Doc:
I am 42 and my girlfriend is 42. She says I am being mistrustful,
controlling, and possessive when I say it is wrong for her to go out
drinking and having dinner with other male friends. She will not
compromise with me on this. Is it wrong of me to tell her that it is
wrong of her to go out on her own, drinking, dinner, etc with these male
friends of hers? She even says she has about 3 of them and they are her
age. She is even willing to give up on us as a couple to have her way.
What should I do? Thanks for your time.
Hello!
Yes - you are being mistrustful, controlling and possessive! How DARE
you expect her to actually treat you and your relationship with respect
and dignity! The nerve!
She says there are “about 3 of them”??? That means that there’s at least
twice that many and maybe many more!
I suggest that you kick this bitch to the curb, post haste. There's a
reason why she wants what she wants - she's actively dating! Some
relationship!
Consider this (which you probably already know): why would some guy(s)
want to take her out for dinner, drinks, dancing - and a bunch of other
"d" words - only to spend their money and time on a "buddy"? You and I
know exactly why they do this - they want to get into her pants. It's
really that simple.
Worse yet, your girlfriend knows exactly why they're doing this too!
She's playing all of you and one of you is going to win - and it's not
going to be you! After all, she already has you, and doesn't seem to
care.
That's no "relationship" in my opinion. It's a chance for her to go out
and look for someone new while she can still claim that she has a
"boyfriend". The fact is, women never want to be seen unattached. It's
something like the idea that you never want to eat in an empty
restaurant.
I strongly urge you to get back into your own hunting game and go find
someone that is respectful of you and your relationship with her. This
woman is NOT. If you need some help getting things going, check out
"Being a Man in a Woman's World I & II".
Best regards...
Dr. Dennis Neder
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