Dating Great! with advice by

The Problem: Inertia

DR. DENNIS NEDER AND KYLIE Dr. Dennis Neder, Author: "Being a Man in a Woman's World"

Dear Dr. Dennis:
I've read a number of your articles where you talk about having "game" (the ability to meet women, get numbers, etc.) Unfortunately, I don't have any! I'm more of a home-type person who wants to get out and do more with life but a lot of times I find it difficult to do.

It seems that I'm at war with myself about going out! Half of me says to get out and go do something and the other half just doesn't want to do anything.

Can you help me to put this war with myself on a permanent truce?

I call this "the problem with inertia". Inertia about is that part of Newton's first law that states:

"A body in motion tends to stay in motion and a body at rest tends to stay at rest."

"Inertia" is that tendency for a body to be at rest or in motion. Yes, I know you didn't write to me for a physics lesson, but it applies pretty well here. Read on, my brother...

Right now, your inertia is to be "at rest". In other words, you're trying to stay right where you are because that's what you've been doing all this time. What you need is just a little push in the right direction. Your own mind is the very push you seek.

In my first book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World" I talk about the importance of having clear, written relationship goals. Many people create goals for their lives, but don't bother doing that for their relationships! What a mistake! Where are you going to spend most of your time? Hopefully in a happy, healthy relationship!

Something magical happens when you create the right type of goals and commit them to paper. I'm not going to get into all the science behind this (whew!) but trust me - it exists and it works.

In effect, having these "right goals" will program your mind into action. Being clear on what you want, when you want it and how you're going to go about getting it is 90% of the battle!

Most people set goals like this: they say, "I want to meet a nice person."

That, my friend, is not a goal - it's a dream. When was the last time a dream made you go out and do something positive for your life? Answer: never. That's not what dreams do! Worse yet, it's so vague and non-specific that the very first person that walks by becomes the "right one" because everyone is nice! Is that all you want? I hope not - you deserve much, much better than this.

I suggest you create clear, compelling goals. These goals are going to spur you on to action because that's just how our minds work. You just need to invest a little in getting these goals committed to paper. If you're not sure exactly how to create these goals, check out the book as it goes into it in great depth along with all the things you need to consider, creating a plan of action, etc.

Use inertia to your advantage by taking small actions first. Don't let it ".keep you at rest!"

Best regards...
Dr. Dennis Neder

Have a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer all email. You can write to me at for answers.
For more information about my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World", visit:


Copyright (c) Dr. Dennis W. Neder All rights reserved.



Dr. Dennis Neder



Today's Question

Popular Advice Ebooks

Free Ebooks

Visit our ebook page with many free ebooks. Browse and download. You can download:

More Ebooks

aLoveLinksPlus Singles Dating Membership: Login | Join Free Sitemap
Advice | Dating Service Reviews A- Z | Guest Articles | Horoscopes | Shopping
Free Dating Advice Ebooks | Relationship TestsComments | Sitemap | Blog | Home

Partners Meet Christian Singles Today!

Online Dating at

Cherry Blossoms


Register for free now at - Meet Christian Singles!


PerfectMatch #1 Trusted Online Dating Site - The Best Approach to Finding the Right Person for You.

Find Love at!

eHarmony - Love Begins Here Find Singles Near You for FREE

Match Affinity: Start Your Next Relationship Here

Catholic Match Quick, affordable, and discreet health testing, drug testing, and sexually transmitted disease testing. 5% off with coupon code HEALTHY

Get 15% Off! at


DATING sites come and DATING sites go, PLEASE let us know of any BROKEN LINKS HERE ~~ Google+
©1999-2015 By using this website you agree to these terms