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This
article is dedicated to every
single GOOD MAN out there, I swear to
every one of you guys, this is beyond
anything you have ever imagined- this
truly IS a world movement toward men
attracting quality women through the
power of CHARACTER.
Let's start off with a letter from a man who has for the first time in his life experienced a life-changing event:
>>>LETTER FROM A READER<<<
Dear Michael,
Just a few weeks ago, I broke up with a Girl after I was convinced she was "no good" and that she was taking advantage of me and even being less than faithful.
It hurt like hell, because I really loved this woman, but I thought it was still better than staying with the wrong woman.
The thing is, I never suspected these things, UNTIL I started to get "enlightened" by reading dating forums and the stuff by the dating gurus and "pick up artists" out there. Suddenly, I started to hear alarm bells ringing everywhere, and I would "confront" her on things and have arguments al the time.
And then I thought I was doing the smart thing by using what you would refer to as those "sugar coated insults" to lower her self-esteem, (such as for example, when she asked me what I thought of her new hair style, I said "ohh it's nice" but made sure to say it on purpose in a NON CONVINCING way so that she would think I was trying to be nice, but that I didn't really mean it, to really deliver the most impact) and this even seemed to give me the "upper hand" for a while, she would give in more often to me this way, and cry and I felt I had been proven right, and it made me even more upset at her, as if she finally admitted that she was wrong all this time and that she was playing games with me.
After telling my best friend how stressed out I was, he told me all about you and the things he had been learning.
I downloaded your Get A Great Girl book and it hit me like a TON of BRICKS. I started to realize that this woman was actually a fantastic woman and that it was my insecurities that were distorting my perception.
I realized how badly I must have hurt this girl, and for the first time in my life I actually felt even worse to be on the giving end of pain than on the receiving end. This was a precious good woman, and all along I had been hurting her, and she was just trying to be patient with me.
In fact, I even remember her once saying, after I told her that I now had insight into women, and I then showed her the "pick up artist" and "dating guru" forums and books that I had been reading, (I wanted her to know that I was wise to her "games") she said to me: "I wish you wouldn't read those things- it makes you crazy and think that I'm out to get you and hurt you"
And of course, the gurus had instructed me that women cannot be trusted to be straight up and honest, that women must be manipulated, so I got even more angry at her, telling her that she only hated the fact I was reading that material because it meant that she could no longer get away with her games!
And this made her even more sad, and then angry, which made me even more angry that she would not ADMIT the "truth".
Michael, man, let me tell you how deep this rabbit hole of evil goes. I now know why the dating gurus and pick up artists always say "don't show my book or materials to women"! It's because the materials is NOT TRUE! It's because women can expose it for what it is.
Anyway, I can go on for so much more, Michael, but let me just say one more thing- the thing in your book that really hit home was when you broke apart the deception on how these supposed "pick up artists" get women to cheat on their boyfriends - there's even a guy out there who has a recording of him getting a woman to kiss him, supposedly in front of her boyfriend, and when I saw that I truly lost faith in women for what I thought was forever.
I had no clue that what's REALLY going on is that these girls who are doing this are not in a serious relationship at all, and they are half-drunk as well. They are not "cheating" on anyone!!!
Why do these "gurus" try to make us think that all women love clubs and love cheating when it's not true? It can only be to try to ruin our confidence, when we need to have MORE confidence, and be more empowered!!!
Anyway man, I had to seriously throw away my pride and I didn't know how to get the guts to go back to her and admit what a freaking idiot I have been.
Until I read the part in your book about what it really means to be a man, and how to face your fears, and the one thing I feared most at this point, was her reaction to me telling her the truth. The idea of me looking like such a "loser" for being so stupid.
And so I knew I had only one thing left to do, according to you. If I repressed this issue, it would only get worse. So I practiced the exercises you explain in your book, for about ten minutes, got at peace with the idea of facing her, and then that night literally knocked on her door, - this fantastic woman that has had so much patience with me, and I BEGGED for forgiveness:
I did this not because I wanted to kiss up to her, but because I truly realized my errors, and that it took more strength to admit that I used to be super insecure, and that the dating guru and pick up artist advice was the ultimate in being a wuss.
