Get A Great Girl
Success with getting a true quality woman,
inside and out, requires that you destroy
any behaviors in you that are a form of
OVERCOMPENSATION.
Today, I want to share with you how a man has used the Get A Great Girl materials to change his LIFE in this way.
One crucial thing to keep in mind is that when you actually start to GET results, you will find that it comes from TRUE DEEP LEVEL change -- something far greater and deeper than learning superficial "lines" and "tactics."
Suddenly, you start to notice that you are getting incredible reactions and results from the highest quality women, without even TRYING. But to GET to this level, you have to get the knowledge, the insight, and the maturity first.
Here we go:
***LETTER FROM A READER***
Michael, it's a rare occasion when I decide to sit down and share how my life has changed because of some of your material.
When I was younger and inexperienced girls actually flocked to me...before they knew any better. I hit college bright-eyed and thinking the world was my oyster. Then I started getting rejection, after rejection, and then started looking in the wrong places and attracting girls that most would claim to be less than virtuous.
I developed an attitude that women were scandalous, indecisive game players. It was like they had all the control, and there was no such thing as a good woman left.
The one word that would sum up my behavior during this time is OVERCOMPENSATION.
I tried to act so cool that it seemed I wasn't even excited to talk to a nice girl. I held my cards so close to my chest that eventually they lost interest.
It was a vicious cycle. I found material of other "dating experts" that honestly caused me go into a downward spiral, but then I found yours.
There is so much to say, and not sure where to start, but one MAJOR thing I need to mention is that your material allowed me to relax, to stop pressuring myself, and I started to focus on having a good time and meeting new people. And at the drop of a hat girls really started noticing me.
I'm no longer getting blown off, at all. So now I can do the choosing. It's almost so simple that it makes me nauseated to look back at how incorrect my previous approach was.
Being masculine is just natural for a guy, but I was pushing it to ridiculous levels, and the women could smell it from a mile away.
Specific examples of what I learned: The best example is that I reached a point of desperation. Which women certainly smell on you like a foul odor.
After having my heart ripped to shreds a few times I decided to change my ways, so I read a few ebooks from different people about dating. They said, in so many words, to become Mr. Cool. I became a robot. Never showing emotion. I overcompensated for my own insecurities.
Every girl I approached could tell I was approaching her for a reason. There was awkwardness dripping off me. I was fearful in every approach, obviously because I just knew I was about to face another rejection.
I really hit rock bottom. I found your material and realized that I needed to work on myself first. Number one was to stop being so hard on myself. Number two was to learn how to have a good time and take as many people with me as possible. Trying to be the best, or funniest, or best looking, or smartest, is just plain BS.
I am who I am, and now I'm perfectly okay with that. It's not about what you say to a woman, within reason of course, but more about being sure of yourself and comfortable with yourself. Being open and honest, because THEN you gain the confidence to make eye contact and say things with conviction.
The greatest part of all is that my once huge EGO is now just a tiny voice. I don't approach women anymore, things just sort of happen. Single women are always scanning and they notice me and my friends having a great time, relaxed and free.
One specific example is at a wedding reception I got to the bar at the same time as one of the bride's maids and said "Paper, rock, scissors" to see who would get to order first. We've had several dates since then. She has never blown me off, and never will because I have hidden nothing from her.
She trusts me. When a woman trusts you it really opens up a whole other realm of connection that I never got to with women before, because in the past I was too busy hiding my feelings from them.
My attitude has become very positive and it radiates from me. I've noticed at work and among friends that people pay more attention to me when I speak and laugh more when I'm around. I no longer concentrate on the details of an encounter with a woman, I just let myself go, because honestly it's about NOT GIVING A F&#@ what anybody thinks about you, but not in an angry way, in a peaceful way.
I think I've rambled on enough michael. I apologize if I didn't give you enough details, but I honestly just changed my entire perspective, my entire paradigm of reality. It's not so important that the next girl I meet is the one I marry, or is my girlfriend because everyone else around me has one.
It's about meeting new people and enjoying the experience. You would be surprised how many people will give you the reassurance you need just by the look in their eyes when they are around you.
It's important to remember that we are all equals as humans, just because you are the new cool guy on the block doesn't make you any better than anyone else. Cocky is fake, cocky is crap, arrogant is just plain retarded. A woman wants to be loved by a real man who knows that it's just plain alright to be himself.
Thanks, J.M.
Louisiana
Michael Marks >>>MY COMMENTS<<<
Thank you for sharing your experiences in applying the materials- what I love best is how now you are truly CHANGED on a massive, DEEP level, a level that is truly YOU that has changed, so that everything you do now flows from who you have BECOME, and it all comes out PERFECT.
So you don't need lines, you don't need to fake, you don't need to do anything now. You have gone through the TRUE transformation.
And this makes you extremely RARE. And of course, this makes you more VALUABLE.
Women are even better than men at reading body language, and this ESPECIALLY applies to a quality woman who is on the lookout for a REAL MAN who has all the right personality traits as well.
