By Nancy Fagan, Author of "The
Complete Idiot's Guide To Romance"
Sexual fantasies are an
intriguing subject...and not only men have them. The truth is, women
have them too, but they are limited to three general types. Women can
be just as sexual as a man if he learns what fantasy buttons to push.
In order to rouse a woman's fantasies, it takes a little work. First
of all, when you set out to stimulate your partner, you need to narrow
your focus down to the three specific types of fantasies:
1. Women with women,
2. Women in Control, and
3. Sexually insatiable.
Too often, when using fantasies, men include the things that turn
themselves on rather than what arouses a woman. Unfortunately, this is
the quickest way to turn a woman off. Women have specific requirements
in their fantasies, primarily, a slow building pace before and after
the sex act. As a matter of fact, the non-sexual touching is equally
arousing to a woman. When using fantasies with your partner, pay close
attention to the core elements in each of the types listed below and
include those details during fantasy talk.
Fantasy one: Women with Women. This fantasy is alluring to women
because its primary activities consists of two aspects of sex that
women crave: oral satisfaction and tenderness. The key to this fantasy
is slow seduction. It begins with caressing and holding, builds to
passionate, mutual orgasms, and finishes the way it began-tenderly.
Fantasy Two: Women in Control. The central theme in this fantasy is a
woman who has the power to maker her partner cum. This is the woman
who plays the controlling seductress whether it's through the role of
dominatrix, exhibitionist, or any number of controlling women roles
that turn a man on. Her arousal comes from watching a man lose his
control to her.
Fantasy Three: Sexually Insatiable. Unlike the other two types of
fantasies, this one is more “manly” because the focus is on the sex
act. Common themes in these fantasies are: engaging in forbidden love,
oral sex, multiple orgasms, orgies, public sex, and anything involving
sexually adventurous actions.
The easiest way to begin is to start out slowly. You might, for
instance, bring up the topic of sexual fantasies. All you need to say
is, “Which of the following three would turn you on more? At that
time, mention the fantasies above. The mere act of talking about it
will arouse her.
So, if you want to turn your partner on through sexual fantasies, all
you have to do is start talking about the subject. It may be a slow
process, but it's guaranteed to create an insatiable woman!
© Copyright 2003 Nancy
Fagan - Published with permission
Nancy Murphy, M.S.
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Author Info:
Nancy Fagan, M.S., best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to
Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find Them' has appeared on several
hundred radio and television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS News, The Berman &
Berman Show, FOX News. She has been featured in most major newspaper in
the United States and worldwide as well as regularly mentioned in the
nation's top magazines such as Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be
Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Bride's, Seventeen, Women's
Day, Family Circle,Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of others.
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