How about that for irony?
I wanted her to know that the reason for my hurtful behavior had nothing to do with her, that it had to do with my own issues. I wanted to take the pain that I had caused away.
The ultimate wusses are the pick up artists and manipulative dating gurus, who need to hide behind lies about women, who need to try to put down women, who need to try to control everything because they are so scared of women. Please put that in your article if you only print one thing.
What were some of the things that I thought were reasons for why she was no good, you ask?
Things like her getting upset when I wouldn't ever pay for things. After all, the dating gurus and pick up artists all mocked any man who ever paid for a woman for anything. It made him a "beta male". The crazy thing is that this woman would sometimes pay for me! I know, crazy that I should think that SHE was the bad one, but it didn't seem crazy to me at the time.
And her reply to me? She was pissed off, and to that I AGAIN followed your genius advice that you explain, I totally did every single thing in my power to embrace her perspective, I did NOT fight her, I knew she deserved to make her point and feelings known.
I was truly a MAN at that point, because I did it all for her, not for my own ego- she deserved to know the truth about why I was so messed up.
She agreed to meet me again though, and she even told me she had a new respect for me, but that it was up to time now to prove it all for real. And I could tell from the way she held me that she deeply wants this to work as well.
And man, Michael, this is far more than I could have ever expected after realizing how much pain I must have put her through, and I will never ever forget the lessons you have helped me learn.
I hope you print this letter, because for a lot of guys out there, they may be teetering on the edge of "too little too late" with a woman, and the sooner they get this stuff sorted out internally, the better. And I owe it all to your book.
God bless, Tony L.
Colorado
>>>MY COMMENTS<<<
You have truly demonstrated the meaning of courage, of being secure, of what it means to be a MAN.
I think a crucial distinction for guys to understand is that when you did go back to her, and "begged", it was motivated not by needing her to love you back, but by you wanting her to not feel HURT by your actions, because you knew she was innocent.
Correct me if I'm wrong-- it's just an email away.
This was truly about GIVING and not draining or taking.
And you're right, there's nothing strong about needing to hide behind pick up lines, and about trying to make men insecure or about trying to make women feel terrible so that they will feel desperate and then maybe throw you some crumbs.
It's far more manly to be the guy who gives a woman the opportunity to JOIN HIS AWESOME WORLD where his emotions are so empowering and full of life, that she is INTOXICATED and addicted to it. This is far more attractive than having to be the guy who needs to pull out every weird manipulative move in a desperate attempt to squeeze into HER world.
In fact, you PROVED this when you went back to her, as it was about helping HER not about your NEEDINESS for anything. You couldn't live without setting things STRAIGHT. That's what the bigger fear was- it was NOT "not having her"-as you already DID that, you broke up with her.
By going in and ADMITTING your FAULTS, first to yourself, and then to HER, you actually are TRULY becoming that much BETTER, that much COOLER.
The key to becoming "The Man" is not to TELL yourself you're "the man" when you feel like you're not, it's to FACE THE FEAR of NOT being "The Man" HEAD ON- this will then DESTROY the fear.
Man, you can now be in for the GREATEST relationship of your life, because you've made a massive jump in self-discovery that will enable you to be so much cooler, so much more charismatic and fun, so much more MANLY, and so much more wise as well.
It sounds like she's quite the woman- congratulations. It also seems that she realizes how much strength it took for you to do what you have done, and she sees that the future looks bright indeed.
And by the way, regarding the "Get A Great Girl" material, definitely feel FREE to let her read it all, the stuff in these books is stuff you can be PROUD of, it's NOTHING to be ashamed of, as you can tell.
Of course, you don't have to, but if she saw the material, it would never cause a problem, it could only stir positive conversation. The truth is good stuff.
