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Who do you think you are?
Who do you FEEL you are?
The most important thing to realize is the INVISIBLE yet INFINITELY INSANELY POWERFUL link between who you truly FEEL you are and your ability to attract the kind of woman you really want.
Who you FEEL you are is actually even MORE important than just thinking it academically.
Thinking is where it starts, but you
must FEEL it as well to get RESULTS.
I have seen this, time and again in my experience actually training and observing men over the years and taking them over the internal humps that are blocking their progress:
A man who feels he is NOT worth a woman he is interested in, will SABOTAGE his results so that even if the woman is THROWING herself at him, he will throw a wrench into the whole interaction to mess it up, or he will even EJECT himself out of the conversation.
I have seen this TIME AND AGAIN.
A guy will approach a woman and start a
conversation with her and it's actually going
WELL. The woman is listening, and she is
contributing to the conversation, she is even
smiling intently and giving compliments to
the guy. And the guy will then EJECT, thinking
to himself that he didn't do ENOUGH to get
her attracted, or that she was just being "nice"
or that the woman was secretly thinking
"I wish this guy would leave me alone".
Then, I have also seen the opposite:
I have seen men who have very LITTLE experience,
but they have SELF-ESTEEM oozing out their pores,
and they can't seem to FATHOM the concept of a
woman NOT actually liking them!!!
So even if a woman is being kind of cold and aloof, the guy just keeps on having a blast, joking around, thinking that whatever she is doing it can't possibly having anything to do with him- a perfect example of this was a woman at a bar who kept on telling this one guy that would never date him in a million years, to which the guy joked back:
"So I guess you want to get straight to sleeping with me without even dating!" --
And her eyes almost popped out of her head - as she turned back to him and started to giggle. She was so impressed with this man GONADS that within a few moments she was apologizing and saying that she was sorry for being nasty and pretty soon they were in a deep conversation where he left with more than just her number- she became his girlfriend.
It's even more powerful than that- if you truly love yourself, you won't stop until you get what you want, no matter how many tries it takes.
The reality is that the most successful people in any endeavor fail more than they succeed - the best businessmen, the best salespeople, the best baseball players do NOT score "home runs" every time they are up to bat, the best soccer players don't get every shot IN the net, and they certainly practice "failing" a LOT.
And not only that, to get good at anything, you have to practice by "failing" a LOT. Failing is just one step closer to succeeding. But not GOING for it is TRULY the way to fail, PERMANENTLY.
There is ANOTHER step to unleashing your FULL SELF-ESTEEM.
You have to start LETTING GO of your addiction to being validated by others.
Sure, it's nice to get the validation of others, but you must learn to NOT NEED IT, especially when their opinions may be horrifically WRONG!!!!!!!!!
The pick up artists and dating gurus used to
have me brainwashed with their VENOM
and their lies:
"Every woman is easy bait for the pick up
artists, and she will CHEAT on you if you
don't learn how to CONTROL her MIND
and her emotions."
Now, imagine you have experienced a lot of pain with women, maybe rejection, maybe a woman has cheated on you, or maybe you just think all this happened, and then you encounter these types of lies spread by the pick up artists and supposed "dating gurus"- you start to treat their word as the word of GOD.
But let's think about it HONESTLY:
The TRUTH is that if you even BELIEVE
that all women need to be controlled or
picked up by using things like "pick up lines"
or by using abusive tactics such as "slamming
their self-esteem" with negative tactics, then
the reality is that you are not being consistent
AT ALL with the belief that YOU have value.
If you believe that YOU have value, and if you LOVE YOURSELF, you would find it DISGUSTING to have to have to HIDE YOURSELF behind a series of lies and tactics to slam a woman's self-esteem, and would even find it disgusting to have to fake off in any way, including being an ass-kisser as well. Both the idea of being controlling and nasty OR the idea of being an ass-kisser to women, they BOTH are equally INCONSISTENT with a man who loves HIMSELF as he IS.
And the beauty of all this is that when you DO have self-esteem oozing out of your pores, you acquire a CHARISMATIC presence, it shows in the warmth in your voice- a warmth that is not the product of weakness, but the product of STRENGTH. And a woman can tell the difference IMMEDIATELY.
LOVE YOURSELF.
You have to be your own BEST FRIEND.
It's amazing how we beat ourselves up for no reason at all, and how we always make ourselves row the boat UPSTREAM when we can actually make it SO MUCH EASIER and in fact get a WAY MORE POWERFUL result by going with the flow.
You were not sent to this earth to suffer, and the way to get results starts with YOU loving yourself, and you will find that this guides you brilliantly.
Sure, you will have all kinds of weak, insecure people around you telling you all sorts of lies about women, that all women are evil, or that all women are crazy, or that women can never be trusted, or that women can only be made attracted to you if you use "tricks" or press the right "buttons" on them- but the person you need to "push buttons" on is yourself, to get you to start LOVING YOURSELF to the point that others opinions don't affect you, and to the point they can't prey on any insecurity you have, because you will not have the insecurities anymore!
