How To Get A Great Girl
What is your fear of women all about?
Do you understand that women are people too?
Attracting a woman is about igniting an incredible array of ADDICTIVE emotions in her. The thing though is that in order to be able to do this to her, you FIRST have to do this in YOURSELF.
Most people think that there are just two
emotions- pain and pleasure, but the reality is
that this is like saying there are only two colors -
black and white, or like saying there are onlytwo sounds- "on" and "off".
Think about how many different songs
there are on this Earth, just now in
our current civilization, never mind
if you include from all over the planet
since the dawn of human civilization.
Think about all the art of all sorts,
that's ever been created.
This should give you an idea of the reality that there are BILLIONS of awesome emotions, because there are so many various shades and hues of emotions, as well as combinations of these emotions that create new emotions.
All the result of the human experience.
And they're all WAITING there, inside your mind, WAITING to be UNLEASHED.
In the same way a painter has an array of colors that he can choose to use in all kinds of ways to create works of art, or a writer uses words to create emotion, you must learn to unleash the full array of your awesome EMOTIONS --- and this will naturally create the right emotions in a woman that will attract her to you.
It's actually not hard to do, it's the most primitive and easy thing to, if you just LEARN how to unleash them, --ONCE you unleash these dimensions of yourself you AUTOMATICALLY know exactly what to DO with the emotions because they TELL you what to do INSTINCTIVELY. They actually TAKE OVER your body and mind anyway it's THAT easy.
But what is the number one thing that HOLDS YOU BACK??????
IT'S THE INFINITE FORMS OF FEAR.
Most of the men you see around you will experience perhaps a dozen emotions in their life, and most of them will be negative emotions, with just a few good ones, on a regular basis.
On the 'Get A Great Girl' forum here courageous men are currently FACING their greatest fears, by actually WRITING THEM DOWN, and then slowly realizing what total B.S. their fears are!!!!
I encourage you to visit the forum and do the same--- the first step is acknowledging that YOU can TAKE control back over this fear, even if you don't know exactly HOW yet. (There's also a ton of other incredible resources for you to use at this forum!)
And the first step after that is to write that fear down, and stare it right in the face and then you must GO AHEAD AND CONFRONT the fear- so if you think you are not good looking enough, for example, then you must GO AND APPROACH WOMEN anyway even if you FEEL the fear. Susan Jeffer's book on this "Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway" is a great read on this. The other thing you must realize is that at FIRST, facing your fears will feel WORSE than your previous strategy of AVOIDING your fears.
Of course, at first it feels worse, because you are now throwing away the crappy strategy you were clinging on to for who knows HOW long- a strategy of "TOTAL RISK AVOIDANCE". So now that you are actually for example APPROACHING THE WOMAN, you are allowing some RISK into your life--- for the first time.
But like I said, the strategy of avoidance, of GIVING IN to your fears is a crappy strategy because it only feeds the fears and makes the fear stronger, because you REWARD yourself for NOT taking action all those times with the slight reward of "at least I for SURE avoided pain". So by avoiding all emotional risk, you program yourself to NEVER get rewarded for taking any emotional risk.
So YES, at first, when you decide to face your fears, it WILL feel WORSE!!!!!!! But it will then QUICKLY START TO FEEL WAYYYYYYYYYYYY BETTER.
You have to KNOW this, in advance, or you will QUIT, and never get to the "other side" of LIBERATION from the crazy fears that are holding you hostage to a life of being WAY LESS than you could be.
The crazy thing about fear is that it actually makes you think it is not just an emotion, it makes you think that the feelings are INTELLIGENT and ACCRUATE indicators of reality when the truth is they are usually WAY OFF, especially when it comes to your future with women and with getting a great woman.
It doesn't matter what the fear is, it might be that you feel you are not cool enough, rich enough, experienced enough, it DOESN'T matter.
The ONLY way to get ahead of your fears and beat them is to EMBRACE the POSSIBILITY that you CAN get over them, to EMBRACE the possibility that maybe your fears are actually HOGWASH and NOT true EVEN though they FEEEEL so real and so true.
Remember, feelings are not always serving you WELL. Just because you feel a fear, does NOT mean there is necessarily a good reason for you to CONTINUE to feel that fear.
Pushing OUT of your comfort zone, on a regular basis, is the only way to overcoming your fears.
And when you finally get OUT of that fear, you will experience a TIDAL WAVE of emotions that are so powerful, that are so LIBERATING, so EMPOWERING, and that make you feel so "manly" in the truest sense of the word, that you AUTOMATICALLY start to become a trillion times more fun, more funny, more charismatic, more warm, more secure, more EVERYTHING.
You start to get an IMMEDIATE grasp of what I mean when I say that there are INFINITE cool emotions out there that every human SHOULD get to experience, but is held back hostage by his FEARS.
Fear is SUCH a bastard, I really hate it, it's the greatest evil there is, it's responsible for so much pain and so much destruction, both emotionally and physically.
