Falling In Love Over The Internet

Chapter 1: Love, Relationships, and the Internet

Love! The word itself transcribes different meanings to different people. All situations have their basis within each individual, and as such, I feel it is probably impossible to truly define any experience, especially one as deep, and true as love. I feel that love is a journey and not a destination. It is continual, and not static. Love may have many components such as respect, appreciation, admiration, abundance, forgiveness, caring, understanding, communication, and compassion. And then there is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. It also does not end there. There seems to be different kinds and levels of love: nurturing love; addictive love; romantic love; friendship; passionate love; compassionate love; fatuous love; in fatuous love; even empty love, just to name a few. In addition we can love many people and all for different reasons. No wonder most of us are confused about love. How then can we define real true love?

For example, I had a close friend whom I met on the Internet, and have since lost contact with her. Her name is Darlene. She lives in Canada. We loved each other to the core of our bones, and yet had no romantic affiliation towards each other. Our friendship had gone to the depths of being able to know what each is thinking and feeling without a word being said, and being thousands of miles apart. We also many times wrote the same things at the same time. Conversely and similarly, Deb and I knew what we were thinking and feeling without the need for words, and there was deep romantic attraction towards each other to the point that we physically became lovers. Alla and I still sense each others vibes after knowing each other for over 12 months.

So much has been written and spoken about love. An almost endless number of songs have been sung about it. Let’s see if we can explain it and then see how it relates to the Internet.

In some personal development and metaphysical literature, it mentions that we are composed of four main bodies, or levels of consciousness. They are, ranging from higher to lower levels: Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, and Physical. In many goal setting workshops, it specifies to think and feel your desires, as if already here on the physical plane. More and more books are beginning to include the spiritual body by using meditation to attract our desires into our lives.

Most people tend to believe that love is an emotion. They say, “I feel love for him/her,” and inherently they are correct.

On a contrary note, Unconditional Love, which as its name suggests, Unconditional, does not refer to emotion.

Please let me explain….

Emotions are partly derived from our thoughts, which is higher up the scale in the 4 Levels of Consciousness. Therefore Unconditional Love cannot be manifested from the Emotional body. Our thoughts are usually too rapid and sporadic for Unconditional Love to exist, and with our thoughts, come judgements, composed of our personal expectations and standards. In that case, Unconditional Love cannot live in our thoughts. So what is, and where does Unconditional Love stem from? Before we answer this questions, I’d like to ask you…. who generally teaches us about Unconditional Love? We sure don’t learn about it at school, nor do most parents teach it. As we begin to question who teaches us about Unconditional Love, is it usually not our Spiritual or Religious teachers? Relax folks, I’m not going into religion here, as I personally am not a religious person.

For those of us who have chosen to seek a more spiritual path, and have read books on the topic, do they not all teach about Unconditional Love? Why then, if it is an emotional experience? Because it is not. The vast majority of books that talk about Unconditional Love also share and teach about meditation, which is quieting and stilling the mind, which opens up the spiritual aspect of us. Meditation though, is not necessarily a precursor to activate Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love is not a warm fuzzy feeling when you think of your mate. It goes above all that. If you have ever spoken with a spiritually aware person, you may have found out that one of the essences’ of Unconditional Love is white light. And since when is colour an emotion? I am not saying colour doesn’t influence our emotions, because it does. What I am getting at is that pure Unconditional Love comes from and resides in our Spiritual body, and we can access it during times of meditation, where we still our minds, open our hearts, and relax our physical body.

Even in the teachings of Huna, which is the old Hawaiian school of philosophy and of healing, dating back at least 3000 years, says that we have a conscious mind, an unconscious mind, and a higher conscious mind (spirit). They also are known to have said….

‘You came from the light. You are the light, and you shall return to the light.’

 

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In addition, the very well known Dr Leo Buscaglia stated that to love is not necessarily a natural thing, and that most of us need to learn how to
love.

If love was all so natural, why would all the spiritual masters teach and preach it, and ask us to practice it?

Let’s have a quick look at the differences in attitudes and behaviour that occur when we come from a place of unconditional love, compared to coming from fear. If you have read my Interview, you may recall that one of the things I warned people to be on the lookout for in someone is their base emotional driving force and that if it is fear, to look for someone else. Table 1, below, explains the outcomes quite clearly.

Table 1: Love/Fear (source: unknown)

Now I’m going to be contradictory, for simplicity of this book. For the remainder of this book, I shall refer to Love as an emotion, purely because that’s how most of us describe its experience as being.

Continued in next article….

Ernie Rohrbacher MASC (NLP)

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