Once you have developed to MASTER level, you start to see EVERYTHING, you start to see where your own emotions are leading you on the wrong path, you start to see when a woman is really being good to you, when a woman is getting out her own issues on you and she is not a wise choice for a girlfriend, you start to see what a woman really means, and most of all, you see all this and you become super charismatic without needing ANY silly immature and insecure games.
You are able to have a great interaction with a woman, and escalate properly and build the perfect level of trust, all by being the new and natural YOU.
And thanks for the props on the book, I really did pour my soul into it for helping men to meet a great woman and to keep her long term as well.
>>>LETTER FROM A READER<<<
Hey Michael,
I've recently met a woman who works in the same company as me, but a different division. She seems to be one of those combo packages, brains, beauty, and classy, and I don't want to screw it up.
Here's my question- I'm supposed to meet her tonight for the second time. We were talking about movies yesterday and it led to us agreeing to go see a film. I wanted to show that I'm a cool guy, so I suggested Madonna's new movie, "Filth and Wisdom", even though I suspect it's not my thing, because I heard her talking about it with her friends.
>>>MY REPLY<<<
WHOAH!!! Rewind tape. Go back to beginning. No no no!
Okay, I'm being a bit hard on you, but I need to be. It's clear you haven't read much of my materials or newsletters or anything like that.
First of all, you NEVER do things "just to impress". Especially a woman that you just met and don't truly know. That should be foundation level stuff.
But MORE importantly, the reality is that this Madonna film sounds like EXACTLY the kind of trash that some people feel the need to pretend to LIKE in order to be "cool".
Kind of like how a lot of people think that if they are not promiscuous and not swearing every two seconds and not acting like some celebrity in rehab, they are not "cool." In fact, people like Madonna would like to say anyone who is not like her or Britney is "repressed".
We're living in crazy times, my friend. And that means women are often just as confused as MEN as to what are the values that are important. Sometimes, as men, we can even feel the pressure to pretend we like GARBAGE and GARBAGE morals and entertainment just so that we can seem "cool" to people.
Unfortunately, this just puts even MORE pressure on WOMEN to ALSO put on this game, all the while, the only reason that men and women are doing this is to impress each other, when they would REALLY be impressing each other if they just dropped the act and showed a lot more class and respect.
So, in other words, a woman needs YOU to show her that YOU have values, and that you stand for them. This is part of being THE MAN. Also, when a woman sees that YOU stand for the right things, it helps her to believe that morals are not dead, that they are alive and well, and it allows HER to also be open to YOU as well on how much SHE cherishes greater values than FILTH.
So be the MAN and calmly let her know that you'd rather see something with CLASS. (And no, it doesn't have to be a movie like Gladiator, even though that would be one of MY personal choices!)
And by the way, it just may be that she was NOT talking to her friends about the movie in a positive way.
Man, you REALLY need to IMMEDIATELY go here for the full scoop on this topic, there's no way I can do full justice to it in a column.
Your ultimate power rests in the power of GOOD, and it's already IN you, you just need to learn to UNLEASH it in it's most TRUE form, which has nothing to do with being a 'nice guy'.
It reminds me of a true event written by author Maxwell Maltz, of "Psycho Cybernetics" fame. Maltz was a plastic surgeon who ended up having MASSIVE contributions to the field of psychology.
He noticed that self-image and beliefs are stronger than the actual reality, i.e. once you believe something, then even any "real" evidence to the contrary of that belief will be ignored.
For example, he noticed that a woman that came in for plastic surgery for her nose felt that she had an ugly nose.
So even after trying to help the woman
overcome her own issues, she still wanted the
surgery, and even after she had the PERFECT
nose, she then said, looking in a mirror, that
"even though my nose is okay, I'm STILL ugly".
(I'm paraphrasing the comment.)
And one day a man who thought he had ugly fingers came in. The man insisted that his fingers were stubby, fat, and ugly. He was taunted about it as a child. And he didn't exactly have perfect parenting either, apparently his father told him that he wouldn't be good at much if it involved his hands.
