge of wasting a lifetime before I was introduced to your
David D.: One of the things you need to watch for when you're
learning to be cocky+funny is GOING TOO FAR.
I've seen guys get a little too cocky, while forgetting that FUNNY is a
key component of the formula... and then winding up turning a woman off.
I've done it myself a few times. Just remember, if you wind up coming
across as arrogant and hurting a woman's feelings, you need to change
the frame of what's going on.
"Lighten up... what, you don't have a sense of humor?"
This tells the woman you're talking to that it was a joke without you
turning into a wussy in her eyes. You protect your sense of humor, you
don't have to apologize and you can keep hitting on her, subtly of
Then add more humor.
Women are very adaptable, and if you take things too far, just remember
to diffuse the situation quickly and learn from it. Once she sees that
you were just busting on her, she'll most likely bounce right back.
Unfortunately, too many guys will turn into insta-wuss and start
apologizing. Don't do that!
You are more than just the man, you're the man's man. I don't know how
the hell you did it, but you've done what Freud couldn't--figure out
what a woman wants. Buy the BOOK!!!! There's so much more to learn from
it, including BRIDGES and SEX SECRETS. In Sex Secrets, Dave even teaches
you how to transition into the position that woman hate, but men
love...DOGGY-style!!!! You can't beat this. You had better believe I've
got a SUCCESS STORY.
My cousin (he has a long-term girlfriend) and I wanted to work on our
C&F, so we decided to go to Barnes and Noble... like you said normal
places. NOTE: he went to work on his C&F, but not to meet women.
Anyways, I tell you what:
it's nerve racking as hell approaching a girl, but each time I went and
talked to girl I became more and more confident.
I RECOMMEND this to anyone:
find a friend who has some balls and go with him... it was good having
the support, and we had an awesome time.
In the end, my cousin got
this hot ass model chic's e-mail, along with the usually "you're kind of
rude." (He accused her of faking a cell-phone Call...LOL) But whatever,
Anyways, later we met this
chic... I didn't have anything to lose, so I went balls to the wall with
the C&F. She completely dug it, she was hinting at sex and all that.
PROBLEM: I eventually found out she was married, and like you say,
there's too many women out there to ruin relationships.
The point is THAT A MARRIED
WOMEN WANTED TO RISK HER MARRIAGE TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO SHE FOUND
My question is this. We
sometimes found that our jokes didn't always catch. For example, my
cousin walked into Ravegirl and accused the waitress of stealing. LOL.
She didn't quite take the joke, and she got all pissy (Don't worry he
How do you hint that what
your saying is supposed to be a joke? Should you smile (I know you say
to avoid this)? Also, what books other than Comedy Writing Secrets do
you recommend? Also, we're both attractive (I'm getting a 9 at
HotorNot.com), thus we have to work on the FUNNY part of C&F because
chics assume the cocky part.
David D.: You have some great points here... and I think that
you're going to find your balance very soon.
A quick distinction that I'll point out to you:
When you're first meeting a woman, I think it's better to just get the
email/number and leave.
Then, when you email, talk on the phone, and meet up later start being
more cocky and funny...
This will probably help you out A LOT.
As for married women... I don't recommend going there.
A final note: If you're a pretty good looking guy, you might turn
down the cocky, and turn up the funny.
Women perceive good-looking guys who act cocky as MAJOR PLAYERS, and too
much cocky too soon can backfire on you. Learn the art of the "sly
smile"... squint a bit and smile just barely. This says "I just teased
you but you didn't get it..." It's great.
Your book is pretty amazing, and before I even bought it I started
experimenting with your ideas, and already know they can work. However
there is one question that pervades, will this work on different
culture? I am arabic, and must wonder if this will work with Indians,
Pakistini's, Arabs, and other different cultures? Just curious if you
already knew, otherwise, you'll probably hear from me on my success
David D.: I cannot personally attest to the fact that my
materials work across all cultures, I do get emails from all over the
world saying that they do.
I personally think that all women will respond to a confident, funny
guy... how could they help it?
Hey, your COCKY + FUNNY stuff is nice! It works most of the time since I
tried it. I am currently dating a cute chick I approached two days ago.
She was watching our basketball game....