And you wouldn't even need to push buttons on yourself, the problem is that for MANY YEARS your buttons have been pushed to the point your own beliefs about yourself have been warped and distorted and made weak and insecure.
So NOW, it's time to get your own programming BACK in order by pushing the right buttons to RESET your original wiring back to perfect way it was already at the START, before it got distorted by outside forces.
And one way to get rid of your insecurities is to start WRITING THEM DOWN and looking at them over and over again until you realize what total B.S. THEY ARE!!!
On my forum a VERY COOL GUY is already doing this and getting other men to do this - (Get A Great Girl Forum) This ultimately leads to you being DESENSITIZED to your fears.
It's like watching a scary movie a dozen times, it starts to get BORING.
The truth is that once you get rid of your fears, it's VERY EASY to start loving yourself, and it's very easy to then SPREAD FANTASTIC "VIBES" to women as well.
One of the greatest steps in my own development was when I finally saw how all the pick up artist advice with their tactics on using negative tactics to slam a woman's self-esteem with sugar coated insults, or the tactics designed to force physical contact was all based on FEAR.
Once I let go of all that, I realized how I was my own worst enemy, because these fear-based patterns would SABOTAGE my interactions, I would see problems where they didn't exist-after all, if women required to be manipulated, that meant that they can't be trusted to be attracted all by themselves - so of course I would see all kinds of "suspicious" behaviors in a woman no matter what she did, when really she was acting innocently.
You can see where all this type of thinking would lead and how it would result in nasty vibes between a woman and a man.
When you "tease" a woman you must only do this from a standpoint of WARMTH, there must be no way that she could interpret your tease as TRUE. The point is not to make her feel bad, but to make her feel that she can relax with you and not be formal, plus when you are playful like this you are telling your OWN mind that you have license to not be so serious or scared with her.
The truth is that it's not even the TEASE
that is the key, it's the MINDSET behind
it, a mindset that says:
I LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL ENJOY
LIFE, AND THAT INCLUDES WITH
THE WAY I TALK TO A WOMAN
I AM INTERESTED IN.
The wonderful thing about this attitude is that it also LIBERATES a woman from having to live in a low-self-esteem society that thinks it can't be happy unless it is a rock star or a Hollywood star or a billionaire.
(Which is ironic, because so many of these celebrity "heroes" are desperately miserable, addicted to substances, and can't seem to find inner peace or a relationship that works).
It's time to LET GO OF THE CONDITIONS you have attached to your ability to feel awesome, and the only way you will be able to do that is to stop feeding your mind the lies from the media and from people you might know that spew their own insecurities out on you and anyone else they know.
And don't think that this slave to the opinions of others is something that only happens to some people - in fact, most of the people that join insane CULTS are very educated, they simply didn't have enough EMOTIONAL intelligence to be strong enough to resist the opinions of those who promised them the solution to their emotional pain. The real solution was and always is INTERNAL.
You will always rise to the level you think you BELONG at. If you feel that no woman will ever want you unless you LIE to her and use TRICKS on her, you will NEVER get a woman who IS honest and beautiful and intelligent, because you will think she is tricking you and you will reject her, or you will do the things that push her AWAY.
You will CREATE the reality you believe YOU are in. So if you feel the best you can get is dishonest women, then that is exactly what you will get. Any HONEST woman who meets a man who thinks that all women are dishonest will flee from such a man, because she doesn't want to be abused by him!
And this is just scratching the SURFACE of how DEEP the impact of your beliefs are on your results with women and in fact on EVERYTHING in your life.
There is one final point I want to leave you with regarding how to get the infinite level of self-esteem you must have to be your best and to get the best woman possible:
Your self-esteem is the result of living in harmony with your OWN values.
Only when you BREAK your OWN values, will you batter and ruin your self-esteem.
So I urge you to write down right NOW what your top values are- they might be things like creativity, health, spirituality, honesty, learning, family, friendship, etc.
Most people never even consciously think about what their top value are. Once you do this, ask yourself, are your everyday actions consistent with your top values? Are you doing the things that are promoting your top values? Are you doing things that go AGAINST your top values?
Now, start being CONSISTENT AND CONGRUENT with those values, and notice what this does almost IMMEDIATELY to your self-esteem. And notice how this affects the way you talk to women, how it affects even your sense of calm, your sense of humor, your wit, your voice tonality, and so much more.
By the way, you attract what you ARE, so guess what happens when you do this? You got it- you get a woman who values these things just as intensely.
What you have read, as powerful as it is,
is just a GLIMPSE into a whole new universe.
And if you would like to get the FULL
PICTURE on how to become the kind of
man that a fantastic woman REALLY wants,
then I suggest you download my special book,
'Get A Great Girl,' NOW. It's
here.
This book will show you the deepest attraction secrets that 99% of men will never even dream actually EXIST. Inside this book, you will find out all the pieces of the puzzle so you will know what to do at every step along the way, from approaching women and knowing which women are truly the quality ones inside and out, to keeping a woman attracted long term as well.
And I'll see you again here soon.
Best,
Michael Marks
Guys can find out more about "Get A Great Girl" here.
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