This is backed up by evidence in a book called "The Definitive Book of Body Language" by Allan and Barbara Pease. One very revealing and interesting point stated inside the book is that women are much more perceptive about body language than men. He reasons that this is so because women have a much more heightened awareness about body language and facial expressions because it is a necessary skill for mothering.
Because infants obviously cannot speak, their mothers have to be able to read them to know whether they are happy, cranky, or in distress. The author goes on to state that this skill is inherent with women and is used also in general socializing situations as well, whereas men tend to be more oblivious to this skill.
So you can see just how MASSIVELY important it is that you are not a "player" who PRETENDS or "plays" that he is some type of person that he is really not, or who is anything other than an real man of strength, of integrity, of courage.
Human beings follow COURAGE, and women ESPECIALLY so.
And it takes courage to tell a woman how you feel, just as it takes courage to also stand up for what is the RIGHT thing to do, to calmly SHOW a woman the RIGHT way to behave, and it takes courage to WALK AWAY from the WRONG woman, no matter how tempting it might seem to be.
And yet, you MUST be this type of man, if you want to attract a woman of EQUAL courage, of equally strong character, of true integrity. She is TESTING you to see how much of a man you are in the most MEANINGFUL sense of the word-and this has nothing to do with learning cheesy lines, magic tricks, or "pick up artist" routines.
Learning how to have the right body language has nothing to do with learning "body language" moves, contrary to popular belief.
It has to do with the way you LIVE, the way you THINK, the way you FEEL. ONLY by doing it this way will your body language TRULY show that you are THE MAN in the greatest sense.
I also want to say a big thanks to Alex regarding this point- you know who you are!
And another thing she is testing for is to see how DEVELOPED you are in your ability to actually listen and understand another person-not just her but people in general.
It really is amazing how AWFUL most people's listening skills are- without even realizing it, most of us are not even properly HEARING other people's sentences, because we subconsciously allow our own biases to BLOCK out the words.
There is an incredible experiment where people in white shirts and black shirts are passing a basketball, and the group watching is told to watch for how many passes the white shirted people are making. Because they are so busy watching the white shirts, at least 50% of the people don't even NOTICE that a guy in a GORRILA suit is walking right AMONGST the people passing the ball!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Most people have no clue of how biased their perception is and how they have "tunnel vision". Now, factor in things like fear, and fear of being burned by a woman, and things like a bad experience with one or two women, and now imagine how MASSIVELY that will distort your communication with a woman, even if she is AWESOME.
And imagine now much that will cause you to REPEL just about all women, but ESPECIALLY the very best of women who have worked on this part of themselves and who realize how damaging this is to any future relationship!
Such a quality woman will have zero tolerance for this lack of communication skill.
I also want to quickly zero in on an important insight regarding that total destroyer of chemistry: OVERCOMPENSATION.
Yes, overcompensation is EXACTLY what most people and most guys tend to do for any insecurity, and the irony is that it actually INCREASES the chance that that very fear will come true, because overcompensation behavior tends to attack the other or to attack yourself:
So by not showing a woman any emotion, you are showing that you don't trust her, and she feels this, and now senses that therefore she shouldn't trust you either.
And if you overcompensate in the other direction, i.e. "kissing up" well then you are showing that you have no value, and you are delivering that message to your own mind and that makes you very insecure and that leads to you destroying your natural charisma. And that destroys your ability to generate humor, to be cool on every level.
In, fact, black and white thinking, which I describe in detail in my book, is a form of OVERCOMPENSATION.
In order to create SIMPLICITY and to protect ourselves from pain and risk, we come up with these crazy OVER-SIMPLIFICATIONS, that i.e. "all women are like this" or "all women are like that". "If you don't learn pick up artist tactics, then all women will abuse you and she will cheat with a pick up artist" which is a favorite FEAR TACTIC the pick up artist and "dating gurus" love to use on innocent men--of course, this FEAR that is bred into men by these supposed experts actually DESTROYS these men's charisma.
Black and white thinking is ALWAYS a sign that a person is OFF the right track. Real life is never black and white.
And in fact, a great woman will RECOGNIZE "black and white" thinking patterns in you if you are exhibiting them- whether they be black and white perspectives on religion, on women, on ANYTHING.
All this is a part of MATURITY and of having the courage to not need to hide under a psychological blanket of lies that pretends you can protect yourself if you just tell yourself "all women are the same" and thus supposedly avoid all risk.
In real life, there are all kinds of women,
and if you want to get a GREAT woman,
then you have to become a GREAT man,
and you have to be able to detect who is
a quality woman and who isn't.
And if you want to do that, then I suggest you get my "Get A Great Girl" book IMMEDIATELY.
This book will show you the things you need to know to actually GET a quality woman, and nothing less. And it will do all this by actually enriching who YOU are. It has nothing to do with changing women at all, it has nothing to do with learning "tactics" to get a woman to change - that never works.
It has to do with making you about a billion times more powerful in understanding her, in unleashing your natural charisma, in your ability to instantly get people to feel FANTASTIC in your presence. As the Man who wrote in says, it's about taking as many people WITH you psychologically UP to a fantastic place where the truth is, EVERY HUMAN WANTS TO BE.
And it's all here.
And I'll see you again here soon.
Best,
Michael
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