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Stop Divorce and Save Your Relationship

Does your relationship deserve another try? Do you?

If you want to stop your divorce from happening, you have to convince the person what wants to divorce you to give the relationship another try for happiness.

The Magic of Making Up ebookThis isn’t always possible, but it’s absolutely necessary if you have a chance of stopping your divorce or break-up.

A divorce can be stopped at virtually any stage—before it’s filed or just before it needs the final paperwork. The earlier you stop a divorce, the more likely it is that the divorce won’t be restarted, at least for a while as you get your relationship back on track.

So to stop a divorce, you must convince the person to give the relationship another chance.

If you have been begging and pleading the other person to give you another try or pleading for them to get back together with you, stop doing that now. You are really pushing them farther away from you.

This might seem counterproductive, as if now that the person has less resistance it will make it easier for them to divorce you. But your pleading probably wasn’t doing anything but convincing them that divorce is a good idea anyway. Who wants to be around someone who is behaving in that manner?

If you can start behaving more mature and acting in a more pleasant manner, it might surprise the other person that you have this side to your behavior and help stop divorce. You need to explain, in a calm way, to him/her that you really don’t want the divorce and you want another chance. The person already knows this so you screaming or carrying on won’t help your chances. Just make it clear that you’re hurt and you're very sad, and you really do want another chance. You'll likely be surprised how the other person reacts once your change in behavior is noticed.

You can also show the previously hidden mature side of yourself that the other person might not have seen over the last several weeks and have the opportunity to suggest marital or couples counseling to forestall the divorce going forward. Counseling has worked for million of couples and your relationship could benefit from it, too. If you can get the other person to agree to couples counseling, then you have precious time before they file for or attempt to finalize the divorce to convince them to give you and the relationship another chance.

During counseling you’ll have the opportunity to show the person why they fell in love with you. You can remind them why you’re together in the first place. And if you can show honest effort in wanting to deal with the problems that come up during the counseling—and many issues will likely be discussed—that might be enough to convince the other person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but permanently.

When you succeed to stop the divorce, you must remember that the person was about to divorce you and it would be easy enough for them to change his or her mind and file for divorce later on.

Having already thought about divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to file for divorce at one time makes the decision to file again easier.

So be aware of the state of your relationship, and perhaps continue counseling. It’s easier to stop divorce temporarily and have a good relationship for the long term when your problems are identified and dealt with.

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