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Dr. Dennis Neder,
Author:
"Being a Man in a Woman's World"
Hi there,
I'm 18 years old and I can't seem to get any friendly advice from anyone
about this girl I like so maybe you can help me out! I met a girl over
at the local community college this past week, and I can already tell
that I'm developing a major crush on her! She is absolutely beautiful! I
have an algebra class with her on twice a week. So far we've had only 2
classes together, but I think she might like me a little bit too, but I
don't know for sure.
So far she always sits across from me at my table, and she's always been
really nice and friendly to me! She always talks to me a lot during
class, and she laughs and smiles at my jokes, so I guess that's a good
sign too. I know it might be a little early to tell whether she likes me
or not, but based on what I told you so far do you think she might have
at least a slight interest in me? What's some ways I can tell that she
likes me? Thanks so much for reading this. Have a wonderful day!
Hello!
First of all, you need to really let this concept sink into your head:
it doesn't matter whether or not she likes you. You can MAKE her like to
as much or as little as YOU want. This is the rule of women.
Men make this mistake all the time - they want to use their own beliefs
about attraction (for themselves) as the yardstick by which to measure
women. That's not reasonable as women are very different creatures from
you and me.
I'm sure you'd agree that women's hair, skin, smell, voice, etc. are all
different from us, right? So too with the way they become attracted to
men.
What her flirting is doing is to open the door for you. She's in effect
saying, "Ok, I'm willing to let you make me interested in you." Now,
it's your job to build the attraction.
That's the way it is, so do you just want to know that she's already
attracted to you, or do you want to know how to MAKE her attracted to
you? These are very different things and I hope you never worry about
the former question again.
So, how do you make her attracted to you? Not in the same way she makes
you attracted to her! She has to be friendly, flirty, cute and engaging.
You don't have to be any of these things. Instead, you have to simply be
"masculine".
I like to use an example of what this means in order to give you a
better picture of it. Imagine James Bond for a moment. Now, we'd agree
that this character is "suave" and "polished", but that's not what I'm
talking about here. Instead, imagine how he'd handle this situation.
First, he wouldn't worry about whether or not the woman is attracted to
him simply because he knows it doesn't matter. Instead, he'd do what
you're going to do: he'd just tell her to give him her number and to be
ready to go out on a date! It's that simple!
Women react positively to our strength and negatively to our weakness. I
know you've heard stories of the girls that "fall in love" with the
underdog, but that's not reality. It's something made up by other
underdogs to give them hope. In the rare instance women do become
involved with these guys it usually doesn't last as they get bored very
quickly and go off to find someone more powerful.
Thus, that is where you want to be!
The very next time you see her, I want you to look her right in the eye
and say, "You know, I like your laugh. Give me your phone number and
I'll call you so I can get to know the girl behind it a little better."
Then, hand her a piece of paper and pen.
Trust me, it's really that easy!
Best regards...
Dr. Dennis Neder
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