By Nancy Fagan, Author of "The
Complete Idiot's Guide To Romance"
Nothing is more endearing
than the first time your partner calls you by a pet name.
One thing is sure—it
signifies that your partner is comfortable with you. When you hear the
name, it makes you feel special because it sets you apart from the
others in his or her life. It’s amazing what a little phrase of
fondness can do.
Anyone can call you by your first name, but only a special person can
make up his or her own name for you. Even friends and family can’t use
pet names on you. Sure, they can call you something other than your
name, but it’s not the same as when your partner says it. What’s in a
Name?
Some pet names are easier to use than others. The easiest terms are
the ones that sound more like compliments such as: sugar, honey, sweet
pea, princess, prince, sweetheart, handsome, beautiful, baby and
darling.
Pet Names Can Be Awkward
Using pet names is a difficult thing for some people. For some, it
almost feels like they are making a commitment by using anything other
than their partner’s first name.
For others, they just feel too reserved to
use an affectionate term. If this describes you, don’t feel like you are
the only one, because others are uncomfortable with this form of
intimacy as well.
For some, using a pet name flows easily, and
for others, it takes a little practice.
It’s always easier to practice over the
phone if you are the slightest bit uncomfortable. All you have to do is
answer the phone, and when you hear your partner’s voice, without
hesitation, say, “Hi there, handsome/ beautiful!” Then take a deep
breath and know that the next time will be easier.
You can bet your partner, on the other end,
will be smiling from ear to ear. She’ll feel so special just because you
called her something special.
It works every time; test it out for
yourself.
QUESTION ONE
How Do I Keep A Man from Leaving Me?
Q: My last three boyfriends have broken up with me and never looked
back. I thought my last boyfriend was my true soul mate, but he dumped
me too. I am afraid of loving a man again, but I can't stand to live a
life without romance. Why do men keep leaving me? How can I make a man
stay?
A: Not all relationships are guaranteed to last...even if you think
they are perfect. Rather than put yourself in a victim role by saying
that all men leave you, consider what role you had that turned the
relationship sour. This new perspective will shed light on the role
you played that contributed to the failed relationship.
There is no way to make a man stay in a relationship he doesn't want
to be in. All you can do is keep an eye on your behaviors as well as
his to recognize—and fix—problem areas as soon as you see them. The
longer you wait to address them, the more difficult they will be to
repair.
And lastly, as long as you continue to be open to love, it will always
come into your life.
QUESTION TWO
Aroused by Smells
Q: During lovemaking I get turned on by smells and they don't seem to
affect my boyfriend at all. I feel like he's missing a vital part of
the whole experience. Is there anything I can do to increase his
sensitivity?
A: Everyone has a different level of olfaction sensitivity. Still,
increasing your husband's is definitely something you can work on. To
help you do so, try using the following three suggestions:
Massage him with oil: The combination of massage and scented oils
heighten arousal.
Take advantage of pheromones: Pheromones are also called 'human sex
hormones.'
They are odorless chemicals the body releases that can sexually excite
a partner when inhaled through the nose. They are secreted through the
skin and especially in areas known for sweating – arm pits and
genitals. To only way to get him to breathe your pheromones is to get
him close to you!
Deprive his other senses: Naturally, when one of the five senses is
blocked, it causes the other senses to become stronger. To increase
your partner's sense of smell, try blocking out all senses except for
that one.
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