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DR. DENNIS NEDER AND KYLIE Dr. Dennis Neder, Author: "Being a Man in a Woman's World"

Dear Dr. Neder,
I'm a 28-year-old guy and I've been working on my career for the past 5 years and have done pretty well for myself.

I've decided that the next step in my life is to get married. Do you have any suggestions as to how I should get started?

Yes, I do! Here it is: STOP!!!

First of all, I'm not against marriage. I think that when you find the perfect partner for yourself and that you've satisfied a number of other very important life-requirements that getting married is fine. On the other hand, setting that as a goal is a mistake, and is something I see women doing all the time. It becomes not so much about the perfect person as it is the wedding as an event and just "being married".

Like I've said for years, there aren't too many divorces, there are too many marriages!

So, when should you decide that getting married is the next step? After you've satisfied all of the following:
1) You've done everything on your "top 100" list. This is the list you create for yourself of the "top 100 things you've always wanted to do."

2) You're financially and emotionally stable.

3) You've met the woman of your dreams and you're 100% convinced that you'll never meet anyone else you'll feel the same way about.

4) You're ready to commit to making the marriage work regardless of the investment, and,

5) You want to start a family.

Oh, and your partner satisfies these same 5 things too! That's a lot of things to consider, but let me assure you every one of them is critically important.

Marriage rarely makes a relationship better. Many people get married only to learn this lesson too late. Then, they believe that having children will somehow bring them back together. Nope - wrong again! These are all things that add stress to the relationship.

The time to consider being married is when you already have the perfect relationship! You've been together for some time (I recommend no less than 2 years) and you've done all the other things in your life-list. Focus on the quality of your relationships - not their format. Being married has nothing to do with quality, it's only a relationship "format".

Best regards...
Dr. Dennis Neder

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Dr. Dennis Neder


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About The Book:

Men and women continue to complain about their relationships. Married or single, the same issues seem to keep coming up.

Many men have trouble meeting women. They might meet them; they just can't get their numbers. When they do get a number, they can't get them to go out. When they do get them to go out, they wind up spending a fortune and getting dumped a month later. Of those that actually do establish relationships, they find them unfulfilling and fraught with the same, consistent, almost predictable problems.

This book began life about 13 years ago. It was directed to the single man looking for love in Southern California. Since then, it has evolved into something similar, but much more broad in scope. It seeks to bridge the gap between men and women by combining an understanding of men's place in today's world of women, communication skills, sales skills, and an organized plan - once and for all. It does this by focusing on the man's core - who we are, by evolution, by education, by society, and by necessity.

Men and women have continued to have the same problems for hundreds of years. It's time to put these problems to rest. We are in a woman-focused time in history. Not that this is bad, but it is one-sided. Men have an opportunity to succeed in their relationships just as they have strived to succeed in their jobs.

It's time for men to take their place. To be the partners that women want them to be. Not necessarily what they say they want, but what they really want - and need! As men we owe this to our women. Women crave who and what we are fundamentally. May the joy of being a man become part of your daily life. May the women in your life find new reasons to love and cherish you. May you begin to get along, communicate, and find your best with your partner. I wish this for you.

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