This man wanted Maltz to give him plastic surgery to change his fingers. Maltz told him to go get a model toy boat kit and build it, and to come back when he finished it.
The man left and worked on this model toy boat for three weeks and then came back, completely CHANGED.
This man TRULY DID NOT BELIEVE that he could EVER do this. He was told, since childhood, that his fingers were too fat, clumsy, and stubby, and that he shouldn't even TRY.
And he BELIEVED this EVIL crap that was told to him.
But Maltz helped him SEE that it was actually NOT TRUE. And did far more to help him than ANY surgery ever could.
And he also told the man the truth, after, which was that no surgery existed for that condition anyway! (at least at that time)
Psychologists refer to this situation where we are conditioned to feel like are situation is hopeless, as "learned helplessness".
Mice that are put in experiments where they can touch different levers but get electric shocks no matter what, start to believe that they are HELPLESS- even when the levers are later changed and some of the levers DO shut off the electric shock, the mice no longer can even TRY. They BELIEVE their situation is HOPELESS.
It's quite a trip getting back to realizing your POWER, and this is part of my goal in helping good men all over this planet. And one step is realizing that you have been TOLD LIES about women by the very people who are supposed to be experts.
Lies about what women want, lies about what women deep down believe, lies about what women respect. As if all women were secretly looking to cheat with any good guy with some "player". As if women secretly LOVED players.
You have SO MUCH MORE POWER than you think, and it's ready to be unleashed when you are ready to BELIEVE in it.
The first step is getting rid of the crap lies. And doing that requires you to CHANGE your picture of women, DETAIL by DETAIL, and you must CHANGE your picture of yourself, of your ABILITY, of your FUTURE with a woman.
You have to make your picture in your mind of what you want MASSIVELY DETAILED AND CLEAR and you must go over and over it again and again. Repeat like crazy. Every day.
I'm not kidding, I want you to RIGHT NOW write down EXACTLY what kind of woman you want, and I want you to write down EXACTLY how you want to behave when you meet her. Go NUTS on the details, such as the expression on your face, the rhythm of your voice, maybe even the kinds of JOKES or humor you might use. Be EXACT, be DETAILED.
This stuff WORKS.
This is how you get EXACTLY what kind of woman you want, and how you bring out exactly what type of behavior you want and how to bring your woman into REALITY.
This is a challenge for all the guys reading this right now- do this and report back in two DAYS with your progress.
And regarding films, and what's cool, the reality by the way is that it's not the "old fashioned" generation, it's not the senior citizens that have made true-blue romance films like TITANIC the biggest box-office smash success of all time.
It wasn't NUNS that made the purely idealistic, pure love film "The NOTEBOOK" a huge hit, it was YOUNG WOMEN, the same group that the pick up artists say all are just a bunch of untrustworthy creatures who need to be manipulated in order to get them attracted to you.
So when good guys are afraid to show their goodness--well then, THAT is the real problem- women want good men who have CONVICTION in their value system, men who will lead the way to a good life with a solid moral foundation built on honesty and integrity, who are doing this not to impress women but because they truly believe in it.
And something tells me Madonna's film is going to actually be as popular as her other films. In other words, can you say "straight to video"?
And if you are reading this right now, and you are looking to meet a truly GREAT woman, then take action NOW.
I have written my most powerful strategies for getting a GREAT WOMAN in my new book, "Get A Great Girl: What The Dating Gurus Never Told You"
This book IS CRUCIAL if you want the kind of woman that ADDS to your life instead of taking away from it. This book is also the reason why the man in this newsletter is with the woman he loves now, instead of wishing of what "COULD" have been.
The material in this book is going to get you real tangible, quality results, and it will do it FASTER than ANYTHING else out there.
And it all comes with an iron-clad guarantee. Download it immediately here and get your life back on track.
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Cheers,
Michael
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