So what can a guy do to attract a great woman?
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The other thing to learn so that you can make sure a woman stays faithful is to learn how to control your emotions so that you don't fall prey to the horrific actions we do when feeling insecure or threatened.
So, for example, let's say you are feeling jealousy, or let's say you are feeling anxiety, and this feeling is making you want to either NOT approach a woman, or if it's a woman you already know, the feeling is making you want to accuse her of something that you don't really have evidence for.
Well, the SOLUTION is to learn to WEAKEN and OVERCOME the negative emotion.
The first thing MOST guys do when feeling a negative emotion is they ACT on it. This is because emotions FEEL like they are PROOF of something. We feel something, and then we tend to think that FEELING is a PROOF of something.
But it's NOT.
The way to get OVER an emotion is to FOCUS
on the actual fact that it is NOTHING but a
SENSATION generated in YOUR body.
It's does not necessarily reflect ANYTHING about the world outside of you, including the woman in front of you.
So, when feeling for example the emotion of anxiety, the first thing to do is to CHANGE the LABEL, the actual WORD from your mind. By calling something "anxiety" we give it a specific MEANING, i.e. "there's something genuine to feel anxious about".
Instead, focus on the actual SENSATION and describe THAT- and this description will replace the word "anxiety".
So, for example, you might say that what you are FEELING is "heart beating faster", and "muscles contracting in stomach", and a feeling of HEAT in your chest, etc, etc, etc.
And the COOLEST thing about all this is that it's actually FAR MORE ACCURATE than saying I feel "anxiety about women" or "jealousy" or whatever, because the reality is that you DON'T feel those things, those things are OPTIONAL labels that you associated with these physical sensations over TIME.
Over the years, you conditioned yourself to BELIEVE the associations were "real" and "natural" and accurate, but they AREN'T.
Now, once you do this, you will start to see MASSIVE internal change. It will start to open up a whole new reality about women that you never saw before, never believed before.
THIS is the kind of thing that actually
ENRICHES your personality and MAKES
you the kind of guy a great woman WANTS,
and the type of guy a great woman would
NEVER cheat on.
You see, a great woman wants a great guy, simple as that. Like attracts like. This kind of self-development puts you into that elite category of men.
And this is all just super LOW level detail here! In my book you will learn THE INSIDE IN DEPTH scoop on so much more, and that is NOT marketing hype- it's the damn honest TRUTH. This is the tip of the iceberg here.
I was about to end this newsletter right here, but then something ELSE just came in- the news about the new upcoming US President, and I couldn't help but see something VERY relevant that all men should learn when it comes to dating.
And by the way, let me make it clear that what I am about to say has NOTHING to do with personal beliefs about politics at all.
It's just about the power of not hiding under a "mask", i.e. about unleashing your full identity:
Obama was able to stand out as an INDIVIDUAL. Whether this was of his own design, or the result of brilliant strategists, the fact is he stood out as not only an individual, but also and individual who was not self-conscious.
Yet, he had a lot of things going against him as far as making him a typical candidate. Lack of experience. Not raised in America. Has a non-American parent. His race.
He could have psyched himself out and said, "A president has to be a so and so whose ancestors have been in this country for centuries. You have to have been a famous, high-profile politician for decades. I don't look like your typical image of US president. I don't have the life story of your typical US president. Nobody will go for me."
BUT... the truth is, because HE made this a non-issue with his total self-confidence, it really became a non-issue, even an ASSET in many ways.
The point is that many guys look at themselves and their lives and they immediately DISQUALIFY THEMSELVES saying that they don't fit the typical bill of a guy who is sought after by women.
It's YOU who make it an issue, whatever it is (not the right job, right age, right looks, right background, etc.)
Another thing is that he never showed desperation. Even when his back was against the wall when various attacks came out. He stayed calm and put everyone at ease.
When you are feeling pressure, i.e. you want to approach a woman and some guys are watching you or some guy says some remark, or even if you meet some woman who is testing you to see if you are really a guy with integrity or not, you can tense up and fear rejection, or you can just play it off as a non-issue.
Another interesting observation is that McCain and Palin's appearances on "Saturday Night Live" were self-mocking. When Obama was on, he did NOT agree to mock himself. The JOKE was that he was dressed as Obama for Halloween (wearing an Obama mask). In that skit, it was Bill and Hillary who were the butt of the joke. Obama played it straight and boring and most importantly conveyed a message that he just wants to BE HIMSELF.
In other words, HE didn't need to wear a MASK, figuratively OR literally, unlike all the guests around him who were all dressed up in outrageous crazy COSTUMES, trying to "fit in" with what was "cool".
So forget politics, because I hate politics. But as a study of human achievement I have to give it to him that he took self-confidence and self-respect to a whole new level.
It sounds like it should be simple, but in reality it's NOT. The proof is how RARELY we see it actually happen in real life, in any area, including how rarely men actually GET the kind of QUALITY woman they really want.
And I assure you, the better the woman is, the MORE she is attracted to this true level of internal development, it's instinctive. This level of attraction is REAL, this is not marketing nonsense and silly games promoted by the "how to SCORE with women" types.
The FANTASTIC NEWS though is that you can LEARN how to truly develop yourself on a deep level so that you can easily GET the kind of quality woman you want.
It's all up to you!
Cheers,
Michael
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