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Simon Heong,
Author:
"How To Create Instant Attraction With ANY Woman"
"If you want to be
truly successful with women, you've got to learn ways to
create instant attraction
with women"
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If you're tired of not getting the girl, you might want to take a look
at how you're speaking to women and just what it is you're saying to
them.
Your looks are only going to get you so far and since first impressions
are everything, your conversational skills will be the determining
factor in whether or not a woman agrees to go on a date with you.
If you've ever wondered why women keep telling you no, the following
article will shed some light on the common flirting mistakes you have
been making and how you can avoid them from now on.
Mistake #1: Talking 'serious' around women
Chances are you didn't catch her eye by being Mister Serious. You were
probably laughing and joking around (in other words, being yourself)
with your friends. But, when you walk up to her, you think she wants to
see that you are composed, sophisticated, and you can carry a mature
conversation.
Solution -- Be yourself. Don't be afraid to open with a crazy question
that one of your friends just asked you. If she laughs, you're in. You
don't need to walk up to her and pretend that you have it 'together.'
Don't try to be something you are not -- most women can see right
through it.
Mistake #2: Asking boring questions
So, what do you do for work?
Yawn.
If you want to shoot down your chance of moving past the handshake, then
keep firing off the 'Top 20 Small Talk Questions to Ask When Meeting
Someone New.'
It works at Christmas parties and church picnics, but not when you are
trying to get the phone number of the hottie in the coffee shop.
Solution -- Ask questions that demand more than a one-word or one
sentence answer. Ask questions that might reveal something about that
person. Ask questions that challenge (but certainly not insult) a
person.
That is how REAL conversation is started.
Mistake #3: Communicating too directly
"I'll call you tomorrow around lunch time..."
STOP, what you are doing, and leave a little bit to the imagination.
Telling her every little thing takes the game out of it -- for both of
you.
Men constantly give away too much when they talk to women, and it works
to their disadvantage. Provide too much information, and it might just
be more than she wants to hear.
Solution -- Listen more, talk less. Don't give away the details.
Women are naturally attracted to the chase, so you might as well give it
to her. They cannot resist wondering... "When is he going to call... Is
he going to call... ??"
Mistake #4: Letting the conversation drag
Whoa!
This is one of the most commonly committed errors by men -- talking too
long and trying desperately to keep this hot chick in front of you for
as long as possible.
Until, of course, the conversation starts to lag and you find yourself
toeing the floor in front of you, repeating things that were funny at
the beginning of the conversation, and then finally the dreaded 10
seconds of silence before saying... OK, well I'll give you a call.
You know what I am talking about.
Solution -- When you get to the peak of a conversation, leave. I don't
mean just walk away in mid-sentence, but while both of you are talking
and laughing, just casually look at your watch and say something like,
"Oh, sorry... I've got to meet a friend in about 10 minutes..."
Note: Leave with phone number in hand (or at least make sure she has
yours).
Mistake #5: Sucking up too much
You're so pretty. I love your smile.
Awwww... that's so nice, but she doesn't give a damn. Interestingly,
most women (especially the super-attractive ones) react more favorably
to teasing rather than sucking up.
Sucking up doesn't give you the backbone, and certainly doesn't exude
the confidence you need to land the girl.
Solution -- Get a backbone and make this girl realize that she isn't
going to bowl you over with looks alone.
Stick out your tongue, or comment on something in her teeth. You give
the impression that your standards might just be a little higher than
hers... she'll be intrigued to say the least... and she won't exactly
know why.
If you haven't already noticed, the stuff you're learning here is
directly the OPPOSITE of what you see, listen and learn anywhere else;
be it in the media, the dating advice portals, what your moms, pops and
your friends tell you.
Yes, I don't deny those 'advice' that you get outside works...
it DID work... 20 YEARS AGO.
It's now the new millenium and the dating scene has evolved
DRAMATICALLY... people change... WOMEN change and what they look for in
a man changes too.
Now, if you don't 'keep up' with the times, and if you still don't
understand the process of how to make women feel tingly, magical
feelings of 'attraction' for you, including the mistakes you must AVOID
doing, then *surprise* *surprise* -- you're not going to be very
successful at it.
On the other hand, if you're sick and tired of being blown off, rejected
and passed off by women around you and want to TRANSFORM yourself to BE
the type of man women dreamed of having ALL THEIR LIVES, download this:
www.instantattractionprogram.com
Join the:
Instant Attraction Secrets newsletter
for your free 10 part Instant Attraction email course
[About
the Author]: Simon Heong is the publisher of the Dating & Seduction
Online Best Seller, the "Instant Attraction Program" -- the community's
MOST COMPREHENSIVE program revealing the most intimate secrets on female
attraction techniques and dating strategies.
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Copyright (c) 2007 Simon Heong All rights reserved.
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