How do you and your partner fare?
By
Nancy Fagan, Author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide To Romance"
You can tell a lot about a couple by watching them eat a meal. For people who are very close, a meal is an occasion to connect.
Take the following quiz to find out how you and your partner fare:
1. When you are out to dinner with your partner, you:
a. Share food by feeding your partner with your fork.
b. Feed your partner with your fingers.
c. Let your partner dip his fork in your food and take a bite.
d. Don't share food with your partner.
2. If a little sauce is on your partner's mouth during dinner, you:
a. Wipe off your partner's face with your napkin.
b. Tell your partner he has sauce on his mouth and lick his face
seductively.
c. Verbally tease your partner that you will use your tongue to lick
off the sauce, but don't actually do it.
d. Don't say a word because you know he'll eventually wipe it off.
3. After dinner, when it's time for desert, do you:
a. Share one desert using two forks, possibly feeding your partner
one bite off your fork.
b. Use one fork to feed each other passionately.
c. Maybe have just a bite of your partner's dessert but order a
cappuccino and enjoy his company and more conversation.
d. Skip desert and head home because you're out of things to say to
each other or you have things to do at home.
Scoring this test is very simple. All you have to do is count up how many a's, b's, c's, and d's you have. The category with the most like letters is the one that your relationship falls into.
Mostly A's: New Love
If most of your answers fell into this category, then your
relationship is still in the early stages of blossoming love. It's
like a new flower; it's fresh, beautiful, untainted, and yearning to
be picked. Meals are a reason to spend time together. They are a
chance to be physically and conversationally close to each other.
This is also a time when you are on your best behavior and a little
uncertain of the commitment. Eating a meal together is done more in
an innocent manner rather than acting out lustful impulses to
demonstrate your affection for your partner. Basically, each partner
sticks to his own plate and holds hands through the meal or shares a
light kiss or two at the most.
Mostly B's:
Lustful Love
This category is what poets write about and artists paint. It's the
passionate core of love. You move into this stage when you begin to
feel confident that your romantic feelings are mutual. This is the
time when you want to devour every aspect of your partner: his
words, his meals, his touch, his soul, his mind, everything. This is
when you experience an inability to concentrate, sleep, or eat. It's
when you feel that you can't be away from each other for more than a
minute. Eating takes on a sensuousness as you hand-feed your
partner, clean his fingers with your tongue, and use food more as
finger paint than a consumable item.
Mostly C's: Comfortable Love
This category is the ideal category, so be happy if you are here.
You and your partner have a close, strong bond to each other. After
moving past category B, you eat because you're hungry. The two of
you are still playful with each other, but it isn't as blatantly
sexual as before. Now you are more aware of your surroundings, so
you are more careful about your suggestiveness. At the table, you
still sit close, but not so close that it restricts you from your
eating.
Mostly D's: Red Alert Love
If your quiz score landed you in this category, then you should be
concerned. The closeness you once felt for your partner just isn't
there anymore. During meals, you don't touch each other, you don't
share food, and the conversation has died down. Dining together is
no longer a bonding experience, but a time to fill your stomach
because it's hungry. In the process, you are neglecting to feed your
love. The only way to get out of this category is to include the
behaviors specified in the C choices.
Don't lose hope if you didn't score as high as you would like to. This is not a pass-fail exam, it's more of a practice test for your real-life relationship. And guess what? You've lucked out, because this book contains the study material to help you pass the test with your partner.
© Copyright 2004 Nancy Fagan - Published with permission
Nancy Murphy, M.S.
www.TheDivorceHelpClinic.com
11622 El Camino Real, Suite 100
San Diego, CA 92130 (in Carmel Valley)
nancymurphy1@mac.com
(858) 764-2545
Author Info:
Nancy Fagan, M.S., best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to
Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find Them' has appeared on several
hundred radio and television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS News, The Berman &
Berman Show, FOX News. She has been featured in most major newspaper in
the United States and worldwide as well as regularly mentioned in the
nation's top magazines such as Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage
be Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Bride's, Seventeen,
Women's Day, Family Circle,Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens
of others.
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