 By Nancy Fagan, Author of "The
Complete Idiot's Guide To Romance"
One of the most enjoyable
parts of having a relationship is being able to fulfill your romantic
fantasies. You know, the one about being swept off your feet by a
knight in shining armor or rescuing the damsel in distress?
Knights and damsels are a thing of the past, but romantic fantasies
still exist. A romantic fantasy is something important to you that is
missing in your love life. It's what you think about in your quiet
time. If only you had it, your life would be more complete.
In this article, you will learn how your romantic fantasies can come
true by learning how to make them happen. All dreams need work to
become realities. Whether you are in a relationship or not, you can
still formulate your plan of action to make your romantic dreams come
true.
Romantic fantasies are different for everyone. Each fantasy takes on a
life of its own with a unique feeling, tone, and theme. Some people
have simple fantasies; other people's fantasies are very detailed. One
thing that is common with all romantic fantasies is the element of
desiring something that you don't already have in your life and that
can only come through a romantic partner.
Sharing Your Fantasy
Many times, both partners in a relationship have fantasies that they
would
like to share with their partners, but they don't reveal them. Sharing
a fantasy can make you vulnerable. Fantasies also can evoke strong
emotions.
For these reasons, fantasies are usually kept private. To present your
secret
thoughts to someone can take courage.
One of the biggest barriers to sharing a fantasy with your partner is
erroneous assumptions. No one can read another person's mind. Yet it's
easy to come up with many reasons why you think your partner would not
want to live out a fantasy with you.
Telling Your Partner What You Want
How do you tell your partner about your romantic fantasies? It's easy.
All you
have to do is be clear about what you want and then tell your partner.
I know it sounds easier to do than it is, but what do you have to
lose? If you have someone who loves you, that person may be more eager
to make you happy than you think.
The first step to telling your partner
about your romantic fantasy is to think about what you want. Then
write the fantasy down in one sentence. Have your partner write his or
her fantasy down, too:
Do you see how easy that was? Now that you have written it down, you
should be
clear about what you want. The next step is to share the fantasy with
your partner. Go ahead, he won't bite! I promise!
© Copyright 2004 Nancy
Fagan - Published with permission
Nancy Murphy, M.S.
www.TheDivorceHelpClinic.com
11622 El Camino Real, Suite 100
San Diego, CA 92130 (in Carmel Valley)
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Author Info:
Nancy Fagan, M.S., best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to
Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find Them' has appeared on several
hundred radio and television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS News, The Berman &
Berman Show, FOX News. She has been featured in most major newspaper in
the United States and worldwide as well as regularly mentioned in the
nation's top magazines such as Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be
Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Bride's, Seventeen, Women's
Day, Family Circle,Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of others.
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