Dating Great! with advice by aLoveLinksPlus.com

My Parents Don't Like My Partner!

DR. DENNIS NEDER AND KYLIE Dr. Dennis Neder, Author: "Being a Man in a Woman's World"

"Your parents on the other hand are free to give you the respect and courtesy you deserve in those decisions. If they don't like them and they've told you (obviously) then they're free to shut the hell up and treat you as an adult!"

Dear Doc,
I have a fairly serious issue regarding my parents and my relationship with my boyfriend. I am 22 years old and I live completely on my own, however, my parents still give me problems about my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years. I love him very much and he loves me very much. Unfortunately, my parents don't like him at all!

He is 29 years old and he didn't go to college (which is their biggest problem with him). He is a carpenter and they have issues with that. He had some trouble getting his life on track but he is doing pretty well now. Basically, every time I am with him I feel guilty because I know my parents are angry. I am going away with him this weekend for his birthday and I got the typical attitude from my parents when I mentioned it.

My mom stopped speaking to me for a week one time after I mentioned I was going over to my boyfriend's house for the night. Now I can't tell her where I am when I am with him and it is absolutely ridiculous in my mind, especially since I do live on my own and pay everything on my own. I have a great job and a great apartment and I don't really need my parents for anything.

They just can't seem to let go, though. On top of all of that my boyfriend is starting to feel like I'm hiding him, which makes me feel awful. I feel like I'm always lying and hiding things and I just don't want to do it anymore. How do I handle my parents?
Please help!

Hello!
You handle it by realizing that it's their problem - not yours.

Just because they're your parents doesn't mean that they're "wise". In fact, this is down-right stupid! (Feel free to tell them I said so if you wish.) They feel that punishing you by withholding their love is going to motivate you to do the things they want you to do. Frankly, that's pretty screwed up, but not as screwed up as you letting them do it to you!

You're an adult with your own direction now and you are free to make whatever decisions about your life you wish to make. Your parents on the other hand are free to give you the respect and courtesy you deserve in those decisions. If they don't like them and they've told you (obviously) then they're free to shut the hell up and treat you as an adult!

You have to help them here however. I'm not recommending that you estrange yourself from your folks, but frankly, if they insist on this childish game, then they don't deserve to have access to your life.

In fact, look at what's happening: you're not changing your relationship, you're just driving it underground. Is that really the kind of relationship your parents want with you? If so, then you haven't lost very much in my humble.

Tell them to back the hell off already. They don't have to love your boyfriend if they don't want to, but they'd better damn well respect your decisions as the adult you are - and treat you AND your decisions with respect. After all, they spent the first part of your life giving you the tools to make these decisions. To come back now and be unhappy about the way you're using them doesn't reflect poorly on you, it reflects poorly on them.

Best regards...
Dr. Dennis Neder

-------------------------------------------------------------------
Have a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer all email. You can write to me at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com for answers.
For more information about my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World", visit: www.beingaman.com

 

Copyright (c) Dr. Dennis W. Neder All rights reserved.

 

 

Dr. Dennis Neder

 

Dr. Dennis W. Neder
Author of: Being a Man in a Woman's World
Dedicated to advancing the arts and sciences of relationships.
Start having the relationships YOU deserve!
Got a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer all letters. You can write to me at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com for answers. For more information about my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World", visit: www.remingtonpublications.com 
______________________________________________________________
About The Book:

Men and women continue to complain about their relationships. Married or single, the same issues seem to keep coming up.

Many men have trouble meeting women. They might meet them; they just can't get their numbers. When they do get a number, they can't get them to go out. When they do get them to go out, they wind up spending a fortune and getting dumped a month later. Of those that actually do establish relationships, they find them unfulfilling and fraught with the same, consistent, almost predictable problems.

This book began life about 13 years ago. It was directed to the single man looking for love in Southern California. Since then, it has evolved into something similar, but much more broad in scope. It seeks to bridge the gap between men and women by combining an understanding of men's place in today's world of women, communication skills, sales skills, and an organized plan - once and for all. It does this by focusing on the man's core - who we are, by evolution, by education, by society, and by necessity.

Men and women have continued to have the same problems for hundreds of years. It's time to put these problems to rest. We are in a woman-focused time in history. Not that this is bad, but it is one-sided. Men have an opportunity to succeed in their relationships just as they have strived to succeed in their jobs.

It's time for men to take their place. To be the partners that women want them to be. Not necessarily what they say they want, but what they really want - and need! As men we owe this to our women. Women crave who and what we are fundamentally. May the joy of being a man become part of your daily life. May the women in your life find new reasons to love and cherish you. May you begin to get along, communicate, and find your best with your partner. I wish this for you.

Got a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer all letters. You can write to me at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com for answers. For more information about my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World", visit: www.remingtonpublications.com

aLoveLinksPlus is pleased to feature Dr. Dennis Neder every Thursday with new articles to help men take their place as partners in a women's world.

 

 

Today's Question

Popular Advice Ebooks

Free Ebooks

Visit our ebook page with many free ebooks. Browse and download. You can download:

More Ebooks

aLoveLinksPlus Singles Dating Membership: Login | Join Free
 

aLoveLinksPlus.com Sitemap
Advice | Dating Service Reviews A- Z | Guest Articles | Horoscopes | Shopping
Free Dating Advice Ebooks | Relationship TestsComments | Sitemap | Blog | Home

Partners

BigChurch.com: Meet Christian Singles Today!

Online Dating at FastCupid.com


Cherry Blossoms

LargeFriends.ca

SeniorMatch.com

 

Register for free now at match.co.uk

Matchmaker.com - Meet Christian Singles!

 

PerfectMatch #1 Trusted Online Dating Site - The Best Approach to Finding the Right Person for You.

Find Love at BBWPersonalsPlus.com!

eHarmony - Love Begins Here

 

Match.com: Find Singles Near You for FREE

Match Affinity: Start Your Next Relationship Here

Catholic Match

 

Personalabs.com: Quick, affordable, and discreet health testing, drug testing, and sexually transmitted disease testing. 5% off with coupon code HEALTHY

Get 15% Off! at BuyCostumes.com

 

DATING sites come and DATING sites go, PLEASE let us know of any BROKEN LINKS HERE ~~ Google+
©1999-2015 aLoveLinksPlus.com By using this website you agree to these terms