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Woman HuntBy Nancy Fagan, Author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide To Romance"

Rumor has it that the first love letter was “written” by accident by two young lovers enjoying a picnic together. After eating a juicy pomegranate, the man pressed his lips to a white cloth and noticed that an impression of his mouth remained. In a romantic gesture, he handed it to his lover saying, “With the stain from my lips, I officially pass my love to you.” The woman was genuinely moved because he had put his love in print.

Love letters are the most cherished gift lovers can give to each other. Not only do they make you feel loved, they allow you to relive the experience each time you open the letter. Not too many romantic offerings carry this much weight. Despite this, they are so rarely given. Why? The answer is simple; it’s because no one knows how to write one.

To start, it’s important to know that a love letter does not have to be very long in length. Instead, it can be as short as you’d like … even one sentence if you choose. “Length phobia” is one of the main deterrents to writing a love letter. Don’t fall prey to this. You can communicate your affection by using many words or a select few.

A simple framework

There is an art to writing a love letter and it’s easier than you might think. Overall, you don’t have to be a good writer to turn out beautiful love letters. All you need is a simple framework to follow that guides you through the process. Within this structure is a set of three elements that need to be included: 1.The opening – How you address your partner, 2.The middle – stating your feelings, and 3.The end – your final words.


The easiest part of a letter is the opening. Not only this, but it sets the tone for the entire letter which is why it’s important to carefully choose your words. For instance, a letter that begins with, “My dearest love” is certainly going to provoke more feeling from your partner than an opening that reads, “Hi.” This is the time to use pet names, affectionate greetings, or a loving phrase. If you get stuck trying to come up with an opening to your letter, try one of these: Hello Love, Treasured Soul Mate, My Dearest, Ever Dearest, The one I love the most, My Darling, Sweetheart.

State your feelings

For many people, creating the body of a love letter is anything but easy. To simplify this, the best thing to do is quote others who describe your feelings in a way you can’t. There is no need to recreate the wheel. Quotations are a good thing to include in a love letter to help you convey feelings you may otherwise have difficulty expressing. A thoughtful, romantic citation is sure to bowl over your lover.

The final word

Ending a letter can sometimes be more of a struggle than creating the body. Not adding a meaningful ending, leaves the reader with an anticlimactic feeling. For example, a letter that ends with, “Sincerely” will not make as much of an impression on your partner as, “Yours for eternity.” The key is making sure that you choose your last word as carefully as your first. To help ease you through this final step, listed below are several to choose from: Yours truly, Yours devotedly and lovingly, I hold you in my thoughts, Most faithfully yours, or All my heart.

There you have it, the recipe for writing a simple love letter without having to fret while doing it. The format is so easy, all you have to do is cut and paste your beginning, middle, and end from your favorite phrases above. You can’t get any easier than that and your lover will never know the truth.

© Copyright 2004 Nancy Fagan - Published with permission

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Author Info:

Nancy Fagan, M.S., best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find Them' has appeared on several hundred radio and television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS News, The Berman & Berman Show, FOX News. She has been featured in most major newspaper in the United States and worldwide as well as regularly mentioned in the nation's top magazines such as Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Bride's, Seventeen, Women's Day, Family Circle,Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of others.

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