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Hi Obi’Wan De’Angelo,
I was one of, I'm guessing, the heaps of other guys that have trouble with
the ladies that are giant procrastinators.
This was a major problem of mine, I’d think about what to do and what to
say, only to find that I missed my opportunity in doing so.
Then a few weeks after reading “Double Your Dating” I thought bugger this
what am I scared of a little girl who is smaller than me not being
interested. What a way to live life. Worried so much about what somebody
else might think or say.
I’m 19 and had never dated, so I set myself a goal of getting half a dozen
dates by the end of the year. Now this may not seem like a lot, but to me it
seemed almost impossible.
I started by phoning a girl that is in my course at uni who’s number I
already had, and I arranged a study date. When I say ‘I’ she basically
organized it, I think she was just waiting for me to show some initiative
because she sounded almost ecstatic that I had phoned’.
And although I didn’t jump straight in the deep end asking a stranger for
her number, that was only a step away. Now I have so many girls to choose
from it’s almost confusing. Though I prefer being confused than lonely.
So Dave what I’m trying to say is you have improved my life tenfold. Not
only am I having a great time seeing different girls, I’m also doing better
at my studies because I no longer have in the back of my mind how pathetic I
am. I also have made more friends through knowing so many more people. All I
needed was that first little step and it soon snowballed, because as you
know pretty girls know pretty girls, now it’s just a matter of finding one
that meets my now prestigious standards.
Dave IOU my life, thanks.
T.G.
Australia
David D Replies:
Thanks for the great Success
Story! Nice!
Ah, the concept that is near and dear to all of us men who have started on
the path to success with women and dating...
FEAR.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of embarrassment.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of what she might do if I start talking to her.
Fear of what other guys would think if they knew that we needed help with
women.
Fear of what WOMEN would think if they knew that we needed help with women.
Fear of admitting that we're AFRAID.
...and about 100 others.
But what exactly IS fear?
And why is it such a problem?
And what can be done to overcome it?
Well, let's start with what fear is, then we'll move on to some techniques
to get past it.
I once heard a great definition of FEAR:
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real
In other words, the things that you feel fear about are usually not real.
It's usually just "false evidence".
You also might think back about the last 10 things you felt fear around.
Now, ask yourself... Did any of those things come true?
In most of the cases, you'll find that the fear did NOT come true.
I heard once that something like 98% of the things that people fear and
worry about never come true.
I've found this to be true in my own life, of course.
Fear is an emotion, or an emotional state. It's an amazing and wonderful
emotion... because it can help save your life in certain situations.
A hundred thousand years ago, when we were running around in the desert, we
needed powerful, motivating emotions like FEAR to save our lives.
When you feel fear (especially if it's a response to real physical danger)
you'll notice that some AMAZING things happen. Your eyes open up wider so
you can see better, adrenaline pumps into your body, your heart beats fast
to deliver blood to your muscles, and all kinds of other wondrous processes
are triggered.
The PROBLEM is when we experience fear at times when there IS NO real
physical danger.
We humans are amazing. We can just IMAGINE things and feel fear in response
to the mental images.
And I'm sure you know exactly what the problem is with this... it can
IMMOBILIZE you at critical times.
Have you ever seen a woman that you'd like to meet, but you just couldn't
walk over and start talking to her?
No, it's never happened to me, either.
What was the problem?
Usually, it's fear.
Fear that she'll get upset, or fear that she'll have a boyfriend... or fear
that she'll embarrass you in front of others... or fear that you won't know
what to say to her...
And, of course, when you feel that strong fear emotion, it just FREEZES you
and makes you totally ineffective.
So what's the solution?
Well, there are several ways to overcome fears.
One way is to do the thing you fear. If you do the thing that you fear, and
see that nothing bad will happen, then you eventually overcome it and become
programmed not to feel fear anymore.
For instance, if you're afraid to approach women and talk to them, just DO
IT. Go talk to 50 women in the next week and see that most of them will
respond positively to you (if you don't act like a dumb-ass, that is).
Other ways include:
-Understanding the dynamics of male/female interactions better than most
women do.
-Learning how to approach women using the same types of words and body
language that the masters use.
-Learning how to use props or other devices to get a woman's attention
without having to "approach" her directly.
-Learning mental techniques to overcome fears or "reset" your emotions
instantly, anytime you'd like (this is one of my personal favorites).
-Using mental preparation to be completely ready for anything that might
happen.
...and there are several others.
I have spent a lot of time in my own personal life learning about and
figuring out how to get past fears and other psychological obstacles with
women.
I teach several concepts and guided exercises specifically for overcoming
fear, programming yourself for success, and programming your mind to succeed
with women.
It's taken me many years to find the different types of exercises and
technologies that you can learn in a few hours of listening and practice.
I also go over a few different strategies for handling your fears in my
eBook "Double Your Dating". It's my original manual for success with women
and dating, and it's the place to get started if you want to take your
success with women to the next level. You can download it at:
www.doubleyourdating.com
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
SuccessStories@doubleyourdating.com
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