Dr. Dennis Neder,
"Being a Man in a Woman's World"
I've never really known much of anything about dating. I'm
26 years old and I've never had a serious relationship. I feel like I've
missed out on a lot of knowledge over the years and I feel like I'm
Where can I go to meet people? How do I introduce myself when I find
Here's the reality: MOST
men don't learn very much about dating! Our fathers don't teach us, our
schools don't teach us, our friends are usually in the same boat we are!
On the other hand, women have all sorts of resources! They get
information about dating and relationships from women's magazines,
books, movies, their friends, their families, etc., etc. Women spend
their entire lives studying this critical information and we guys get
very little - if any - of it.
What most guys do is to wait around until some girl gets so frustrated
that she approaches him - and then he doesn't know what to do with her!
So, she gets bored very quickly and either stops taking his calls or
just comes out and dumps him.
That's exactly why I wrote my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's World I &
II" and "1001 Places and Techniques to Meet Great Women". These (and my
CD's, DVD's and articles) have come after much study on my own - over 20
years of it! Interestingly, women complain about men's lack of skills
all the time.
Ok, let's get to your questions:
1) Where can you go to meet people?
The answer is simple: everywhere! Great women are everywhere you go -
except your own living room. Thus, you need to get yourself out among
Have you ever been in a bookstore or coffee shop or supermarket and seen
a good-looking woman that you'd have liked to approach? We run into
women all the time just out doing our daily business. The problem is
that most guys don't have the knowledge to actually go over and meet the
woman. They spend their time thinking "Oh, she'd never be interested in
me!" or imagining that she'd just shoot them down. In fact, this rarely
happens, but if you know the skills, it NEVER happens!
Hobbies are another important way to meet women. In my first book, I
talk about how important it is to have hobbies. Hobbies not only make
you better well-rounded and more interesting, they give you access to
other people of like interest! You instantly have something in common
with someone that enjoys the same hobbies you do. Even better, there are
clubs and organizations devoted to almost every activity you can think
In my e-book, "1001 Places." I talk about a ton of places to go and meet
women and specifically how to approach them there.
2) How to you go about meeting women?
This is a tougher question, but in fact, there are specific rules that
you want to know. Dating and courtship are complicated rituals in humans
with rules that have been the same for millions of years! Women learn
these rules and expect men to know them, but as I've already said, women
have many resources whereas men have very few.
Two of the resources you have are my books, "Being a Man in a Woman's
World I & II". These books take you through every aspect of dating - how
to find women, how to approach them, what to say, how to "close", how to
get phone numbers, dates and even sex, how to create relationships, how
to grow those relationships into your dreams and even how to handle
You can see this is a very extensive question to answer! The good news
is that it's not difficult and ANY MAN can learn all the skills he needs
to not only meet women, but to be successful with them! How cool is
I suggest you start by visiting my website (http://beingaman.com)
where you'll find a ton of resources along with the books, CD's, etc.
These will get you started, but they'll do a lot more for you - they'll
give you life-long skills that you can begin using right now to start
finding, approaching, meeting and actually winning with women! These
skills aren't tough, but they are specific. Go get this information -
you've already suffered without it for too long.
Dr. Dennis Neder
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