Once you understand this, you will even get to understand a woman a billion times better, you will see how the things she is saying and the things she is doing are often the product of fear. And if you just make sure to respond to her in a way that is NOT fear-based, you will capture her heart, because it's such a magical feeling. This is why I say to ABANDON the "pick up artist" tactics, because they are FEAR based, they are based on how to supposedly AVOID rejection, when in reality the BEST way to approach a woman is with the following mindset:
'HOW WOULD I BEHAVE IF I KNEW SHE LOOOOOOOOOOVED ME??"
So the question is not 'How do I approach her or talk to her in a way that she doesn't directly reject me"- That type of approach CONVEYS FEAR, and it will SHOW in your demeanor, your voice, your body language, etc.
Instead, say "screw that attitude" and embrace the attitude of the WINNER- which is- "How would I behave with her if I knew she LOVED me???????????????"
When you adopt THAT mindset, then your entire PICTURE of the situation is different, since you can now go in with being KIND as WELL as being MASCULINE, since you have no need to be so worried about how to DEFLECT some "rejection".
There are so many levels to unleashing all the infinite emotions, but the first step to unleashing them so you can be the cool, charismatic man you were born to be, is to embrace your natural value, TO EMBRACE the idea that you yourself have INTRINSIC value.
And you will NEVER do that if you feel you have to COVER UP who you are with some line or tactic.
Now, at first, yes, you might NOT come across as the BEST you could be- because it's the first step in your development, but by learning to get COMFORTABLE with putting YOURSELF out there and not some MASK, your confidence SKYROCKETS for REAL, and NOW you WILL truly have some awesome things to say, and they will all be SPONTANEOUS and natural from you. And even when you don't happen to have something really kick-ass to say, your GENUINE confidence will result in superior body language and tonality and delivery of the words of WHATEVER you say so that it is wayyyy better than even the BEST of the "clever" lines delivered by a supposed "pick up artist".
No need to feel ashamed putting YOURSELF out there and showing YOUR REAL personality to a woman, in fact it's REQUIRED.
We are living in a society that feeds fear, that nurtures fear, that often DEPENDS on fear. From ads on television to fitness magazines to pornographic materials, to many of the supposed "men's advice" magazines, they are all using the element of FEAR to make you feel INSECURE, to make you feel that you are NOT good enough.
Human being are FASCINATED and HYPNOTIZED by FEAR, and made vulnerable by fear- to the point that they will become desperate and do anything even listen to the very people who are FEEDING the fear, as long as the people feeding the fear CLAIM that they can help END the fear.
And by the way, women are actually experiencing this same ATTACK on them as well, by a society that makes them feel they are not good enough unless they are a,b,c,d,e all the way to z and beyond. When you give yourself permission to be a MAN, and you show security in being YOURSELF, you actually help a woman feel it's okay for her to HERSELF, and this is just the tip of the iceberg of the incredible emotions you can instill in a woman, and yet still just this ALONE will create massive results.
For every fear that society tries to ENSLAVE you to, if you just say "F*** IT" TO THAT FEAR, you will immediately experience an EMPOWERING emotion that is even MORE intense and powerful than that fear, because you have CONQUERED it!
For every type of fear, there is also a COUNTER emotion, which is the specific flavor of POSITIVE emotion from being liberated from that fear! And for every COMBINATION of fears, there is a counter emotion of what it feels like to be FREE of that combination of fears!
In fact, the very negative itself gives you the potential to feel that much more AWESOME if you can KICK the negative out the door. No matter where you are at now, no matter how low it feels, just remember how much more AWESOME it will be when you CONQUER that fear.
These unique combinations are what you UNIQUE and SPECIAL.
You will be able to produce emotions in yourself and in women, that no other guy has ever done, ever.
This is similar to how there are hundreds of THOUSANDS of songs out there, yet no two are exactly the same.
And even these awesome emotions are just PART of the MASSIVE AND INFINITE array of other intoxicatingly cool emotions that are available to you, if you just realize they are OUT THERE FOR THE TAKING!!!
All you have to do to get ANY woman out there is be able to harness the energy of this INFINITE source of emotions in your MIND- yet most men barely experience even 1% of their emotional potential. It's like a painter of Leonardo Da Vinci's potential being limited to using only a worn down grey pencil, and I'm telling you that EVERY MAN has infinite emotional potential - unlike musical or painting talent, EVERY MAN has BILLIONS OF COOL EMOTIONS inside of him, yet he barely taps even 1% of them.
And the first BARRIER to these emotions that must be destroyed is FEAR.
When you lift the fear, and you are sufficiently emotionally resourceful, when you are sufficiently emotionally FUELLED, you are able to see yourself in a new light, you are able to see all kinds of things you never saw before, you are able to see your REAL potential, you are able to reframe any situation to your ADVANTAGE, all because of one thing: Human beings aren't drawn to facts and figures, they are drawn to people who make them feel ALIVE.
And we never feel more alive than we are experiencing an ONSLAUGHT of great emotions.
To become that man, you need to learn how to build your foundation from the ground up, and I'd love to show you how.
The first step is devouring my 'Get A Great Girl' book here.
This book will show you how to BECOME the man you were BORN to be. It's not about "tactics", it's about developing the characteristics that naturally attract.
I'll see you again here soon.
Best,
Michael Marks
Guys can
find out more about "Get A Great Girl"
here.
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