I have a question... Would it be alright if I add a little "sweetness"
in the COCKY+FUNNY attitude? I am just curious because a lot of girls I
know love sweet guys, and I was wondering if it could be a good
addition. If it is, could you give me an example. I would very much
appreciate it. Thanks Dave, and keep up the GREAT work.
David D.: Don't be "too sweet too soon."
If you're overly attentive, etc. early on with a woman she'll see you as
needy, which isn't attractive.
It's OK to be a little bit sweet, sure.
For instance, let's say you've been seeing her for a few weeks. Get her
a flower, and tell her you were thinking of her.
What not to do: Buy her a dozen roses and bring them with you to the
Here's a little ego boost for you. I've been playing around here on the
net for some time with little success. Bought your book, read it and
tried to apply it.
This is the scoop: two weeks before I purchased your book I answered an
ad to a 8 1/2 to a 9 3/4 and received of course no reply. I used your
tip "what playing hard to get already? Nice. Write me." and she replied.
Now two days later she pulls her ad. I figure she hooked up with some
one so I move on right.
Guess what a month later her ad pops up. I figure what the heck and I
writer a letter. This time instead of being chatty I loaded up the plan
and headed for Tokyo.
This is a close copy of the letter I wrote:
Sorry to see you got dumped. I think you should rewrite your ad and
remove your picture. In your ad you wrote "It's getting hard trying to
find someone" makes you sound kind of needy. Are you a needy kind of
girl? If you are I needy some one to fold my laundry. That should give
you a sense of purpose.
If you would like a picture of me send me your email, but you have to
promise not to drool all over your self and the key board."
I thought I was being kind of harsh, but I got a good laugh out of
it. Surprise, she wrote back today and said she liked my style. I
hadn't heard from her in a week and wrote her off and boom there was her
real name and email address. Got to hand it to you Dave this stuff
My question is what have you heard about patterning? I've read a little
on it... and wonder have you tried any of this stuff? Does it really
work? Also do you use the three second rule?...
David D.: Great job being Cocky, Funny, and just Charming in
general. Nice one.
As for other techniques... I've tried just about every single idea you
can imagine, and I teach the things that work best.
Feel free to try other ideas, but I think you'll find just as I have
that nothing can compare to using the combination of materials that I
My friend Leo turned me on to your newsletter.
I tried the email technique
with a stunning Latina beauty at Kinko's. Spotted her as she worked, she
was dressed to impress. Timed my work to finish when she did. Saw her in
line, ready to pay. Scooped up my stuff and got in line behind her.
Asked if her if all was going okay, chatted about what she did, it
turned out to be related to what I do. She had been in the field about a
year. Then she moved to the register. Then when a second register opened
up - I brushed past her without a backward glance. Wondered how to tease
etc. Saw a line piling up behind her - she was trying to pay with a $100
bill. So of course I teased her about holding up the line... and showing
off... she apologized, that her boss had given her the large bill to pay
Anyway I went back to my
business, winding it up just in time to see her headed out the door. She
was already halfway into the street when I called out, stopped her, made
quick conversation. Asked her if she had e-mail. She said no. I said "do
you have electricity?" (Stole your line verbatim - I HAVE NO SHAME,
DAVID, when it comes to stunning Latinas! Besides it was good fun!!) She
said yes, clearly on the defensive. I asked her if they'd given her a
business card yet. She said no, I looked condescending, and pulled out a
pen and paper. I asked for the phone number, and promised I'd only call
her EIGHT TIMES A DAY!! (Yes, yes, no shame whatsoever!) She hesitated
as she was about to write down the number - asked if this was about
business - (perhaps she was considering which number to give)- I said NO
- because I do not need professional networking, I'm interested in
But then I remembered to
keep it fun, and said with a grin, "or maybe it is business, who knows,
we'll see." Keep her guessing and all that. Anyway, I GOT THE NUMBER!!
I'll keep you posted. Anyway, it was TEXTBOOK!! And it was easily under
three minutes. It was under one, I suspect.
