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OK, so GET THIS...
I'm reading through some the bazillion emails I get every week, and I come
across one of the best emails that I've read in a LONG time. Are you ready
for the interesting part? It's from a MARRIED GUY. Yep, you read that right.
He's married. He reads the newsletters and uses the things he learns to
improve his marriage. Go figure.
This guy was able to explain in a few paragraphs a concept and technique
that I personally use, but have been unable to actually explain and
verbalize well. I wish I would have written what you're about to read, but I
didn't (But I'm still a cool guy because I wrote what came before and after
it). Check this out...
***Conversation Technique***
Dave,
I'm still having great success with a rekindled marriage using you're Tips
on my wife. Thanks a million. Listen, I keep reading over and over in the
MailBags guys wanting to know how to start, then keep a conversation going
with women. I work for a major oil company and have been through many of
there training courses on dealing with people. One particularly interesting
course was on "Information Seeking". For this we first practiced picking up
on "Key words or phrases" the subject said. For instance, I'll try and give
an example using c&f even though you wouldn't use this professionally on the
job. Lets say you see this great looking chick on the street and you tell
her, "That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a
shower curtain?" She says," Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly.
You know, the big store over at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you like
going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your
girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress
is very popular I'll have you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat
dressers" and "dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are neat
dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the
shower curtain clothing business..." I know, this is a lame example but the
lessons are this.
1) You start a conversation with however you want then pick out key words or
phrases from what the person says.
2) You repeat them in what you say then listen for new key words in there
next response.
3) You add a little something new into the conversation REPEATING there
words you're using as Key words or
phrases. This tells them you're listening, even though you're turning things
around to be c/f in this situation.
Once we learned to keep someone
talking for 5 minutes, then 15 minutes the company actually hired total
strangers from a job soliciting company to come and be our subjects. While
being videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for
30 minutes. One important note: If a person brings up something personal or
whatever, they wouldn't have mentioned it if they didn't want to talk about
it. These are great to Key in on. My subject mentioned she was going through
a divorce and her exhusband was a total jerk. I keyed in on this and it's
amazing what a total stranger will tell you once you build a little rapport.
When watching the video you pick up on mistakes or you see something
different you could have said. You also pick up on Key words and phases you
missed. It just takes a little practice. This is just one example of how you
can start a conversation and keep it going. Hopefully it can be of help to
you're readers.
JTM
Texas
David D. >>>MY COMMENTS:
Awesome.
This is an EXCELLENT description of how to keep a conversation going, keep
it interesting and unpredictable, and talk about ANYTHING and have it be
fun.
Read it again.
Now let me sprinkle a little magic dust on this, and tell you how I use this
technique personally.
When I'm having a conversation with a woman, I'm not just listening for ANY
key word... I'm listening for a particular KIND of key word (or words).
I'm always on the alert for any words or phrases that can be twisted, turned
around, misinterpreted, and misconstrued (is that a word?) in one of a few
particular ways...
...namely in a way that says she stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed, or acting
suspicious.
For instance, in your example above you suggested the following:
"That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a
shower curtain?" She says," Your mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy
store." Key Words: Old Navy. "Oh, so you're in the Navy, huh?" "No silly.
You know, the big store over at the Mall." Key word: Mall. "Oh, so you like
going to the Mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? Do your
girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress
is very popular I'll have you know!" Key phrases: "girlfriends are neat
dressers" and "dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are neat
dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the
shower curtain clothing business..."
Good. Nice one.
Now, let's dial it up a little bit...
She says "No, I bought this from the Old Navy store..."
Instead of just keying into "Navy" and saying "Oh, so you're in the navy,
huh?", why not take it to the next step and actually MAKE FUN of her.
"Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the Navy a long time ago... in the
OLD Navy?"
Now you're BUSTING on her as well, AND it's funny. She says "No silly. you
know, the big store over at the Mall." You might try "What kind of MALL are
YOU shopping at? And do your girlfriends buy dresses like that one too?"
Again, you're hinting that she has funky taste and she shops in weird
places. She says "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress
is very popular I'll have you know!"
You could go with "Oh, you have girlfriends? You have more than one? Do they
all know that you think of them as a girlfriend? Or is one of them the
special one? By the way, if you have cute girlfriends, then I think you and
I are going to get along VERY well."
...are you with me here?
What I'm doing is NOT ONLY looking for key words to latch onto, but I'm ALSO
looking for ways to spin them to make fun, tease, and subtly suggest various
kinds of "racy" topics.
When done in a funny way, it's magic. Once upon a time, a guy I know very
well went into a nightclub. He was talking to a girl at that club for
awhile, when she said "Well, I'm getting tired. I think it's time for me to
go home." The guy answered "Go HOME?! I just met you. I'm not going HOME
with you!"
She said "No, I mean I'M going home. I'm tired."
He shot back "Maybe you don't hear me. I'm not going home with you, so don't
even ask anymore."
She said "No, that's not what I'm saying..."
He replied "And besides, I'm sure my place is nicer than yours... so if
anything, you're coming home with ME."
This went on and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it, she went
home with him.
I saw it happen with my own two eyes.
Another off-the-wall (but pretty funny) example of this is a story that a
good friend of mine told me about one of his friends. His friend was talking
to a girl at a club, and she was talking about what kinds of things she
enjoyed doing with her spare time.
She said "...I like to go clubbing..."
He came back with "Oh, like baby seals?"
lol... Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it's damn
funny. Love it.
This technique is GREAT for keeping a conversation fresh, fun,
unpredictable, and FUNNY (if you know how to do it just right).
Use it.
Right now you're probably thinking to yourself:
"Wow, that's really great. I sure wish there was a resource available that
could show me hundreds of great ideas like that... so I could know exactly
what to do from when I first meet a woman to the first date... all the way
up until we get physical and beyond..."
Guess what?
It's right here:
www.doubleyourdating.com
...and it's absolutely JAM
PACKED with so many great, interesting, and useful ideas for meeting and
dating more women, you'll be shaking your head when you're listening to it.
Guaranteed.
...and if you haven't downloaded your copy of my online eBook "Double Your
Dating", then maybe I haven't mentioned it enough times. You can download it
and be reading it in literally MINUTES from right now. Go get it:
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- just follow the 'ebook' link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
SuccessStories@doubleyourdating.com
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