By Nancy Fagan, Author of "The
Complete Idiot's Guide To Romance"
Rumor has it that the
first love letter was “written” by accident by two young lovers
enjoying a picnic together. After eating a juicy pomegranate, the
man pressed his lips to a white cloth and noticed that an impression
of his mouth remained. In a romantic gesture, he handed it to his
lover saying, “With the stain from my lips, I officially pass my
love to you.” The woman was genuinely moved because he had put his
love in print.
Love letters are the most cherished gift lovers can give to each
other. Not only do they make you feel loved, they allow you to
relive the experience each time you open the letter. Not too many
romantic offerings carry this much weight. Despite this, they are so
rarely given. Why? The answer is simple; it’s because no one knows
how to write one.
To start, it’s important to know that a love letter does not have to
be very long in length. Instead, it can be as short as you’d like …
even one sentence if you choose. “Length phobia” is one of the main
deterrents to writing a love letter. Don’t fall prey to this. You
can communicate your affection by using many words or a select few.
A simple framework
There is an art to writing a love letter and it’s easier than you
might think. Overall, you don’t have to be a good writer to turn out
beautiful love letters. All you need is a simple framework to follow
that guides you through the process. Within this structure is a set
of three elements that need to be included: 1.The opening – How you
address your partner, 2.The middle – stating your feelings, and
3.The end – your final words.
The easiest part of a letter is the opening. Not only this, but it
sets the tone for the entire letter which is why it’s important to
carefully choose your words. For instance, a letter that begins
with, “My dearest love” is certainly going to provoke more feeling
from your partner than an opening that reads, “Hi.” This is the time
to use pet names, affectionate greetings, or a loving phrase. If you
get stuck trying to come up with an opening to your letter, try one
of these: Hello Love, Treasured Soul Mate, My Dearest, Ever Dearest,
The one I love the most, My Darling, Sweetheart.
State your feelings
For many people, creating the body of a love letter is anything but
easy. To simplify this, the best thing to do is quote others who
describe your feelings in a way you can’t. There is no need to
recreate the wheel. Quotations are a good thing to include in a love
letter to help you convey feelings you may otherwise have difficulty
expressing. A thoughtful, romantic citation is sure to bowl over
The final word
Ending a letter can sometimes be more of a struggle than creating
the body. Not adding a meaningful ending, leaves the reader with an
anticlimactic feeling. For example, a letter that ends with,
“Sincerely” will not make as much of an impression on your partner
as, “Yours for eternity.” The key is making sure that you choose
your last word as carefully as your first. To help ease you through
this final step, listed below are several to choose
from: Yours truly, Yours devotedly and lovingly, I hold you in my
thoughts, Most faithfully yours, or All my heart.
There you have it, the recipe for writing a simple love letter
without having to fret while doing it. The format is so easy, all
you have to do is cut and paste your beginning, middle, and end from
your favorite phrases above. You can’t get any easier than that and
your lover will never know the truth.
© Copyright 2004 Nancy
Fagan - Published with permission
Nancy Murphy, M.S.
11622 El Camino Real, Suite 100
San Diego, CA 92130 (in Carmel Valley)
Nancy Fagan, M.S., best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to
Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find Them' has appeared on several
hundred radio and television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS News, The Berman &
Berman Show, FOX News. She has been featured in most major newspaper in
the United States and worldwide as well as regularly mentioned in the
nation's top magazines such as Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be
Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Bride's, Seventeen, Women's
Day, Family Circle,Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of others.
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