One small point: I wonder if women dress to impress each other,
sure, but more generally as an expression of power or strength. This
chick had her colors flying, but seemed shy and controllable. I wonder
if the power of your approach is that it bypasses their defenses (their
looks) by ignoring them - or not getting gah-gah over their looks anyway
- not getting impaled on the defensive breastworks so to speak - and
instead, attacks with our own strength. Very interesting stuff. I must
confess I am concerned about how to maintain this kind of posture if we
go out. I usually do well on first dates, but would like to try some of
your stuff; also I am thinking I could keep relationships less deep,
more fun, and generally lighter with your approach.
LOL about the whole thing. All the best.
PS Any tips on how to get her to go out? I met her yesterday (Thursday.
I left a message today (Friday) late in the day - it was a cellphone
number - told her I was the guy who had met her while she was holding up
the line at Kinko's, and told her I was "a few calls behind." Left my
name, but not my number. Told her I'd call again when I got a chance.
Casual tone and all.
Next move? Yeah I know, get
more emails and phone numbers, and call my other girlfriends. But
besides that! What's my next move with her. For what it's worth, she is
from a somewhat conservative culture, dressed expensively. I had planned
to talk with her once, talk about what music she likes or a nice spot to
meet, then get off the phone WITHOUT asking her out, leave her hanging
for a day or so. It's not my style, I'm usually two-fisted, straight
ahead, direct but fun, a gentleman but forceful. But I do want to learn
here. So how would you proceed, maestro?
David D.: Great story... just call her up and say:
"Hey, I'm going to be busy tonight and tomorrow evening, but let's get
together Friday for a cup of tea and some stimulating conversation..."
I don't like the idea of wasting time on the phone with small talk. Just
I will confirm your advise to be correct and global. I live in Las Vegas
and most of the girls here are materialistic, superficial, "just plain
bitches" or bi - that's not so bad sometimes!
Unfortunately, this is
"typically American." I have much fun with them, but I am ultimately
disappointed with any American but the "girl next door" type.
I thought it was me for a
while, but I now know I have a problem. You see, this is both my bane
and my success: I have spoiled myself rotten with foreign women to the
point that American women really only appeal to me for sex.
I travel to other countries,
regularly, just to look for hot, intelligent, "not American" women. I
have been successful with women all over the world without speaking any
spoken language but English. Yes, most intelligent foreign women speak
English, but I communicate well without knowing their language because
of the same principles you teach.
To be successful with women it is important to understand that
PLAYFUL TEASING, EYE CONTACT and CONFIDENCE are much more ATTRACTIVE
than anything you can repeat, do or own.
Additionally, the QUALITY of a woman who knows and responds to
"cocky and funny" is significantly higher than the girls who are
impressed by lines, looks or money. It is INSTINCTIVE for any good woman
to look for these characteristics in a man. Anyone can get better at
anything with study and practice. Keep up the good work!
David D.: I agree with you... it is the more intelligent,
attractive, self-confident women that respond most powerfully to the
Most women respond very well to it, but the really sharp ones just LOVE
And thanks for confirming that women from all over the world respond to
cocky/funny. I hear this often.
I just want to say that you are the man!!
I'm sure you hear that a
lot. I've been reading your newsletters for the last two months but just
haven't put any of you ideas into action. But anyways I decided to use
your street pickup routine and works like a charm!!. I used it twice and
got emails for BOTH women, they even gave me their phone numbers!!. I
already have a date this weekend with one of the hotties.
Let me just say that I'm an average looking guy and I'm a 6'2, 400 lb
black guy. I like to think of myself as a "Big Bodied Hottie."
Works so well for my
confidence. I've never had a problem talking to women, I've just never
really knew what to say. With your tips, I feel invincible. As soon as I
get my next paycheck, I'm buying your book. Who knows what I can be
doing after I read that.
You're heaven sent! Keep
spreading the word. Let this be an example to all "Big Bodied Hotties"
out there that it can be done, it's just all in your head. The head on
your neck that is.
David D.: It always makes me smile to read letters like yours.
if you're reading this right now, and saying to yourself "Wow, it would
be really cool to be able to meet women and actually make them feel
ATTRACTION for me", then I'd recommend that you download a copy of my
online eBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How
To Be Successful With Women And Dating".
It's taken me YEARS to figure out, learn, test, and refine the ideas
that you'll learn in just a few hours of reading.
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