 DATING TIP: How To
Flirt With Women
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I want to talk
about the concept of "flirting", and why it's SO important that you
understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.
To begin with, most men don't know how to flirt.
At all.
Of course, all women know what flirting is, and they respond VERY
differently to flirting communication than they do to typical social
communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin conversations
with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you. If you DON'T
understand how flirting and sexual tension work, then success with women is
going to remain far from you. I'm going to suggest that you learn how to
flirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with
women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing. Remember when you were a kid and you used to
"play fight" with your friends? What's the difference between "play"
wrestling and "real" wrestling? And how do you know the difference when it's
happening... when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on you
and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and other animals, by
the way) when someone is "playing" and when they're serious. Flirting is
similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say "Hi, you're very pretty. You
probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT
flirting. On the other hand, if you say "Hi, I realize that you're probably
shy because you get no attention from men... so I thought I'd come over here
and pay attention to you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious.
This is flirting.
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or trying to be "cute".
One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, ultra- concentrated way of flirting and
creating sexual tension with a specific kind of humor. It's so funny to me
how some guys write in because they "can't see themselves being Cocky &
Funny around women"... because they don't want to come across as "jerks".
This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me that these guys JUST
DON'T GET IT. So let me explain this whole thing a different way...
If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond to you
RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and
ATTRACTION. When you know how to incorporate flirting in a Cocky & Funny
way, which is really a form of "adult verbal play", you tune in to a certain
frequency in a woman's mind, and cause her to go into a very special kind of
emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get it". In other words, you
have to actually get out there and practice so you get a "feel" for how it
works. I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute line or technique
and a woman responds by either directly saying or giving that look that says
"You're a loser."
Instead of just realizing that they need more practice or that the woman
might have just been in a bad mood or even one of those horrible "I don't
have a sense of humor" cases, they take it personally and decide to just
have it mean that they're a failure. But take my word for it... once you
learn how to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of "adult
play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you.
Here are examples of some of one of my favorite topics to "riff on" when
flirting... the topic of getting married and us being in a relationship...
and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample dialogue. Keep in mind, I
might have a conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five
minutes earlier...
OK, let's say I'm talking to a girl and she starts asking me what I do for a
living.
I might say "What, you don't have a job? And you're already trying to figure
out if I can support you?".
Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"
Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for
Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with
money."
Her: <Laughter> "OK, that sounds like a plan"
Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on
your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an
eye on the TV and such."
Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."
Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going
to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money."
Her: <Laughter> "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your girlfriend."
Me: "That's all the more reason."
...do you get what's going on here?
I'm taking a normal conversation
topic (her job and income) and redirecting the conversation in a
flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by
suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting me,
etc.). If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as
a sign that you need to get out and practice more.
Try it on a waitress or two.
When you ask for something and
she says "I'm sorry, we don't have that", just say "OK, this relationship
isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up with you." In fact, you
can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where she's saying
something that you don't like, and it's funny.
When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're
initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than most men initiate. And as
soon as the woman you're talking to "engages" you in this kind of dialogue,
THE GAME IS ON.
There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways you can be Cocky &
Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.
If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the
same... only exaggerate it. If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down
at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as
if you just had a major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling and
nodding your head as if you just realized that she wants you. This is a
powerful combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in
her touching you.
There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying
to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR
INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN. It will set off all of your conversations with
women on the right foot, and start a dialogue that creates sexual tension
and ATTRACTION. If you DON'T learn how to communicate with women like this
you'll have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations that NEVER lead to sexual tension
and ATTRACTION.
Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're flirting with them or not.
If you are, and you're doing it in a subtle, charming way, you'll get
amazing responses. One of the keys to flirting and creating ATTRACTION
effectively is projecting confidence and indifference both in your voice
tone and body language as you do it. Another key is projecting an
understanding of how male/female ATTRACTION works to the women that you're
flirting with.
And what's the best way to learn these two things?
You guessed it, my Advanced Dating Techniques program. A big part of success
with women is getting your "inner game" together. I'm talking about all
those little things from understanding how to overcome fear and shyness, to
understanding how and why women are attracted to men... and how to TRIGGER
that ATTRACTION anytime you want.
I explain the most important beliefs to project, and exactly how to project
them so the woman you're talking to senses INSTANTLY and at an UNCONSCIOUS
level that you know how to communicate on many levels with her... all
through body language, voice tone, and words.
Of course, I also teach many, many ways to tease, use Cocky & Funny, and
flirt with women... including all of my personal favorites. One great
benefit of listening to the audio series is that you can ACTUALLY HEAR ME
LIVE teaching how I communicate. As you can imagine, this is basically
priceless.
And if you haven't downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you
need to do that right now. Inside I teach you many of my very favorite
flirting techniques, and give a detailed explanation of my Cocky & Funny
technique. You can go and download it here:
www.doubleyourdating.com
- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
P.S. As you can probably imagine, I get a TON of email... So if you'd like
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specifics... because this helps other guys to see what's working in
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